10/04/2026
Today I tested for my brown belt in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.
The test was a shark tank — an extended period of grappling with a fresh person coming in every few minutes.
I had prepared for it physically and mentally. I knew I couldn’t go 100% at the beginning and expect to have anything left at the end. I had a strategy: stay composed, breathe, focus on position, don’t force anything, and create opportunities.
I was ready.
Then, about five minutes in, I felt my back go.
Oh no.
Immediately the thoughts started:
This is it.
You’re hurt.
You’re going to have to stop.
And I still had about 55 minutes to go.
So I had a decision to make.
I decided to continue, but differently. I paid attention to my back, asked my opponents not to stack me, adjusted how I rolled and kept going.
Eventually I heard the countdown.
3…2…1…
Done.
Except we weren’t.
“Higher belts — ten more minutes.”
Of course. 😂
So I lay back down and went again.
And ten minutes later, I had done it.
But what I’ll remember most about today isn’t the pain or even finishing the shark tank.
It’s the people.
The community at YGK is phenomenal. What the coaches have built there is something special. They are the reason I’m there.
And I got to share this experience with my kids. That was the BEST part.
My daughter rolled with me at the beginning until I got too sweaty. 🤣 My son rolled with me multiple times. And one of my final rolls of the day was with him.
There’s something pretty incredible about being in the middle of one of the hardest tests you’ve done and looking across the mat to see your own child and wife there with you.
Today reminded me of something:
The first thought that tells you you’re done doesn’t always get to make the final decision.
Sometimes you need to stop. Sometimes that’s absolutely the right decision.
But sometimes you can assess, adapt, communicate and find a safe way forward.
We can’t always control what happens when we step into the arena. But we can control what we do next.
Today, I kept going.
And today, I became a brown belt.