09/02/2026
If someone had sat me down 5 years ago and said āNicole, the woman you are will no longer be the same and hereās how to navigate itā I would have LOVED the guidance and even just the heads up.
I get it. My grief journey is mine to explore. As yours is for you too.
And, I wish I could go back and tell her, grief is going to completely change you AND hereās what to expect.
Parts of me died with her.
We often talk about the pain of missing her, but we rarely talk about the pain of missing ourselves.
When our mother leaves, the mirror we used to see ourselves in shatters. And this becomes complicated if the relationship was layered with complexity.
We spend years trying to glue the pieces back together, but we end up creating a version of ourselves thatās just survivingānot becoming.
Thatās when I was stuck. Nothing was happening.
I felt disconnected from who I was and had no idea who I was becoming.
I did the inner work, not to fix grief, but to discover who I was now.
I needed to know her.
Through that work, I found peace, clarity, and confidence in moving froward.
I learned how to honour both my grief and myself.
IIf you feel like youāve been āstuckā since she died, itās not because youāre doing it wrong. Itās because youāre trying to navigate a new life with an old blueprint.
Becoming HERāthe woman on the other side of this lossāisnāt about forgetting the past. Itās about integrating the parts of you that have been frozen in time since she left.
Iāve created a free guide to help you begin.
Comment HER and Iāll send you a link.