Heart & Mind Coaching, by Alexandra Ayotte

Today I want to talk about knowing when it is time to STOP FIGHTING with what is not working out in our life anymore.
-- Stop fighting to save this relationship when all it does is make you cry
-- Stop fighting with your boss to have the raise you deserve, and for proving yourself to someone that will never see you
-- Stop fighting with your mind for questions that you clearly know the answers
-- Stop fighting with what ever is making you upset, stressed, sad...

Sometimes it is simply time to close this chapter of your life and make a change.
*** is it scary? of course it will be
We take comfort in what we know, even if it is hurting us because we already know the pain and most of the time accept it.
The unknown is scary as we have no idea of the outcome, but mostly we don't know the pain that MIGHT be attached to it.

When you stay in a situation that is wrong or not for you anymore this is when you will start loosing yourself little by little, until you have no idea of who you are anymore.

It will be scary to make the move to change but you need to believe and trust that the risk of moving on will work out just fine.
*** and you know what... if ever that move was not the right one or something still feels wrong... well there will be the next move after.

You are free to choose the life you deserve and to keep walking until you find it.
Please don't settle and make that move
This will be the very first step to FINDING YOURSELF

from my heart to yours
Alexandra

Happy Sunday
Shot Down, Reset, Come Back...

These 3 words should be part of your life, why so?
Our mind and body sometimes just needs to rest, at the end of each day you all go to sleep to rest and come back the next morning for a new day.
Well your mind and soul also needs this rest.
When we feel our brain is all over the place, our heart is heavy, we feel like we are drowning somehow... When the heart is fighting with the mind about life challenges and we get exhausted... this is when we need to Shut down, Reset and Come back.
Many of us will resist, thinking about what other people will say, you might feel ashamed to be vulnerable, you might want to fight this feeling of tiredness, or try to be strong from the outside when you are crying in the inside...
But trust me that it is Necessary to take the time to SHOT DOWN; get back into your mind, into yourself, into your heart and rewire that peace between the heart and the mind. Take some time on your own, write down what is going on, what is making you feel this way, take the time to think it through, and what is it that you actually want in the outcome of all of this.
Once you have put the finger on what it is that is making you feel unpeaceful inside, then you need to RESET;
Reset the mindset, put the positive back into your mind, what are the actions that you can take to get you the outcome that you want, how can you get back into that peace inside of you, do things that will make you feel good which will help in the positive.
Then COME BACK rested and embrace this change, this new beginning, this new breath of fresh air, fresh start...
So that you can find that inner peace again.

Life will always throw curve balls at you this is life and we can't do anything about it else than learn to deal with these in a proper manner that it won't drown us deep into depression.

You need to listen to yourself and know yourself, so that when these moments arrive in your life you are able to love yourself enough and take the self-care to SHUT DOWN, RESET, COME BACK. As many times as you need.

from my heart to yours,
Alex

Today I wanted to share with you something that I am actually learning at this exact moment.

I am the kind of person that needs everything to be done now, but I want to do so many things at once that most of the time I get overwhelmed just thinking about how, what, where to start.

Lately I have decided to implement this new way of doing which is ONE Thing at a time.

--- Start with one thing even if it's only one small thing every day...
and you know what it actually works pretty good.

You know that if you do 1% everyday on working on something you want to achieve at the end of the month you will have grown by 30%?

And the feeling of accomplishment is so rewarding... but you need to also learn to celebrate yourself even for the tiny little thing you have done today.

One little thing at a time will get you further then making crazy long lists and looking at them and putting them away for tomorrow.

What is this ONE thing that you would like to change in your life that is easily achievable by the end of this year?

In this ONE small goal, how can you do one small action everyday to get you to this goal.

Start with something achievable, something easy and reward yourself for this accomplishment...

I want to see those small goals in the comments below, writing it out loud is that first step to making it real.

Have a good week everyone!

Take a minute today to be thankful for 2-3 little things in your life that you usually take for granted.

It's good to be thankful for the wow things that happen to us, but sometimes you have to know how to thank simply for having the chance to live a new day, to thank for having the chance to have the view, to be able to walk... or simply to have a roof over your head.

Name me one very simple thing in your life that you are thankful for having today.
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Sometimes life will throw you some messy moments.
You can either sit in your mess or clean it up and start fresh.
Sitting in it is the easiest, cleaning it takes more effort but at the end which is the most rewarding you think?

When the sun is shining embrace the warmth on your skin, and when it's not, learn to run in the rain
During the good time find gratitude, but during the difficult time, find the opportunities
When you win reflect back on all the work that made it possible, and when you loose take in the lessons that even winning can't provide...

There is good in every difficult situation it is only a way of perspection!!

When is the last time you have APPRECIATED your own company?

Do you know that the best way to find yourself is to learn to know yourself inside out?

And to do that it's by spending some time on your own and learn to appreciate being with yourself.

What do you do alone that makes you feel peaceful in your heart and in your mind?

Please share I would love to read your thoughts
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When we are bored from a room in the house, we renovate.
Renovating also means messing things up and then enjoying the end result.

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In life it's the same thing. When we reach a point where the same situation gets on our nerves day after day...
Well sometimes it's time to renovate your life.

Which means making a mess to better replace it...
It may seem scary to face the unknown and step out of your comfort zone, but often it is said that life begins on the other side of fear.

Have you ever made a big decision in your life that you know will make you uncomfortable but deep down you are more than sure it's the right decision?
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In life you have to listen to your mind and your heart... but mostly make sure they are in peace with each other!

What is the craziest thing you have done in your life that took you out your comfort zone, thst was scary to do but after you felt so good?

Did you know that sometimes life is on the other side of your comfort zone?

And that sometimes not always knowing whats next and just following what drives you is okay.

When your heart and mind are not aligned it is to you to change, and move things to get that inner peace again.

Remember you are not a tree, if something is not making you happy you can move and change places 😉

When you go out with other people it is nice you socialise, exchange, chat, laugh... it's nice of course...

But when you go out on your own...
- you develop your observation skills
- you develop your confidence
- you are able to break that fear of other people's judgement
- you create a whole conversation with you (you get to really know how you feel, how was your day, how life is going for you....) you get to stop your busy life to talk to yourself for once
-you develop a friendship with the most important person in your life (me, myself and I)
-you realise you had the night you wanted even on your own. (Way better than staying home alone crying you did nothing)

Society build us in thinking that human needs to be in social that it is wrong to be alone...

This is not true....

You know you are fully happy when you can do that on your own, the outside world will be an add on to that happiness but not the reason of your happiness...

It needs to come from the inside first. Many people say it, but it's true this is how it works.

Instead of spending all your time liking👍 others on social media in the morning why don't you spend this time looking at yourself in the mirror and telling yourself how amazing you are, and how grateful you are being you....

It feels much more rewarding at the end of the day.