Gather, Encourage and Build

Good evening to all! It has been 7ish months since my last post. Alot has gone on in the world and in our personal lives. I want to chat about some on the things that ive realized have changed in my life.
I've realized that my green thumb died and I wasn't invited to the funeral. Now, some might say "oh that's not possible'. But it is! It happened quite some time ago, I only just realized it myself a while ago. Existing plants I had prior to the death are all still alive but any new plant I bring into this house dies...even succulents. My garden last year was a disaster. The weeds, and by weeds I mean alot of weeds, took over and very quickly was out of control. I've finally admitted to myself I actually don't enjoy gardening as much as I thought I did, and that was a difficult thing to admit to myself. I'm perfectly happy to buy my veggies from the store or markets.
I also accepted the fact that I'm an introverted extrovert and I'm very ok with that. When I people I have fun and thoroughly enjoy myself, but alone time is alone and quiet time. I need it to reset myself. There's alot going on in my head lol and I often need to clear some of that out.
I enjoy customer service jobs/careers, most of the time lol. But I'm NOT a salesman. I can help you with alot of things as long as you come to me and talk/ask me about it. I enjoy helping people, it makes me happy.
I like to stay busy, you know 'idol hands are the devils workshop'. That verse is so very very true. Me not being busy means I'm eating more-usually junk- and shopping for unnecessary stuff.
And last but not least, I kinds like being in a boss position but not being the big boss...yet.

So I would love to hear from all of you, whats changed in your life?

In my next live I will explain how this quote below holds alot of meaning for me. I was wanting to do a live tonight but I have a prior commitment, likely be doing it tomorrow.

Driving home after spending some much needed time with family. It's raining and at the time of evening when it doesn't look like you have your lights on and even turning the brights on doesn't really seem to make a difference.
Got me thinking about how sometimes in life it doesn't always look like we are making any headway or difference in the challenges or changes we face. Let me reassure you that you are making a difference, you are making headway. Sometimes you just need to take a peek back to see how far you've come. One day at a time, one step at a time. You got this!! Just keeping moving forward.

I'll be doing a live this morning cause it's been way to long lol

Do you ever feel like in order to move forward you need to go back? You're not alone, trust me. Here are some reasons that I can think of, if I forgot one or more please put them in the comments.
- Need to remember why we're doing what we're doing.
- Needing the courage to really move forward no matter the cost.
- Need to gain the self confidence to grab the bull by the horns and own it.
- It's the only real way to heal from the past and get the closure you need.
- and sometimes it the wrong timing. God's timing can never be rushed. It will happen when it happens. Trust the process and learn the skills needed to move on.

The top 3 things we 'shouldn't' 😏 talk about are as follows- politics, religion and personal finances. However, just because we shouldn't doesn't mean we don't. We have absolutely no problem discussing the first 2 openly and honestly with anyone that will take 5 seconds to listen. We debate our opinion vehemently to the point of damaging relationships. Now when it comes to personal finances, we will most likely lie to anyone who asks. Everything is fine 😬, while deep down we are often feeling overwhelmed or drowning. Ask for help?! Not a chance, we don't want people to know we might be failing. But, what if its not as bad as what we might think it is and asking the right person for help would make the difference between sleeping at night and tossing and turning the night away. How do I know this? Been there, done it. We asked for some advise, followed the plan and then I wanted to pay it forward and help others sleep better at night. Now we sleep at night. Are we where we want to be? Not yet but we're working on it.

Thanks for sharing my content, I am truly humbled. Have questions? Feel free to contact me, I'm always open to helping!

My journey began at birth but really started about about a year ago. There are a few things in this journey I question but I know that without them I wouldn't be the person I am today.
Here are a few things I have learnt in the last year of my journey
-There are 2 kinds of timing, my timing and Gods timing. Seeing as I'm not always very patient I have learnt to become more patient
-I can't control everything and I truly don't want to
-It's not the situation you are in, it's how you handle it that makes the difference
-Life is not easy or fair
-Trusting God isn't always easy but extremely necessary if you want peace of mind, I'm still working on this one
-Laugh as often as you can, life is too short to be so serious. Life is meant to be enjoyed.
-God doesn't make mistakes
And lastly, I really like who I am. Others may not and that's ok, we're not always going to like each other but I love everyone.

⬇️⬇️⬇️ This is definitely something we all need to be reminded about. Do not rely on anyone in your life for your happines, its not their responsibility. If you're not happy in your job, look for another one. Not happy with your spouse, reconnect with them and see what can be done to repair the relationship. If you are so busy trying to make others happy and you never say no, learn to say no and making others happy is not always going to happen.
For me, I've learnt how to take time for myself to rediscover who I am and what I need to be a better mom, wife, sister, daughter, friend and grandmother. Still working on it and really enjoying the journey.

Read it ⬇️ and then ask yourself, 'have i really been working on my goals?' Now read it again and be honest with the answer. If I am being completely honest, I need to work harder on my goals. It's the whole idea of getting something for nothing, not going to happen by why do we always expect it to?? Maybe its time to adjust your goals or the methods needed to get where your going. It's normal to hit a bit of bump in the road, but the bump isn't a wall so no reason to stop. Just keep moving.

This article really explains the differences between group and individual/family RESP plans to parents or grandparents. 🤔Reading this reminded me that we had RESP's for the kids when they were really little. I can't remember which company it was but I do remember that we had to cancel them because of financial reasons and I just didn't really trust the whole deal. 🤨Now I know why I didn't trust them. When we canceled we had been paying into them for about a year and we got nothing back. 😠I was really upset. When I called them about it they stated it all went to fees and it was all in the contract I had signed, and it was but I don't recall it being talked about at the initial meeting. 😡Then I was super upset. Anyway, I'm so glad I learned in the last few years that there are way better ways to save for your kids education. It obviously does help my kids now lol but it sure can help my grandchildren and my friends with small children or grandchildren.

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