Tanessa Shears

How I make buying decisions when I’m nervous:

If you've been reading my emails this week, you'll know I'm taking on a few clients for my program, Becoming Limitless.

But if you've been going back and forth about whether or not you want to join and are nervous about investing in my program, I'd love to share some insight into how I make a buying decision.�
There are only 3 reasons that I am nervous about buying something:�
1. I'm not sure if this program/service is the right "method" for me.

This means that I'm questioning if this process being offered actually works.�
If I follow what the coach says, will their process work for me?

It's so easy for people online to claim they have the best program and that everything works, and trust me, I've been burnt HARD by tens of thousands of dollars of coaching programs in the past.

It makes it hard to know if this is the right choice, right?

Here's how I coach myself on this: I search for other people who have been through the program and have great things to say about it.�
I want to know it worked for regular people, not just the superstar clients that already had a head start coming into the program.

I also clearly acknowledge that I am NOT a special snowflake. If something works for someone else, it's possible it would work for me.�
2. I'm not sure if the coach is the right coach for me. Do I trust them?

There are a BILLION coaches online, it feels like.

What makes someone different? How do I know if I can trust them enough to hand them my focus, energy, time and thousands of dollars?

Here's what I do:

I invest time into getting to know them. This can be done through a consult call, but usually, I stalk them quietly�
If they have a podcast, I listen.
If they do videos, I watch.
If they write posts, I read.

I want to see that they've been around for a while, that they haven't changed their program or niche in the last couple of months to meet the latest marketing trend, and that they genuinely pour value into their community.�
3. I'm not sure if I can do it. I doubt myself.�
This one is probably the hardest, and the most painful if I'm being honest.

When the voices in your head are screaming so loud that you can't do it, nothing has ever worked before, you keep wasting your money... it's hard to trust yourself to make a good decision again.

Here's how I coach myself on this:�
I write the name of the program or coach at the top of the page, then below, write ALL the reasons it won't work for me.�
I'm going to share a private journal entry that I did with this on May 26, 2022 when deciding on a $14,000 coaching investment.

[PROGRAM WON'T WORK FOR ME BECAUSE...]

* I won't finish the program�
* I won't show up on the group calls�
* It isn't with the head coach, but with the assistant coach and it's not my first choice�
* I won't put my full effort in�
* I already know everything they teach and I won't learn anything new�
Here is what I recognized from making this list:

1. These reasons are all a reflection on how I showed up in the last program I enrolled in. Even worse, I realized these were all choices I deliberately made to sabotage my own experience.

If I know I have to CHOOSE these things in order for them to happen... why would I? It's on me.

2. These are all just sentences in my brain. There is nothing factual or truthful about them. They are just my opinion,

Seeing them written there like that was a magnifying glass into why I was struggling. My brain needs some TLC, some coaching and some love.�
My brain doesn't always have my best interest at heart.

If you're struggling with your own self doubt, I feel what you're going through.

You must trust yourself, and sometimes that starts with a leap of faith with the right person.�
Maybe that's me? I'd be happy to book a 15 m zoom call with you to do this exercise, no expectations attached.

It just might be what you need to build enough trust in yourself to go after what you really want.

If at the end, you know I'm your person and you're willing to borrow my belief in you that you can do it, let's change your life together.

My Program

My 6 month 1-1 program, Becoming Limitless, is open for enrollment for 6 & 7 figure entrepreneurs who want to devote more of their bandwidth to achieving optimal health, doubling their energy, and establishing a sustainable health routine that aligns with their busy lifestyle.

We also work on routines for high quality sleep, simple systems for eating unprocessed food regularly during the week and increasing their resilience so they can successfully manage the stress of running a business and a family.

If you are interested, send me a DM and we’ll chat over IG to see if it’s a fit.

I’m enrolling clients now and we can get started as soon as next week.

Regardless of if you book a call, start next week or quietly consume my content for a couple of weeks, I'm here to help when you are ready.

If you’ve ever joined an online program and felt overwhelmed by how much you have to implement, read this post.

I was laughing about this with a client last week. We were commiserating about the excitement of joining a new program with the intention of watching all the videos, doing all the trainings & completing all the worksheets.

But then you get a few too many videos in, jumped on the last 3 group calls and you have so much to implement that you get STUCK in analysis paralysis and do nothing.

Plus, that feeling of having SO many good things to implement but no time to do it all right now is beyond frustrating 😂

This is why, beginning in March, we are bringing monthly coaching topics to The Becoming Limitless Program.

Each month we will dive deeply, both with brief, actionable lessons and with 1-1 coaching on implementation on ONE topic.

This will give you the time you need to absorb and implement.

To create consistency and routines and habits.

To fully immerse yourself in mastering one new thing.�
March’s topic is all about how to schedule and manage your time, both in your business and personal life.�
By carefully planning your weekly schedule, you'll establish firm boundaries that safeguard your health and well-being, preventing work obligations from encroaching and allowing you to prioritize your health effectively.

Trying to cram a new workout program, meal planning routine or evening wind down protocol into a jam packed schedule is a recipe for disaster.

For the month of March, we’ll be coaching on:

* Creating and implementing boundaries with your time, energy and work schedule�
* Getting clear on how many hours per week you want to work and WHY�
* Deciding what you want to spend your time on each week and what you can let go of, then creating your weekly schedule around these decisions�
* My productivity framework for how to schedule your day so you get everything done�
* My process for knowing when to make changes�
* Becoming a time hacker (hint: it begins in your mind!)�

Every week, there will be a small task to take action on.

During the week, you can ask for coaching in the community or bring it to our next group call where everyone who wants 1-1 time, gets 1-1 time.

By the end of March, you’ll be proud of how you’re investing your time. You’ll see exactly where all your health habits fit in so you never run out of time.

You’ll feel so organized and in control.

Plus, you’ll have the entire Becoming Limitless Video library and 1-1 voice/messenger coaching available with me if you want to work on another area, like your sleep, workouts or meal planning, concurrently.�
In addition to your 90 min onboarding 1-1 call, you’ll be joining an active community of entrepreneurs who are focussing on improving their health with science.

I’ll also be sending you an Oura ring as a welcome gift so we can use your body’s data insights to make informed decisions on your health.

During our time together, we will work on routines for high quality sleep, simple systems for eating unprocessed food regularly during the week and increasing your resilience so you can successfully manage the stress of running a business and a family.�
The investment for this program is in the mid to low four figures, which is relatively modest considering the depth of expertise I bring to the table from over 10 years in business.�
DM me if you are interested and we’ll have a chat to see if it’s a fit. I’m enrolling clients now and we can get started as soon as next week.�
Your coach,
Tanessa

“I know WHAT to do, but I can’t figure out WHY I’m not doing it”.

I can clearly feel the frustration on a consultation call when I’m speaking with an entrepreneur who has successfully built a multi-six or seven figure business, but can’t figure out how to stick to eating well for more than a week or two.

They don’t want more “how-tos” or “hacks” or recipes - they already know exactly what to do if they want to improve their health.

Where they get stuck is in the never ending on-the-wagon and off-the-wagon loop. They wonder if they’ll ever figure out how to be consistent with their health.

They often think the solution is more accountability, a simpler routine, or more time in their week to stick to their habits.

While these things contribute to consistency, they aren’t the reason you are struggling to stick with it.

You are having a hard time following through because of your tolerance (or rather, intolerance) for discomfort.

When starting a new habit, the newness and excitement are what keep you going and committed.

Let’s use the example of going to bed on time. When you first start this habit, it’s fun to jump in bed on time and be able to say you did it.

You’re excited to wake up tomorrow and see your Apple Watch or your Oura ring tell you that you did a great job.

But what your brain never plans for is the exhausting day at work where you spent half of the day fixated on a negative comment you received from an internet troll.

You’ve spent so much of the day in fight or flight that you just want me time at the end of the day, to escape into the numbness of Instagram doom scrolling, email checking or multiple episodes of Love Is Blind.

Bedtime comes and the idea of telling yourself to go to bed feels ridiculous. You aren’t a child, you don’t have to have a bedtime…

…and your brain tells you it’s okay, you can skip it. It’s not a big deal, you can start again on Monday.

All because the day was draining and now you’re feeling so anxious or spinny from being in your head all day. Zoning out into your phone or on the couch makes all that go away.

But this makes you miss bedtime.

And you stay frustrated with yourself for never being consistent, even though you really wanted it a couple of days ago.

So let’s circle back to HOW to solve this and your discomfort tolerance.

I’ve noticed that the clients of mine who have wonderful success in implementing and sticking to their habits have a high tolerance for uncomfortable or negative emotions, like anxiety, overwhelm, stress, shame etc.

The clients that struggle with consistency are those that are trying to avoid negative feelings all of the time by choosing to do things that make them feel temporarily better, like overeating, or scrolling IG instead of actually feeling their feelings.

So if you were my client, here is how I would coach you through this moment after an exhausting day when your bedtime is 10 pm, it’s 9:55 pm and you want to keep scrolling:

First, breathe. Get into your body.

Second, what is it that you’re trying to escape? Is it anxiety? Sadness? Something else? Name it.

FEEL that feeling. Describe it to me as if I were from outer space - is it in your chest?

Are you warm or cold? Is your thinking fast or slow? Is your throat tight or relaxed?

What are you FEELING in your body? Stay present. You’re ok. Really.

What if the worst thing that could happen… was a feeling?

Breathe again.

What if you didn’t need to escape this? What if you just let that uncomfortable feeling hang out without having to DO something to get rid of it?

What you’ll probably notice is it passes. That feeling is not forever.

If you can practice feeling uncomfortable, negative emotions in your body without needing to escape it, your tolerance for it will increase.

You’ll learn that you can FEEL hard things without reacting to it.

When you stop reacting out of fear of feeling a feeling…

…you can make better choices.

Like going to bed on time, planning your food for the week or getting out of bed and doing your workout.

Even if you don’t want to.

In my 6 month, 1-1 coaching program, developing lasting consistency with their health routines is one of the main things I help 6 & 7 figure entrepreneurs with when they want to devote more of their bandwidth to achieving optimal health, doubling their energy, and establishing a sustainable health routine that aligns with their busy lifestyle.

We also work on routines for high quality sleep, simple systems for eating unprocessed food regularly during the week and increasing their resilience so they can successfully manage the stress of running a business and a family.

DM me if you are interested and we’ll have a chat to see if it’s a fit. I’m enrolling clients now and we can get started as soon as next week.

An Invitation to Work with Me

Are you a successful entrepreneur running a 6 or 7+ figure business, feeling drained and lacking focus due to neglecting your health?�

If so, I invite you to join my 6-month program designed to help you achieve optimal health, double your energy, and establish a sustainable health routine that aligns with your busy lifestyle.

Throughout the program, we will focus on the following areas, with the flexibility to adjust based on your interests and needs:
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1) Achieve high-quality sleep by implementing effective routines and habits.

Getting great sleep is the most impactful discovery I've made for boosting energy levels and enhancing focus, productivity, and clarity because it calms your nerves.�

When your nervous system is constantly in fight or flight mode due to the demands of entrepreneurship and getting short or interrupted sleep, it can result in brain fog, feeling drained post-work, and lacking the energy to enjoy your life.�

Together, we'll establish a wind-down routine to quiet your mind before bed, make subtle adjustments to your sleeping environment for deeper sleep, and create a morning routine to boost energy and set the stage for restful sleep the next night.
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2) Streamline your meal planning with a simple system, allowing you to spend less time in the kitchen and more time enjoying real, unprocessed foods that enhance clarity and energy.

Tailored to your weekly schedule, you'll have a clear plan for meal planning, grocery shopping, and cooking.

Plus, you'll receive guidance on making healthier modifications to your favorite meals while you (and your family!) are still enjoying them.
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3) Incorporate regular self-care practices into your daily routine to increase resilience and better manage the stress of entrepreneurship.

I have a protocol dedicated to integrating small yet impactful wellness practices into your daily routine. These practices encompass various elements like movement & exercise, breathwork techniques, and moments of intentional pause for tranquility and peace.

Moreover, this protocol extends to optimizing how you manage and schedule your time, both in your business and personal life. By carefully planning your weekly schedule, you'll establish firm boundaries that safeguard your health and well-being, preventing work obligations from encroaching and allowing you to prioritize self-care effectively.
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What Is Included - A Tailored Approach�

I've noticed that some clients prefer to prioritize sleep and establish routines for their mornings and evenings, while others lean towards focusing on time and stress management, meal planning, and exercise.

Either way is fine - this program is flexible and we can tailor our approach to suit your needs and preferences perfectly

In this program, you'll kick things off with a 90-minute Zoom call to set the stage for our journey together.

Additionally, you'll benefit from weekly group coaching calls and access to a supportive community of wellness-focused entrepreneurs.�

Plus, you'll have lifetime access to comprehensive video training programs covering each of the three key areas we'll focus on.

To ensure your experience is personalized to your needs, you'll complete a brief, 5-minute survey each week.

I'll personally review your responses and provide coaching via messenger or voice notes throughout the week to help you progress with each habit we incorporate over our six months together.

As your coach, I'll guide you in shifting your mindset around health, regularly check in to keep you accountable, and provide unlimited support for any questions or concerns you may have�

Is This You?

The best fit person for this program is someone who has the bandwidth in both their business and personal life to prioritize their health.�

They should also possess a willingness to explore new approaches and be open to leveraging their body's data insights to make informed decisions about their well-being.

This personalized approach ensures that the program evolves based on your body's feedback, guiding our next steps more effectively.

The Investment

The investment for this program is in the mid to low four figures, which is relatively modest considering the depth of expertise I bring to the table from over 10 years in business.

I specialize in helping entrepreneurs build sustainable routines tailored to their unique entrepreneurial lifestyle, complete with its unexpected challenges, late nights, and endless to-do lists.

As an added bonus, clients who enrol in this program will receive an Oura Ring as a welcome gift.

Previous clients have experienced a renewed excitement for life and business, maintaining alertness and focus throughout their days without experiencing afternoon crashes.�

They've also enjoyed more quality time with their kids, embodying the role model of a parent and CEO they aspire to be.

Interested?

I’d be happy to show you testimonials from numerous clients who have shared how taking control of their health and experiencing improved energy and well-being has positively impacted their lives and businesses.�

If you're interested, simply send me a DM and we can chat over messenger to see if it’s a fit.�

I've noticed that there's a specific profile of individuals who thrive in this program, and I can quickly assess whether you align with it through our conversation.�

If you do, we can get you started in the program as early as next week.

Your coach,
Tanessa

It was supposed to be a different post to you today, but I ended up spending the day in a volcano crater instead (for real!).

Sunday & Monday are my heavy creative focussed days - I make posts, I write newsletters, I outline podcasts etc.

But have you ever had one of those days where you got done HALF of what you planned...or less?

Yeah, that was yesterday for me.

I've worked with a ton of clients in my program, Becoming Limitless, that would continue work later than planned or jump back on their computer after the kids went to bed to finish up a few tasks.

(Perhaps this is you, too?)

If it is, this post will share how I coach my brain when doing MORE MORE MORE is all I want to do.

How I Intentionally Slow Down

I really wanted to spend this week sharing a few of my client stories.

I had this series of 5 or 6 posts planned and was so excited to tell you about the new way I'm getting my clients faster results.

But like I said, our family took Sunday off to spend the day in a volcano crater swimming in mountain pools, hanging out with pythons and buying fresh fruit from the Sunday market.

It was ok, I would get the posts done Monday.

But Monday went sideways. I got started an hour late and spent the afternoon analyzing and re-creating an Instagram ad instead of writing those posts.

5:28pm had rolled around.

Still working.

No posts written.

I could hear my brain screaming, "WRITE THEM, Tanessa. Keep working!"

I could also hear my kids playing in the pool outside and I told them I'd be there by 5:30.

I heard my brain negotiating:

Just write the first two.
Get up early every day and write them on the fly this week.
Do it after the kids go to sleep.
This is important!

But here is what I have learned over the last ten years in business: there is nothing that can't wait until tomorrow.

Who was putting this pressure on me to get this post series out THIS week? Me.

Who was the one telling me that I wasn't doing good enough and that I wasn't sticking to the plan? Me.

I'm the CEO of this company. Me. Not my noisy, chirpy brain.

So I told my brain I'm in charge. These posts are coming out next week instead.

Getting them done this week won't make me feel better or like I've done enough. Or more worthy. Or more successful, happy or valuable.

Only I get to decide that.

My productivity has NOTHING to do with my value as a human.

And at that moment, I didn't want to miss watching Hanna put her face in the water by herself for the first time.

I didn't want to miss slow evenings.

Getting high fives from Tenley every 5 minutes.
The sunset.
Sand in my toes.

Life is for living.

It's MY job to make sure I'm enjoying it.

So you'll get those posts next week.

Because right now, I've got a life to live and there is nothing that can't wait until tomorrow.

And if you want help to shift the way you think about busyness and work so you can make space for the things in life that are meaningful, like time with your kids, planning healthy food and getting really great sleep, send me a DM.

This is the focus of my 1-1 health program for entrepreneurs.

Our community is spending the entire month of March workshopping on how to create, organize & manage your time so you can have space to implement your updates health routines.

DM me for more information on my program, Becoming Limitless.

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I’ve got something you might be interested in 👇

If you:
✅ Are an entrepreneur
✅ Want to use wearable tech insights to personalize your health protocol
✅ Dream of balancing your health with your business

And you’re looking for:
👀 A sustainable increase in your energy & focus
👀 that fits into your busy, entrepreneurial lifestyle
👀 without information overload & stress
👀 so you can be more productive in your business
👀 and spend more meaningful time with family…

THEN READ THIS POST.

I’ve got something you might be interested in.

I’ve upgraded my signature 1-1 program, Becoming Limitless, a 16-week comprehensive health and performance blueprint for 6&7 figure entrepreneurs.

IN THE FIRST 30 DAYS OF WORKING WITH ME, WE IMPLEMENT ONE OF MY PROVEN FAST START HABITS, LIKE THE CIRCADIAN RHYTHM RESET, WHICH HAS HELPED CLIENTS LIKE….

🔥Ysaline who increased productivity in her business & felt more energized
🔥Jennifer who boosted sleep quality & felt like an entirely different person
🔥Melissa who stopped getting headaches & eliminated brain fog
🔥Eman who went from 5 hours of sleep per night to 7.5 hours
🔥Karen & Barb who established a consistent bedtime routine & fell asleep on time

And this is just 1 of the 4 habits you get on DAY ONE.

After investing a lot of time and money into my own business, improving my process, making it simpler, and helping clients get results faster…

The already epic Becoming Limitless Private Coaching Experience is getting some upgrades.

🚨With the upgrades comes a significant price increase on October 20th🚨

So if you’re serious about achieving optimal health & wellness, want to work with me personally to speed up your results and save yourself $1,000…

Then check out some of the upgrades and what it means for you:

🔋YOUR ENERGY: With personalized sleep quality enhancement, nutrition & energy mastery and tailored exercise protocols backed by wearable tech data, we will boost energy and productivity so you can achieve peak mental clarity & performance.

🔋YOUR TIME: Implement techniques that integrate your new, healthy lifestyle with your demanding work schedule. Ditch the overwhelming stress that comes with the time constraints of running a successful business & learn how to maintain a successful health routine, even during busy seasons.

🔋YOUR CONFIDENCE: You’ll undergo a complete mindset calibration to recognize and eliminate behaviours that don’t serve the future CEO version of you so you can give priority to health and business.

🔋YOUR PLAN: Using your Oura ring, you'll be able to understand how each strategy affects your body so we can personalize everything to YOU and create a custom health plan from day one. You'll never have to guess if something you're doing is working ever again OR stay stuck in information overload.

🔋YOUR COMMUNITY: Surround yourself with fellow successful, like minded entrepreneurs who are focusing on building a health first mindset. Engage daily in the community or come together weekly to receive live coaching and support or participate in weekly micro workshops.

🔋THE COACHING: Inside this container, you’ll work 1-1 with Tanessa each week on Zoom to refine your plan and hold you accountable to your goals. Need help between calls? You’ll have full access to me 5 days per week with fast response times to keep you moving forward.

SO…

If you are tired of feeling drained, searching google for strategies to help you upgrade your health or trying to figure out how to make it all fit in a busy schedule…

…and you want a seasoned expert to tell you exactly what to do so you can take action and get results faster…

Someone who has been where you are and understands the time constraints, stress and struggle that come with being a successful entrepreneur…

…so you can finally balance your life and your business and have the energy you want to have meaningful moments with your family….

👉👉👉 Comment the word OFFER below and I'll send you a message with details.

If you are a fit, I'd be happy to offer a payment plan too.

Want info?

Comment with the word OFFER.