Alycia Curtis Coaching

08/30/2022

I've had a couple of you take me up on my free coaching session and it has been so fun to work with you!

Sometimes we all need a reminder that life can be more fulfilling and enjoyable, and then someone to help us figure out where we need to shift.

I decided I wanted to give away 10 free sessions, so I still have 8 more! Let me know how I can help you - it does not have to be related to s*x at all, it can be about something else entirely. Whether you're struggling to get into a health routine, have this big goal that you're working towards but need an outside perspective, noticing a pattern but not sure how to break out of it or just trying to figure out what you want from your life in general. I can help you find clarity and perspective.

I am going to endeavor to post a little more about what coaching is and how I can help you, but if you have a specific questions shoot me a message - no commitment required!

Consistency is rather hard for me evidently. I’m on an adventure to change that and also to listen to my body as I venture into this new and exciting world of coaching.

So, in order to get myself rolling, I would love your help! I need to get myself out there and meet and help some people! So, I’m offering a free coaching session for anyone who wants for the next couple of weeks.

What does that mean? It means you come to me with something you’re struggling with and I help you learn a bit more about what’s stopping you and we strategize to figure out your next step. This can be regarding anything: to why you’re not doing that thing you really want to do (say, eating healthy, or exercising), to something more personal (why you’re just not enjoying s*x anymore, or never have).

What do I get out of this? I get some experience, I get to help you with something that you’re struggling with. I get to remember the power of coaching in my life and hopefully give you a taste of the goodness. If you feel comfortable I would love some feedback from you as well, but that will remain entirely up to you!

This offer is open to anyone! If it’s not up your alley but you know someone who might like it, please share it with them!! I would love it!

07/25/2022

Consistency is rather hard for me evidently. I’m on an adventure to change that and also to listen to my body as I venture into this new and exciting world of coaching.

So, in order to get myself rolling, I would love your help! I need to get myself out there and meet and help some people! So, I’m offering a free coaching session for anyone who wants for the next couple of weeks.

What does that mean? It means you come to me with something you’re struggling with and I help you learn a bit more about what’s stopping you and we strategize to figure out your next step. This can be regarding anything: to why you’re not doing that thing you really want to do (say, eating healthy, or exercising), to something more personal (why you’re just not enjoying s*x anymore, or never have).

What do I get out of this? I get some experience, I get to help you with something that you’re struggling with. I get to remember the power of coaching in my life and hopefully give you a taste of the goodness. If you feel comfortable I would love some feedback from you as well, but that will remain entirely up to you!

This offer is open to anyone! If it’s not up your alley but you know someone who might like it, please share it with them!! I would love it!

05/06/2022

I’ve been feeling heavy lately with the news of the overturning of Roe v Wade. I know it’s not my country, but it sets a precedent. And to me, that’s a dangerous precedent.

I see these posts going around with all the stories of women who needed, wanted and chose to have an abortion, and thought I might add my own story to it.

April 15th of 2018 I found out I was pregnant. It wasn’t planned. My partner had been told by a fertility specialist he wouldn’t be able to have kids. I had just had my hormonal IUD removed because I didn’t like the side effects, so I wanted to give myself a couple months to rebalance my hormones before trying a different option, and he’d been told he couldn’t have kids, so it would be fine right?

My cycle is like clockwork, so when I didn’t get my period right away, I knew. But took the test anyways. Cue the fear. I was terrified. But then that turned into excitement, mixed in with fear. I told my family, it was a bit of a shock, but they were ready to help me and support me, abortion wasn’t even a consideration for me.

April 24th the cramps started. I had my doctors appointment the next day, she sent me for blood work.

April 26th the pain was so bad I left work and my sister drove me to the emergency room.

They did a brief ultrasound but didn’t see any blood in my stomach, so sent me home with an appointment the next day for a full ultrasound.

After the ultrasound it was back to the emergency room doctors, where I was told that I had what is called an ectopic pregnancy, and my tube burst. I would be in surgery within an hour, did I want to call someone?

I can tell you the exact minute I felt my tube burst. It was on the way to the hospital ironically, but it was blinding pain, like nothing I have ever felt.

I have more to add to the story.

It’s years later, I have healed from the abortion and the trauma, yet writing this up I still cried, remembering how hard that was to experience.

I started running as a way to be fit and healthy. Last summer I was out doing some trail runs with some friends, one of whom is a gynaecologist, and we’re talking about Covid and how crazy everything is. And she makes an offhand comment (having no idea about my health history), about how they only do surgery now if the patient will die within three days if they don’t receive the surgery, and then gives a list of what those situations are: one of the top - ectopic pregnancy. I could have died.

I had an abortion. Was it my choice, no.
I was not given a choice, my body made it for me.
We are not always given choices.

Sometimes it’s a cancer diagnosis, heart attack, stroke. But the medical care is there for you either way.

The problem with overturning the right to an abortion is that it means medical care cannot be there for you, whether it is your choice or not.

Abortion is healthcare. Plain and simple. You may disagree with it, it may sadden you. But it is not your choice to make for someone else. That is a choice to be made by the body it affects and the doctors prescribing care. You do not get to make that decision for someone else.

05/02/2022

May is Ma********on awareness month! And there are a lot of myths surrounding ma********on, so I figured why not shift here! Though we no longer believe that ma********on will cause blindness or hairy palms like they used to in the Victorian era, there is still a lot of shame and secrecy surrounding the topic.

I want to do a quick reminder here that I am a trained s*x coach. And with that it is my job to help you discover any biases or misinformation you have been taught and show you a healthier way to think about things.

The first myth then, is that touching yourself is dirty, shameful, wrong, or in other words, not okay. Your body was created to feel all aspects of life – pain, love, hunger, joy, pleasure. If we shut off one emotion or one part of us, all other aspects we feel become stunted as well.

S*xuality is your birthright; it is as natural to your body as hunger is. Ma********on is the foundation that you have to connect with your body, to release the demands that you place on it, and to simply enjoy the feelings and sensations it gives you.

If the whole concept feels uncomfortable and awkward to you, remember you don’t have to dive straight into the deep end! Figure out what non-erotic zones feel nice to be touched – do a neck roll, begin to find tension in your body and learn to release some stress, learn to listen to your body and what feels good. What if you lightly drag your fingers across your arms and inner elbows, your stomach, your thighs? What feels good, what feels meh? The whole point of this is to tune in to your body and listen to it, allowing yourself to feel pleasure from your body. If you can do that, you’re off to a good start.

Do you have any myths you would like me to talk about, or any questions in general? Send me a message! No pressure, no commitment, I’m not going to accost you to coach with me, I just want to know what you’re wondering and how I can help!

04/29/2022

Myth1: Here’s a myth I used to believe without really knowing it: S*x would be instantly amazing. It might be painful the first time, but you just bear through the pain, and then it will amazing every time after that.

You know those romance books? The Harlequin romance, the ones that are a guilty pleasure to read; where the heroine and hero fall madly in love and instantly have fantastic s*x. Somehow both partners automatically know how to please each other and its always ecstasy right off the bat – simultaneous or***ms even. I was watching Bridgerton the other day, and it’s the same story: she barely learns to please herself, they get married, and bam – doing it like rabbits, or***ms easily rolling in.

Imagine my surprise when it was… not that at all. There was no or**sm, it was not a life-changing experience, it was not all I thought about after; it just felt… awkward. Like it should have been this big thing, and then it wasn’t, and I didn’t know what to do about that.

Logically, I think we know that those movies and stories aren’t realistic, yet it is broadcasted everywhere that way. And so, when it doesn’t happen for us, we think there must be something wrong with us. It’s why one of the most frequent questions I get is, “is it normal that it takes me a long time to or**sm? Or that I don’t or**sm at all?” And the answer is yes. That is totally normal. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

It takes time to develop trust and comfort with your partner. It requires you to learn what you like and what you find pleasurable; and it takes courage to talk about and share that with your partner. It is not easy. It might be the most natural thing in the world, sure – that’s how we all came to be here. But it is not instantly amazing - though it can be.

I can help walk you through the steps as you deconstruct the negative and unrealistic expectations around s*x that you have picked up. Empowering you to become more confident in your desires and lead a more fulfilling and connecting intimate life with yourself and your partner. Just because s*x isn't quite like it is shown in the movies doesn't mean it can't be a fun, fulfilling, connected, and amazing experience.

04/29/2022

Hey, I think it’s about time I posted on here. Change is a scary thing, and it comes whether we want it or not. But this is a change I have been wanting to make for a long time.

I’ve been consuming information and doing all of the passive work, but none of that is actually helping anyone.

So it’s time I get out here and start showing you, I can help you.

When people hear that I’m a s*x coach, I get a variety of different responses. But a lot of times it can be summed up to, “is it normal …?”

There is so much secrecy around s*x, while simultaneously being inundated with media and unrealistic expectations. It can be hard to know what’s normal and what’s not. So stay tuned while I work on clearing up some of the common myths you might hear.

10/24/2019

I've been silent for a while, and not intentionally, but there have been some changes in my life. I changed jobs and am loving my new job, but it came with a lot of training and my brain hurt. 😋 I was also serving part-time but the restaurant I was in closed and it was a bit of a shock to everyone.

You know how when you make promises to other people you will most likely keep them, even at high cost? And yet, for some reason when it comes to keeping promises to yourself you just push it off for another day? Yeah, that's what I was doing. For months I have been saying I wanted to focus more on s*x coaching and creating content for you, but I always said I was too busy. Well, now I'm down to one job, and my excuses are all used up. 😉 So stayed tuned for more posts and more content! And, if there is something you are curious about, shoot me a message and I promise to talk about it here (confidentiality is a high priority for me, so anything you ask me will be kept 100% private). Otherwise, I'm just gonna be rambling and not knowing if its helping you guys or not. So please send me a message!

Also, I'm in the process of creating a group that is going to be more private so only others in the group will be able to see the posts and questions, that way we can have more interaction. So stay tuned for that as well! Your support is greatly appreciated and I want to hear from you. 😊

08/03/2019

I was lucky to be able to go to the Tony Robbins Power of Success conference on Thursday and it blew my mind and will be the beginning of several changes in my life.

However, that's not what I want to talk about. One of the speakers, Erin Skye Kelly, was talking about how sometimes we have to do things that are good for us, but don't feel good to have do. You know, things like exercise. She had us shout out other things that were like that and one women yelled s*x. And it's so sad that this women felt that something that can be so enjoyable and pleasurable was something that she dreaded. It doesn't have to be that way! If this is you, I challenge you to do something about it. Message me and we can chat, or there are a thousand books you can read or videos to watch (and I mean videos other than p**n). S*x is something that should be both good for us to do (because it does have great health and relationship benefits), and something that feels good for us to do.

If you're not happy with a part of your life, you have the capacity to change it!

07/16/2019

Working on getting over my self and my own issues so I can step into who I know I can be and help a few others along the way. If you've never heard of Rachel Hollis, look her up! Her books Girl, Wash Your Face and Girl, Stop Apologizing have impacted me so much. It's time to claim my dreams and start going. 👊

06/05/2019

Change is hard. And I almost feel like it's harder when it is something you choose to change. Whatever changes you are trying to make, it is worth it. It is so easy to stay the same, and yet at some point there's comes a time when that change is necessary, even vital for your happiness.

My current struggles: cutting out the Mcdonald's and getting up earlier to work out. Some days I make it, other days I don't, but I'm looking for progress, not perfection.

What is something you are trying to change?

03/27/2019

This is such an important message about s*xuality, let's not judge those around us. Listen to your partner's words, ask your partner what they are feeling and wanting. And women, speak up about what you turns you on and what brings you pleasure, your partner wants to know.

And, if you're interested, Emily Nagoski has a book called "Come As You Are" and it's phenomenal. One of my top recommendations for understanding our s*xual desire. And, of course, if you need help navigating or understanding your s*xuality and pleasure, send me a message, we can talk about it.

S*x educator Emily Nagoski breaks down one of the most dangerous myths about s*x and introduces us to the science behind arousal nonconcordance: when there's a disconnect between physical response and the experience of pleasure and desire. Talking about such intimate, private moments can feel awkwar...

03/19/2019

S*xual desire is something that can be influenced by many different factors, but this article gives an interesting tidbit of information about how relationships can affect our desire. It's important to have a separate identity within your relationship, and it's just as important to continuously develop the intimacy and connection to help the relationship thrive. And I know I can completely agree with the last point - who doesn't like to feel s*xy and appreciated by their partner? All these together will help us to remain s*xually connected in our relationship.

Hint: It has nothing to do with a toned bod.