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The more I learned about ADHD and accepted this was my brains operating system.

The more I understood my experience with grief.

And both helped me show up and mother the way that felt true to me.

My conversation this week on the podcast “Can’t Call Your Mom, with Dori Zener & Associates we talked all things ADHD, motherhood and grief.

Oh and the intensity of rejection sensitivity and how it can hit HARD after motherloss.

I could talk all things I’ve learned on my journey of ADHD and motherloss because everything has helped me become more ME while riding the waves of life after motherloss.

You can subscribe and listen to our episode anywhere you get your podcast. Or comment CALL and I’ll send you the link to the episode.

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"I’m not responsible for what happened to me, but I am responsible for how I take care of myself moving forward." 🕊️

This week, I’m joined by the incredible Karli Karandos for a conversation that truly touched my soul. We dive deep into the complexity of loving a mother who struggled with addiction, the power of inner child work, and what it actually means to ‘alchemize’ our grief.

If you’ve ever felt like your journey is a ‘both/and’—where you hold both the pain and the love—this episode is for you. We talk about breaking cycles, nervous system regulation, and the beauty of choosing ourselves.

Listen to the full conversation on my podcast Can’t Call Your Mom

“If I could call my mom today, I would say, ‘Mom, you were right.’”

Grief is often a lonely road, but it doesn’t have to be. I’m joined by Erin Kent, founder of the newly launched Ryan’s Crossing, to talk about life after loss, the power of community, and rediscovering the fire in your belly when everything else feels like it’s falling apart. You don’t want to miss this deeply honest conversation about love, regret, and the unexpected gifts hidden within our hardest moments.

Ryan’s crossing is here to support you through all of life’s hardest transitions with calm and compassionate care. Share Ryan’s Crossing with your loved ones who are seeking community as they navigate the waves of grief.

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Our episode is live August 12.

Five years into this journey, here is what I’ve learned: being the “strong one” didn’t make me strong. It just kept my pain stuck in my body.

Every time I said, “Don’t worry, I’ll figure it out,” I was going into an old survival pattern that taught me how to control everything! Including making sure no more tragedy happened.

(Thank you brain I love you and also that’s not living that’s surviving).

And the biggest learning?!

Expecting myself to keep up with my life before my mom died.

I’m not the same person. I never will be.

But I’m a Leo, I’m determined and passionate and full of energy.

So a year later when I woke up and still didn’t recognize myself, lost direction and was angry at myself for failing, I knew it was time to re evaluate how I was taking care of me.

I’m not a grief coach or therapist and how you do grief is up to you.

I’m a somatic practitioner & transformational life coach and I’ve been guiding people back to loving the selves for 14 years.

It was my turn to do the work again.

And when I tell you how liberated I felt when I stoped trying to go back to who I was, I mean I am liberated. Free. Free to become me.

From identity collapse to identity integration.

Becoming Her, me. Loving her gracefully while becoming the woman she is.

I’ve put it all in a free guide just for you if you feel like you don’t know where to start!

Comment HER below and I will DM you the link.

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I stopped trying to get back to who I was after my mom died, that version was gone.

I spent years trying to return to my “normal” self after my mom died. I was living my life outside of my loss, hoping that if I just worked hard enough, I could find the woman I was before.

But that woman was gone—and clinging to her was the very thing keeping me stuck.

The shift didn’t happen when I finally “fixed” my grief. It happened when I stopped trying to get back and started looking forward at who I was becoming. I took my own professional framework, sat down as a motherless mother, and began the deep, work of remothering my own inner child.

I stopped trying to “fix” the pain and started integrating it with my mind AND body. The strategy with the somatic release is EVERYTHING,

I believe that losing your mother is a profound, unwanted invitation. It changes you at a biological level—how you lead, how you love, and how you hold boundaries. You don’t “get over” that. You weave it into the foundation of who you are becoming.

When you stop trying to live outside of your grief, you stop being a survivor of your life and start being the architect of it.

I created the “Becoming Her” Workbook to give you the map for this integration.

It’s not a journal for “getting over it.” It’s a 5-part reflective guide to help you:

✨ Witness the woman you were (without the shame of missing her).

✨ Listen to what your body is actually holding.

✨ Navigate the initiation of this new identity.

You don’t have to “go back.”

You are being called to slow down and listen. So you can build a life that honors everything you’ve been through.

I help motherless mothers find their footing—honoring the mother you lost while deeply honoring the woman you are becoming today.

Comment HER and I’ll send you the link to start your integration journey.

I was stuck in at all and I remember feeling completely lost.

I remember the exact moment I decided I couldn’t do it this way anymore. I knew I had to change how Inwas taking care of myself after my mom died.

Becoming HER, is rediscovering who you are on the other side of motherloss.It’s not about forgetting the past or “fixing” the grief.

It’s about integrating the parts of you that were frozen in time so you can finally move forward with peace.

I’ve created a free guide to help you begin this integration and it launches July 3.

Comment HER below and I’ll send you the link to join the waitlist.

In this week’s episode, I’m sitting down with Ashley Ashley | Grief Coach | End-of-Life Doula for a deeply honest conversation about grieving a parent who struggled with mental illness and addiction, and what it’s like to say goodbye during the isolation of COVID-19.

We’re creating space for the moms who are navigating the complexity of loss—the guilt, the relief, the boundaries, and the path to finding peace after a difficult relationship ends.

If your experience with Father’s Day is layered or non-traditional, you are not alone.

🎧 Listen to the full episode grab the link in my bio

I spent years trying to glue the pieces back together.

I was trying so hard to be the version of myself that existed before my mom died—trying to fit into an old identity that simply didn’t fit anymore. It felt like wearing jeans that were 10 years too old. I desperately wanted them to work, but they didn’t.

When our mothers leave, the mirror we use to see ourselves shatters.

For a long time, I thought the goal was to “fix” my grief. I thought if I could just get back to the person I was, I would feel normal again.

But I eventually realized the truth: I was never going to get back to her. That woman? Her mother was still living.

I had to stop trying to reconstruct the past and start integrating who I am now. That integration—that is where the peace is.

If you’re feeling stuck at the two-year mark (or beyond), please hear this: You aren’t doing it wrong. You are just navigating a new life with an old blueprint. And it’s okay to get to know the woman you are becoming.

I’ve created a guide to help you tap into that woman. It’s a tool to help you check in daily, see what matters now, and decide what stays in the past.

I’m launching this guide on July 3rd.

Comment “HER” below and I’ll DM you the link to join the waitlist.

Can we talk about grief and identity?

If someone had sat me down 5 years ago and said “Nicole, the woman you are will no longer be the same and here’s how to navigate it” I would have LOVED the guidance and even just the heads up.

I get it. My grief journey is mine to explore. As yours is for you too.

And, I wish I could go back and tell her, grief is going to completely change you AND here’s what to expect.

Parts of me died with her.

We often talk about the pain of missing her, but we rarely talk about the pain of missing ourselves.

When our mother leaves, the mirror we used to see ourselves in shatters. And this becomes complicated if the relationship was layered with complexity.

We spend years trying to glue the pieces back together, but we end up creating a version of ourselves that’s just surviving—not becoming.

That’s when I was stuck. Nothing was happening.

I felt disconnected from who I was and had no idea who I was becoming.

I did the inner work, not to fix grief, but to discover who I was now.

I needed to know her.

Through that work, I found peace, clarity, and confidence in moving froward.

I learned how to honour both my grief and myself.

IIf you feel like you’ve been ‘stuck’ since she died, it’s not because you’re doing it wrong. It’s because you’re trying to navigate a new life with an old blueprint.

Becoming HER—the woman on the other side of this loss—isn’t about forgetting the past. It’s about integrating the parts of you that have been frozen in time since she left.

I’ve created a free guide to help you begin and I am releasing it July 3.

Comment HER and I’ll send you a link to join the waitlist.

If you’re ready for deeper support, DM me about my 1:1 Breakthrough Program.