Beverly Day Care Society and Family Resource Centre

This is such a great visual of co-regulation.

Of course sometimes your child won't want to be held and don't force it. But if we can stay calm, meet the feeling not the behavior then co-regulation can happen.

When we hold our child there is a physical change. Their nervous system will mirror ours. We just have to wait for the fire to go out.

NE Edmonton Safe Neighbourhoods would like to take this opportunity to formally invite our neighbourhood to their next event.

Youth Self Defense.

This is an important issue to all neighbourhoods and residents and NorthEast Edmonton Safe Neighbourhoods Association, looks forward to being able to help our youth feel a little more confident in their daily lives. So we are looking forward to seeing them!

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We're here to support you on your employment journey! Drop-in to the CANDORA Job Lab for supports with resume building, job searching, access to a digital job board, and more 🙌💼

Drop-in to the CANDORA Community & Employment Resource Centre ( #262, 3210- 118Ave) Monday-Friday 9AM-12:30PM & 1PM- 3:30PM or contact us for information:

📲780-474-5011 ext. 127
📨[email protected]

Join us and get out of the rain!! Located in the big gym with lots of room to run and play! 10 to 12pm
Free snack
Come on out and make some new friends!!

It starts small…
👉🏼 A toddler who says “no” and gets shut down.
👉🏼 A five year old who questions a rule and gets told “because I said so.”
👉🏼 An eight year old who shares an opinion and gets dismissed.
👉🏼 A ten year old who pushes back and gets punished for it.

And by the time they’re a teenager, they’ve already learned the lesson: their voice isn’t safe here, so they stop using it at home.

The teenager who sneaks out, who lies about where they’re going, who makes dangerous choices in secret, is rarely doing it because they’re a bad kid. It’s almost always because they already know that bringing it home isn’t safe, that disagreeing comes with a cost too high to pay.

So they stop coming to the people who could actually help them navigate it, and start figuring it out alone, with their peers, in the dark.

When children are not allowed to safely disagree with us, they don’t stop having opinions. They don’t stop wanting things we might say no to, they just stop telling us… And that silence is far more dangerous than any argument we could have had at the dinner table.

Research on adolescent risk-taking consistently shows that teenagers who feel they can talk openly with their parents, even about disagreements, are significantly less likely to engage in dangerous behavior. Not because the parents said yes to everything, but because the child never had to go around them to feel heard.

So the next time your little one pushes back, questions a rule, or tells you they don’t agree, try to see it for what it actually is: a child who still trusts you enough to use their voice. That’s not defiance, that’s the relationship working.