Monique Schmandt Life and Relationship Coaching

This is a call out to everyone. Please make sure you have beneficiaries on all your accounts. Please write out a Trust. Please do this even though a voice inside you says “Oh I have time”.

We never know when it is our time to leave the planet. I can say from going through this process of a major, deep level of grieving for the passing of my father Paul Franssen, there’s a part of me that’s pi**ed. For years I begged him to get his Will/Trust in order and to get beneficiaries on his accounts, not because I wanted anything, but because I did not want to deal with the grief of loss and then deal with unnecessary S**T.

It’s really F*%€ed up to be left with all the S #%* and responsibility, because they didn’t want to deal with getting their affairs in order.

With all that said I absolutely love my dad, but I sure wish he heard me, listened to me and made things easier for his loved ones.

I hope this post supports you and everyone who needs to hear this ♥️

I believe it is important to share, educate and learn.

Much love to you all ♥️

Sometimes you have to let go of people that are choosing to stay in their self-defeating patterns, not because you don’t love or care for them, but because they don’t love or care about themselves.
Loving you ♥️

You are the one that is denying yourself of the things that you want. If you disagree with this, that is a perfect example of the depth of your denial.

Much love and light to all ♥️

Monique

For those of you that are experiencing grief. Grief is not something to push aside out of fear of the feelings, of its depth or to push through it. It is to be respected and honored by giving it space and love. It is a process.

The depth of your grief is a reflection of the depth of your love. You will forever carry that love, the blessings and the learnings within you forever ♥️

Sending blessings of light, love and healing to those in need ♥️

Monique

Many of us have replayed a situation over and over in our minds that we judged as wrong. Replaying leads to separation, anger, sadness and more.

Stop punishing yourself and beating yourself up with I should have, she/he/they should have. That time has passed. Look at the judgments you made and forgive them so that they don’t continue to drag you downward, and pull on your energy.

As long as you continue to dwell in the past you are giving away your energy and giving power over to that person and/or situation. Instead look at what you could do better, look at the lesson that situation brought forward for you to learn and consciously choose to do differently.

Everything that happens is an opportunity to learn and grow, there are no mistakes.

So called mistakes are telling you that you weren’t ready. Are you ready to learn now?

Be willing to look at the past situation neutrality and ask yourself “what can I do better, how can I be better?”, remembering that everyone who was involved in the situation has their part they are responsible for. Everyone was doing what they thought was right at that time. We are all students in this game of life.

Practicing Compassionate Self-forgiveness towards yourself, others and the situation is the antidote to releasing and setting yourself free.

Much love ♥️

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Do you feel or think that you are not worthy? Where did this belief come from? Who created it? By what measuring stick are you measuring? These are great questions to ask yourself.

Many people buy into the belief that what they have equals how worthy and deserving they are. This is a misbelief, a misinterpretation of reality.

Loving you ♥️
Monique

Change starts with you.

Everything outside of you is a reflection of your inner state, your inner world reality (your thoughts, beliefs, way you treat yourself and/or others).

What do you see?

Loving you ♥️

When you’re afraid of letting go of someone that is really hurtful and who you can’t be your TrueSelf around, you are telling yourself you’re not deserving of someone better.

Loving you ♥️

Discouragement is allowing negativity to take over. The way out of negativity is stopping the thoughts and stories you are creating in your head.
Stop, reframe your thoughts to what you want (not what you don’t want) and taking action in that direction.

When you replace your thoughts with positive thoughts and set positive intentions, then follow up with taking one action step at a time, the energy follows.

Remember that it is your thoughts about the situation, the people involved and yourself that are creating the feelings.

Much love, light and optimal health to all ♥️

Monique

Is there something you want with all your heart? Something that lights you up? Feeds your Soul? BUT there’s this voice that is telling you that you can’t have it? You’re not good enough? You can’t afford it? You don’t have time? Etc…. You know what I’m talking about.

Whatever the excuses are, they are correct, WHY? Because you are listening to, and believing all those things you’re hearing and telling yourself.

Are you struggling with moving forward, feeling stuck, unhappy with your situation, feeling alone, and want to experience fulfillment, purpose, joy, love and inner peace? If you are serious about changing your situation, but you are scared, private message me. Let’s set up a call so we can have a conversation.

To transform things it takes support and being guided by someone who has travelled through it and knows the way ♥️

Remember that the only thing that is getting in the way of you living a happy, fulfilling life is you.

Much love ♥️
Monique

Unresolved issues are like weeds. If you don’t heal them at the root, they will keep coming back.
Loving you ♥️