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Curious what people think. Dating apps, social media, confidence, expectations — what do you think is the biggest mistake men are making right now?

The dating world changed.
Years ago, most advice focused on pickup lines, routines, and “getting women.”
Today, guys are dealing with something very different:
• Dating apps replacing real-life interactions • Endless options and comparison culture • Social isolation • Confusion around masculinity and confidence • Feeling like everyone else got the instruction manual except them
Cliff's List has been around a long time. We’ve interviewed many of the biggest names in the space over the years.
But if we're relaunching, we’re not interested in recycling old-school pickup advice.
The goal now is simple:
Help guys build a life, mindset, and social skills that actually work in the world as it exists today.
Question:
What do you think is the biggest dating problem men are facing right now?

Most guys think attraction starts when they walk over and say something.

Many women decide whether they're interested long before that moment.

The problem is that most men completely miss the signals.

What signs do you think guys miss most?

A lot of men think:

"If she's interested, it'll happen naturally."

Sometimes.

But a lot of interactions die for a different reason.

Nobody moved them forward.

Not because the guy wasn't attractive.

Not because he lacked confidence.

Not because he said the wrong thing.

The interaction simply stayed in neutral.

A lot of men don't need better lines.

They need to recognize when it's time to change gears.

If you’ve been dealing with this for a long time and feel like nothing has really worked, you don’t have to keep trying to figure it out on your own.

A lot of guys stay stuck for years not because they aren’t trying, but because they never had the right guidance for their specific situation.

This isn’t something that usually fixes itself.

It also doesn’t mean it can’t change.

If you want to talk about your situation, send a message.

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A lot of dating advice is aimed at guys who are already close.

They’re already meeting women, already getting some level of interest, and just need to make a few small adjustments.

But that’s not the situation a lot of men are in.

Some men have deeper issues that were shaped years earlier — lack of experience, hesitation, overthinking, not knowing how to carry interactions naturally.

That’s why “just be confident” or “just put yourself out there” doesn’t really change anything.

The problem isn’t effort.

It’s that certain things never developed in a way that works — and those don’t fix themselves.

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If your experience with women and relationships hasn’t been anywhere near what you would have liked it to be, you are not the only one.

A lot of men end up feeling stuck for years and don’t really understand why nothing changes.

Usually it’s not just confidence, looks, or money.

A lot of this gets shaped much earlier — how you think, how you react, how you come across in social situations, especially with women.

If that never developed in a way that works, it doesn’t just fix itself.

That doesn’t mean nothing can change — but it usually takes more than surface-level advice.

That’s what we focus on.

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