Jacinta Gallant - Educator · Mediator · Innovator

I don’t talk about options anymore. I know – it’s a “term of art” in our negotiation culture, but hear me out.

'Possibilities' is way better!

In my Out of Court practice, I am devoted to harnessing the power of curiosity – and the word “options” just feels limiting – kind of boring – and uninspiring.

Curiosity isn’t a magic wand, but it achieves almost magical insights!

And it starts with asking, rather than telling. Expanding, rather than narrowing.

The neuroscience explains that when I experience that you really want to understand me, I feel calmer, more satisfied - less tense. I can open up to new ways of seeing things, internally and externally.

The same works with clients. As my curiosity helps them open up, they are able to see possibilities that hadn’t been there before - their previous ‘tunnel vision” opens up to the light at the end.

Suddenly whenever I used the word “option”, it just didn’t fit. There was just so much expansion that came with client’s discoveries and insights, I needed a word to match the momentum.

Possibilities is my word, now.

I like the sound of it. Turns out, so do my clients. It seems to invite their participation in co-creating a plan for their future.

Words matter.

What words inspire you to open up and be creative?

If this way of working resonates- if you’ve felt the difference between narrowing conversations and opening them- you may be quietly wondering: what’s possible in your own out-of-court practice.

On February 18th, I’m hosting a free live session for lawyers who are curious about expanding how they work with conflict outside the courtroom- without losing professional authority, structure, or clarity.

It’s a space to explore what becomes available when we shift from managing disputes to discovering possibilities.

You’re warmly invited to join us- the link to join is https://mailchi.mp/27f88dab79b5/ooclfeb26

Now available as a direct purchase for separating parents.

And still offering all kinds of client preparation tools for divorce professionals - digital and analogue!

Inside the Our Family in Two Homes Preparation Kit you will find:
✧ Personal grounding tools
✧ Communication guidance to reduce conflict
✧ Prompts to help you understand your patterns
✧ Worksheets and scripts
✧ Parenting schedule principles
✧ Checklists for meeting with divorce professionals
✧ Support for how to tell your children

It is a full system designed to help you feel calmer, clearer, and more prepared.

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Today is World Financial Planning Day, and I can’t emphasize enough how important it is to KNOW YOUR NUMBERS!!

Too many times, clients come to me with no sense or knowledge of their marital assets. It’s all too common in a marriage that one spouse manages the money, and the other remains oblivious.

Even if you’re not divorcing, you should know what you have, what your regular expenses are, what you owe, and what’s coming in every month.

Even if you maintain separate accounts, know what shared debt and shared assets are part of your relationship.

Honestly, when a relationship begins, it’s a good idea to discuss attitudes toward money, existing debt and financial habits because money is one big source of tension and angst in a relationship!

I have 2 resources from the Our Family in Two Homes initiative led by Jacinta Gallant - Educator · Mediator · Innovator that could help with this: Planning Our Future Together and Going Steady. DM me for details!

We start next week! And we work with you make it fit your training budget. Currency adjustments and monthly payment plans allow you to learn over ten weeks, and take up to 12 months to pay. We want this transformative learning to be accessible to more professionals.

In The Curiois Mediator program, we learn targeted curiosity to be more effective in managing conflict.

We learn to ask better questions and create opportunities for clients to discover their own answers.

And we experience the relaxation that comes from working in a theoretically sound and highly practical approach.

Join our next cohort. We start September 23 (or 24 of youre “Down Under”) and meet weekly for ten weeks.

https://the-curious-mediator.teachable.com/p/the-curious-mediator-part-14

Curiosity changed everything. I am more productive. Clients are more satisfied. It’s easier to determine what tasks clients can (and want) to take on themselves and they have more confidence with the process and steps I recommend because it’s based on their unique circumstances.

It used to take me two extra meetings. So clients are saving money and as a, delivering a higher value.

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Can divorce professionals believe in love?

At Our Family in Two Homes, the answer is yes.

Jacinta Gallant has spent decades helping separating couples find clarity, dignity, and healing- and one of the biggest lessons she’s learned is that many clients want to improve their relationship… just not in the same form.

They want to communicate better. Co-parent more peacefully. Feel proud of how they show up in conflict. But they don’t always know how.

Instead of pushing for outcomes or trying to fix things for her clients, Jacinta learned to start with one powerful shift: curiosity.

When we ask instead of tell, and invite clients into self-discovery, something opens.

They find their own insight. Their own direction. And the results are more meaningful- for them and for the professionals supporting them.

That’s the heart of The Curious Mediator training- and the free 30-minute session happening this Thursday.

If you want to go deeper into this approach and learn how to support clients with more ease, clarity and confidence, come join us:

🧭 Free webinar this Thursday: http://bit.ly/3VyrE9m
💡 September cohort of The Curious Mediator is enrolling now: https://bit.ly/4p510CD

Because when we stop fixing and start facilitating, everything shifts.

Yes you can!!

Can you actually make a good living doing good work?

Short answer: YES.

If you’ve ever felt like building a values-based, out-of-court practice means sacrificing your income- this is your reminder that it doesn’t have to.

Our team used to worry too. Until we shifted our message, embraced the Insight Approach, and leaned all the way into curiosity and clarity.

Now? We say it upfront:

“We’re an exclusively out-of-court firm. If your former partner won’t mediate or collaborate, we’ll help you prepare… and then kindly refer you out.”

And guess what?

Clients don’t run.
They lean in.
Sometimes, they even bring their ex around.

It turns out that a clear, calm, client-centered approach is good business.

If you're ready to build a more sustainable, human-centered way of working- that works for you, not just your clients- join us in the Curious Mediator program or dip your toes in with our free 30-minute intro session happening September 4th.

Find the links to learn more below.

It’s true. ❤️😍❤️

I’m a divorce lawyer who believes in love.

Yeah, that line stops people in their tracks.

But the truth is, conflict doesn’t mean connection is gone.

It means people are struggling in relationship- not necessarily done with it.

For years, I worried my optimism about post-separation relationships was a little… much. 🙃

Was I pushing my agenda?
Was I being a Try-Hard?

But then I got curious.

And when I started asking instead of assuming, clients told me they wanted something better.
Less conflict.
More calm.
A future their kids could thrive in.

That’s the power of Insight Mediation- and it’s what we teach inside The Curious Mediator.

If this resonates with how you want to practice, come explore with us:

→ Join the free 30-minute intro webinar to learn more about the approach and how it can change your life and practice.
→ Or sign up for Curious Mediator- we kick-off in September.

Find the link to both options below.

This is what clients want.

“I had better answers after I left your office.”

That’s what one of my favourite clients told me- and it stopped me in my tracks.

I’d spent years trying to get clients to open up.
Trying to help them communicate when they were stuck in conflict.
Trying to ask the right questions.

But something shifted when I started to learn (and later teach) the Insight Mediation approach.

Instead of trying to fix, I got curious.
Instead of pushing for answers, I created space for self-discovery.
Instead of being the expert with the answers, I became a partner in the learning.

And you know what happened?

Clients began doing deeper work- on their own.

Which meant, they showed up more grounded, more open, and more ready to engage with the hard stuff.

Not because I told them to.

Because we invited them into a process that honoured their agency and their insight.

This is what we explore inside The Curious Mediator training.

Do you want to work in a way that prepares clients through self-discovery and learning? That helps them help themselves so you can focus on what they need from you?

Then come join us this September. Or dip your toes in first- we’ve got a free 30-minute session coming up that’s a perfect intro.

The links are below.