Live Well With Loss - Barb Hildebrand, Certified Grief Recovery Specialist

This is one of two articles on dispelling the myth of the 5 Stages of Grief that introduced me to The Grief Recovery Method. All that was shared in this article, including the very clear message that these stages NEVER applied to grief and loss in general, but specifically to those with terminal illness facing the end of their lives - resonated for me.

Hope you'll take the time to read and realize that your grief does not get neatly slotted into stages and by doing so, greatly impairs your ability to be able to begin to heal and recover. Another message not often shared in the grief community.

Here is the 2nd article: https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/node/5954



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Why we don't agree with the 5 stages of grief

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Happy Mother's Day to all our Moms here! I know this can be a difficult and emotional day for many, but feel it is important to honour and acknowledge all Moms.

May each of you find a way today to celebrate YOU and your Moms. It can be bittersweet when your Mom is no longer alive, or for a mother who has lost a child or those with difficult and estranged relationships. Be gentle and kind with yourselves and so hope you will allow for some good memories to be shared.

An excellent article addressing a topic that many grievers experience. Many times we use the word "guilt" to describe what we're feeling and yet it's often "regret". The difference is important and this article helps with that.



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How to Get Rid of Feelings of Guilt Following a Loss

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Unresolved grief is cumulative - and negatively so. It can impact all aspects of your life and it's not only a physical death that can result in experiencing grief.

Important to recognize and using the The Grief Recovery Method gives you the evidence-based life coping skills to work through and resolve the many complex emotions causing such pain.



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How do I know if I have unresolved grief? It's simple...

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An important message about The Grief Recovery Method now being . Read to find out why that matters.

Dr. Rachael D. Nolan Speaks About Her Research Concerning The Grief Recovery Method As An Evidence Based Program For Taking Action

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Such an important topic that far too many are reluctant to address while still in good health. Having proper legal documents in place, like a will, or trust, advanced directives for your healthcare and many other issues can truly make what is most often a very significant and emotional loss, a little less difficult. When grieving, decision making can be difficult and greatly compromised. Having these things done ahead of time is one of the most responsible acts of kindness for your loved ones.

RIP Luke Perry - gone way too soon!

Luke Perry Protected His Family With Estate Planning Luke Perry died surrounded by loved ones. The actor - who rose to fame playing a teenager on Beverly Hills 90210 - died from a condition that most think of as only striking "old" people. Perry's foresight to do the proper estate planning meant that the tragedy was not made worse for his family.

When it comes to your digital presence, important to know the options available. FB's 'memorialized' accounts have been welcomed by some, others have found it very upsetting to discover their loved one's FB account has been memorialized and they often have lost access to the account or are no longer able to be in control of it if they had the password. Unfortunately over the years, have heard many be on the receiving end of this, and not sure who reported the account as someone deceased.

Here's a new feature FB is making available to help with that.

You can learn more about a "Legacy Account" as well as "Memorialization" here: https://www.facebook.com/help/1568013990080948?helpref=faq_content

Facebook is introducing a new ‘Tributes’ section for memorialized accounts Facebook is rolling out a new feature for memorialized accounts that will allow people to leave messages in a Tributes section that is separate from the rest of the profile’s timeline. Depending on a memorialized account’s privacy settings, friends can currently still post on its timeline, inclu...

Well worth a re-share!

Grief is not a competition. Please don't compare losses because it diminishes us all. Everyone is grieving their loss 100%! I see so many comments that one person's loss is worse than anyone else's and I see the pain this causes to those already overwhelmed with pain.

Everyone's loss and grief is unique to them as is the relationship they had with the one departed. No one knows your pain, although you see that comment often as well. Even if they have had a similar loss, they did not necessarily have the same relationship with who they lost as you had. If you've lost for example, a sibling, another who has also lost a sibling will have a completely different grief experience. There will be similarities, but many differences.

Better to stop comparing altogether. Have compassion and empathy for anyone who has lost someone they cared about and support one another without judgement or the need to compare who is hurting most.

Sending much love and light to anyone experiencing a loss. ~ Barb

Click here to read this excellent article "Grief: Why Comparing Losses Never Helps and Often Hurts": https://tinyurl.com/y7m542sj


If you live in , Ontario or nearby - please explore the Grief Recovery Method® programs available to help you recover from loss and feel better. www.livewellwithloss.com

This is an exceptional blog post on child loss. The videos from parents who have had children die are well worth a watch too.



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Check out our newest blog...The Life Changing Grief That Comes From The Death of a Child (and how to effectively deal with that emotional pain)

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A very informative article about scattering your loved one's ashes. Always good to be prepared and to also check the laws about this where you live. I'm in Ontario and did scatter my late husband Rob's ashes. All of what is mentioned in this article applied.



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The dos and don'ts of scattering ashes in Ontario | Cottage Life As cottagers, we can understand why anyone would want their remains scattered in nature. But for the loved ones left behind, this simple practice can lead

An excellent article about grief and loss and how the Grief Recovery Method can help.

Grief can be a very lonely and isolating experience. No matter the loss causing your emotional pain, you are very much alone in how it impacts you. Even if others have experienced the same or similar loss, how you feel is never the same as someone else

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Wishing all of you a very peaceful Christmas