Helping Adults & Children take charge of their Emotions through a trauma informed lens.
He is the best therapy pup and a huge hit with my younger clients. Today I forgot he was here while I was on a zoom seasion, I turned around to this😆
05/27/2026
After 24+ years of working with Children, they continue to be my greatest teachers by far!
In my opinion, if we want to create closer connections with our younger generations, we must continue bridging the gap between our world and theirs as this generation came here to take down many of those old bridges.
The old ways no longer work and they know it!
Very often, the Children who appear “disruptive,” “hard to parent,” or “too sensitive” are actually our biggest and fastest teachers… if we are willing to get curious about what their behaviours are showing us.
They may appear to be:
“out of control”
“too angry”
“too emotional”
“unable to sit still”
But what if instead of trying to fix them, we asked:
“What are they teaching me here?”
“Why does this trigger me so deeply?”
Today’s world is very different from the one many of us were raised in.
So many of us were taught...
• not to feel our feelings
• to bottle things up
• to speak only when spoken to
• to always respect our elders, no matter what
I think many of us can agree that, in some way, we learned to shrink ourselves and dim our light because of these generational beliefs?
I also know when we are deep in the thick of parenting, our children’s behaviours can feel completely overwhelming...
But if we can find a moment to remember that behaviours are expressions of internalized feelings they cannot yet give words to.....
Feelings they have held inside.
Feelings they cannot describe.
Feelings they absorb from others.
This generation understands emotional energy far more deeply than we often realize.
That is why integrating Somatic Therapy and EFT Tapping into my sessions with Children, from preschool ages through to the teen years has become such an important part of my work.
The changes we see can be profound and often happen very quickly, especially when Parents are open to learning these tools alongside their Children.
Our younger Children often respond beautifully to just 30-minute Somatic/EFT sessions.
“My body feels calmer.”
“I don’t feel so frustrated anymore.”
"I can use my words to ask for what I need more easily now."
"I am prouder of me."
Emotions are the root of everything!💛
05/13/2026
Thankyou to everyone who helped me make the Final round my heart is full!
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Sharing this work with Children and Adults is more than just a job to me. It brings me so much joy and fulfillment and I get to meet the best people along the way!
I hope this little image continues to help spread the word a little further so more people can discover the importance of the mind-body connection and how our Emotional Health is truly the root of EVERYTHING!
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05/11/2026
I rolled out of nightclubs into pregnancy...I was still a kid in so many ways!
Now having kids the same age that I became a Mom, I deeply understand how much we grew along side each other.
Yet each Daughter still got a different version of me....
The first time Mom who barely knew how to cook for herself, who had no idea about sleep schedules and learned as she went..
The hypervigilent Mom who was constantly checking for breath and over protected the once sick baby with routine over load.
The grieving Mom who was learning what it felt like to loose one of her favorite people whilst trying to hide it and be happy Mom.
I was always building my emotional tool kit and learning along the way, but I didn't truly embody many of these teachings until my youngest was into double digits.
By this time there was already repair work to do and I didn't really understand how we could so this other than talk therapy.
But then the Kids often resisted
So I had no choice but to look closer in the mirror. Giving my own inner little girl and those young Mom parts of me more love and compassion began to change things
Then more space began to open up. I could start to separate my triggers from theirs.
I began to imagine my kids could read my mind. It made me more conscious of my thoughts and projected worry and judgements.
Instead of thinking.....'their not capable'
I began to send out the very opposite. choosing to see them thriving and trusting themselves....even when physically that was not always happening.
Bridging the gap from their generation to mine is still a continual learning and I am deeply grateful for the patience and openness to continue to grow together in this one wild, wonderful life.
Happy Mothers Day to all the nurturers out there who have Children or not.
Thankyou for making the World a brighter place. I know this day is not always an easy one💗
We hear so much about Mental Health but very little on Emotional Health, yet Emotions are the root of EVERYTHING and they are felt in the BODY!
This is why mentally we can set every intention to do the things we know help us, but until the body is on board with the mind we tend to get stuck in a loop in those old unhealthy patterns.
I am sure many of you can relate to your chest tightening, airways constricting as you feel like you can not breath as a panic attack comes over you?
Or you can't eat as you feel nauseous as anxiety lands in your stomach?
This is the power of the emotional charge on the physical body that then often triggers us to not feel safe in our own bodies and the avoidance loop, conscious or subconscious continues as the nervous system is activated over and over again.
This is where mind-body connection work through EFT Tapping and Somatic therapy can be life changing, especially through a trauma informed lens.
I have had clients who have done regular talk therapy for many, many years and within 3 to 6 sessions (some less) of integrating EFT have identified the stuck pattern and unraveled the root and felt safe to actually be in their bodies. Not only addressing the current issue but almost always noticing positive changes in many other areas.
The more we feel safe in our bodies, the more we can help our bodies be in a state of Rest and Digest, rather than the restrictive fight, flight, freeze or fawn response.
I will be teaching a Work shop for Adults & Children on Sat 9th May @ HolistikHealth Victoria, Vancouver island and I have other workshops popping up over the next few months if you're interested in learning more.
04/29/2026
Nobody really talks about how NOT tripping over a pile of shoes in the hallway, or running a half-full dishwasher, can crack your heart open in ways you didn’t expect.
As the hours of driving reduce, grocery lists shorten, sports and dance schedules shift from a part-time job to - Space to FEEL a whole mix of emotions from grief, excitement, loneliness, freedom, then the identity question .....
"Who am I, beyond the role of "Mom"?
This identity shift is real.
Even if you’ve done parts of it before, this stage comes with its own kind of grief. Because grief comes in many packages🫶
Before we come back to us and can hear our own updated needs, fear, uncertainty, and that looping mind that comes with change often takes over...
>Did I do enough?
>How often should I check in?
>Did I repair that old wound in time?
>What if they get sick?
>How do I know they’re home safe?
>Do I text nonsene just to make sure they’re alive?
>Will we still have family vacations?
>What if we grow apart?
What if, what if….
If this resonates, try gently stepping out of your head & into your body.
Get quiet. Place a hand on your heart & ask:
Where is this feeling coming from?
There is always opportunity for healing, growth, & repair with our children (even adult kids) & within ourselves if we’re willing to listen.
This isn’t my first rodeo. Technically, it’s round four of kids leaving, returning, and leaving again as they find their wings. Yet still, I learn....
This time, I uncovered a subconsious fear rooted in a serious accident my child had 17 years ago! I had carried that moment in my body all this time, holding onto this old belief that I should have protected her, internally blaming myself for a freak accident that logically I know was never true and yet it was showing up today as panic about protecting her as an adult.
I continue to be amazed how much wisdom the body & subconscious mind holds & how quickly with the right tools we can reach the root so the unhealthy patterns can end.
If this speaks to you & your curious about EFT & Somatic work reach out💗
04/21/2026
'I AM FINE!'.....Can we please STOP comparing our pain to others and thinking that our feelings are not valid because others have been through worse.🫶
Even 90 seconds of pausing and sitting with that uncomfortable feeling and giving it a voice, starts to create a positive change in our physical bodies.
The emotional 'charge' starts to lessen and safety starts to resume when we feel heard and its the same when we listen to our own internal dialog.
We use way more energy trying to avoid feeling our emotions and minimalizing them than we do actually pausing to feel them.
There are no 'bad' feelings....Even though the Positive affirmation world may have you feeling that way.
True internal freedom is getting comfortable to feel it ALL!!
Rage, Joy, Shame, Peace, Jealousy, Gratitude, Anger, Love, Frustration, Acceptance, Sadness, Happiness, Guilt and everything in between!
Feeling your feelings won't kill you, but constantly tryint to avoid them just might.❤️
Yesterday I got to teach an Emotional tool building workshop in a Yurt at the coolest Forest School. We Think Outside.🌱
We hear so much about Mental Health and yet there is very little education out there around Emotions, yet Emotions are truly the root of EVERYTHING!
Our younger generations truly understand this work and always amaze me how open and wise they are.
This group was extra special as we had a broad age range and still they were all fully engaged and present for the full workshop!
Engaged, Mindful Teachers = Engaged, Mindful very present Children.🌱💕
I highly recommend checking out this school if you are in the Kelowna area and looking for a true outdoor experience for your Children.
02/12/2026
Today was heavy & shocking here in our Province of British Columbia, Canada after a School shooting. 💔
This is all a lot to process, as Parents and nurturing, highly sensitive humans it hurts.
Unfortunately as much as many of us try to protect our Children from devastating news the word travels by mouth, social media, news on the radio and TV.
With more Children feeling scared & confused about the World with the endless stream of news atrocities recently it is vital that we listen to them & open space for these difficult conversations and their emotions..
If you don't have words and your feeling deep grief yourself its OK to sit & cry with your Kids.
It's OK to say ' I don't understand this either'.
We don't scare them by showing our hearts, we confuse them by hiding it because they feel!
This is a time when more than ever our Children....even the older ones need us to feel!
I think most of us agree the traditional Mental Health approach is not working. So many of us want change but that starts with us!!
Learning how to FEEL, comeing back to EMPATHY, COMPASSION and real human CONNECTION and this does start in the home and in Community.
I know that may seem alien if you were not raised to see or feel emotion but this generation is different I promise!
My heart is with 💔