09/06/2023
So glad for this reminder popping up in my memories today !
Couldn't agree more ! 💜
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Courage takes us so far in our relationships. I apologize often because I was raised to believe adults should have power over children and we make better decisions than children, that false. Sometimes my first reaction is a wrong reaction. It’s getting easier to treat my children the way they deserve, I love them and I respect them so much. However the adult oppressor in me still shows up and when she does, I practice being accountable, owning my errors and making repairs.
What I receive from them is so much compassion and support. They remind they don’t expect perfection from me, they remind me ruptures are opportunities to move toward intimacy. I’m so honored to be their mother. In so many ways they mother me with their nurture, wisdom and curiosity.
So be brave y’all! Keep taking accountability, may our culture be filled with accountability and repair.
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Accessibility: [tweet by Janelle Scales(she/her)] When I apologize to my children and take accountability for harm I caused them, I offer both them & myself healing. They teach me to reject perfectionism. They show me gracefully, it’s often not the mistake that ruins relationships but rather the refusal to own it and repair it.