Single mothers empowerment

Thanks tumy modise for the article i believe single are inspired

CREATE YOUR CHILD S LEGACY
often tyms we dwell too much on our emotions and our pains.how much we have been hurt dan of wat we leaving for our kids.
Why must we be busy collecting material things when what we can instill is beyond that.one catholic sister once taught me that we need to create a legacy beyond only life policies and filling banks with money.how about spiritual and emotional legacy. Stand up and have a chat with your child from a tender age about life in general.do you knw dat a child understand i am broke.i cannot take you out.give a child wisdom to be a better person than to carry ur bitterness with you.we determine legacy ourself and our guidance paves a way for child s legacy.
ASK YOUR SELF THE TYPE OF LEGACY YOU WANNA LEAVE FOR YOUR CHILDREN

THE PAIN IS UNBEARABLE BUT U CAN OVERCOME
i used to cry myself to sleep when i was left with just a small baby to care for.the remaining seven months of my pregnancy were the hardest alone with a fatherless baby i used to think it will never come to pass.i got to realise that those months were just a stage preparing me for for full force motherhood.today i look at those young girls and say its not a death penalty.you will overcome i tell you.those sleepless nights where you will ask yourself if it will be ok.i am a living testimony that it is well.some things happen to us so we can learn from them.they are there to prepare you for greater things.some of you experienced it all after the child was born.i tell u its ok.be determined that it will be and take single parenting as a calling and when u have a calling do t with all your heart. Never give up dont cry like its the end of the world.you nid to stand up for u n your child.life is like being on the road along the way der ll be a pothole a few hardy things.you get delayed but you still have to reach your destination
REMEMBER:DO IT FOR YOUR CHILDREN OR CHILD
remain smiling you nvr knw who is faling in love with that smile

Lets discuss one man bodily said we single mothers are not capable of raising a male child.that we cannot teach a boy to be a good a good man.i want your opinion as we interact

DONT LET HISTORY REPEAT ITSELF

This line is usually used by parents i raised you single handed without your father why so you want to know him now.som histories can be re written.we as single mothers can take control of the situation.i know we cannot force a man to look after his kid but the poor child still deserve to know.do not use your harsh conditions towards the upbringing of your kid.i have seen many kids cry caus their parents are selfish to direct them to their fathers.the main reason being that you have invested on that child.you were not doing that child a favour it was obligatory if not mandatory.you were duty bound for u brought that child to earth.we are capable of re writing our history by making t right.i got to learn that we women make the mistakes of sleeping with men whom who knw nothing about.their home village their parents and when they disappear we got know way to look for them.Ladies you must know that man before you can go that deeep with him.you cannot sleep with a man you know nothing about and expect a child to live with your selfish mistake.a kid deserve to know both the mother and father s families.please make the right decisions

APARA O TLA GOLA LE TSONE (WEAR DEM U LL GROW WITH DEM)

I still do this where you will buy a kid larger clothes so that as they grow up they still get to wear them.there are just so many things to take care of that at tyms you cannot buy clothes for your kid.at times i look at the clothes my kido wears they are three years old.why buy tight fitting clothes which the kid ll wear for a few months.where are u going to fet money to buy time n again.m not saying they should be too big just give allowance for growth. Its not abuse.

THE THOUGHT ABOUT DEATH

This is one thought that often crossed my mind.i had no zeal nor the zest to continue with life.my kid was a constant reminder of how i sucked in relationships.the funny thing was this same child i had so much love for him.its jst that being der alone as a single mother was never easy.at times i would plead with God to take me caus i could not face the world.financially emotionally i was drained. Imagine a colledge student who had to use their allowance to provide for a baby.you cant match the standard of ur age mates.sometimes you have doctors s bill cause the government services are nt always super.rushing in between lessons my goodness.loving someone who does not feel the same is stressful enuf.ladies all i wanna say today is its not easy but the smile n hugs that i got from this child were sufficient enough to rule death out.the creator s plans for you are not yours.i bet some even asked God to atleast take the child for the child seemed to be the cause of ur
unhappiness.its a phase my darling many have passed through t.we cannot judge u.

FORGIVENESS

Well this page i made it my offload zone.i made a resolution towards end of 2015 that i must let go of the anger in me and accept that i am a single mother.the bitterness must go.the anger must go.it is vital that we accept our situations as thy are because there is a reason behind being a single mother. It is not a curse.today i urge u to forgive but then forgiveness starts with you.some are being harsh on themselves they may be believing that they did something wrong or that they could have done something right to have kept your baby daddy.my sister as much as we have control over our destination some things we just cannot control them.the road to forgiveness require you to think hard on those negative thoughts.the ruthless atterances you made.the bad talk on daily basis.from that alone what good has come out of it all.that you have to think about.how many times have you called that guy to tell him how much of a useless father he is.what good came from that.untill you learn to let go of that and say father today i give onto your hands then emotionally you will get a break.nobody said its an easy thing to forgive but i tell you my sister you shall be set free.when you have forgiven him what he drives wears and drinks does not matter anymore.your focus now is on your child and your child will see you glowing on daily basis.your hapiness becomes his/hers and your smile belongs to your child.

Today kneel and talk to the living God and say father i am not a perfect being.today i call the holy spirit to dwell in my heart to strengthen me as i go through the path of forgiveness. Let your spirit surround me in jesus s name.Amen

ABORTION IS IT WORTH IT

Many females resort to arbotion because the guy is no more.i am like really people.why murder a child for a guy or for the mere fact that the guy made you do it.we have a choice.let me share my experience with you i got pregnant immediately when i finished school that guy gave me one altetnative abort that child i cried endlessly but i never for once thought of abortion.i had a great future ahead of me my parents cried caus i passed and varsity was on the way.i made that choice that without him i ll have this child.not long i was told my kid was not one but two so i saved two lives.m still happy with my choice of keeping the barbies.so many gals have made abortion and now thy cannot have kids.ur decision is catching up with you the guy is busy with others and you are miserable.i plead with all females choose to save a life and be a single mother than to live your life regretting one person s mistake.let go of that murderer in you and be proud to sleep next to your kids.today on daily basis my sons tell me how much thy love me.i dont sleep alone i got a lovely seven year old to keep me warm.the one who comforts me and gives me strength to face each day.you are the key to your life make the right choice and dont live to regret a decision cause you thought you loved the man.

MOTHERS YOU ARE IMPORTANT

it got an inspirational kid who hugs me kisses me tells me how much he loves.all m saying is that we as single mothers bring joy to the lives of our children.let us appreciate that we dont live for we.we live to survive for our own children they depend on us.its us and them against the world.so ladies please do know you are significant in the lives of those angels

ARE WOMEN TO BLAME
well when so many things happen especially wrong things the fingers point at a woman.is it because women have always done t all to protect their families.its quite touching to see mant females being blamed for the wrong tuen up of a child.a female child when she becomes a nonsense people will blame it on the mother.my fellow sisters single mothers out there stay strong.thy will judge u and persecute you.a child is someone who has to be looked after by a mother and a father.you as a single mother you are doing both jobs you are a father and a mother.you are nurturing that child teaching them to be both a father and a mum.dont look down upon that role you are playing.the tears and the pains you go through are for something.be comforted my sisters its not a smooth journey.our parents raised us from nothing and we something.your child will become something even without his dad

TEACH YOUR CHILD
being a single parent is hard such that i learned that i need to at times chat with my child.you will be surprised how understanding a child can be.there us that point in life where i do not work yet i have to provide.my child and i talk especially when its hard and i cannot please them.i tell them baby i know how you want that and that but i do not have money but when i get some i will buy it.thy are now used to mum when you have money or when you get a kob buy this for me.our children understand learn to engage them in serious conversations