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The Bhutan Council for School Examinations and Assessment (BCSEA), under the Ministry of Education and Skills Development (MoESD), Thimphu, is pleased to announce that the results for BHSEC & LCSC Class XII and CE Class VIII for the year 2024 will be declared tomorrow, 14th January 2025, at 11:00 AM. We kindly request everyone to stay tuned for updates and further information on the official MoESD and BCSEA page and websites.

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A lesson we all should learn ….

Dear adults, parents, Guardians and teachers:
The exams of your children are to start soon or has started. I know you are all really anxious for your child to do well.
But, please do remember, amongst the students who will be sitting for the exams there is an artist, who doesn't need to understand Math... There is an entrepreneur, who doesn't care about History or English literature... There is a musician, whose Chemistry marks won't matter... There's an athlete... whose physical fitness is more important than Physics... If your child does get top marks, that's great! But if he or she doesn't... please don't take away their self-confidence and dignity from them. Tell them it's OK, it's just an exam! They are cut out for much bigger things in life. Tell them, no matter what they score... you love them and will not judge them.
Please do this, and when you do...watch your children conquer the world. One exam or a low mark won't take away...their dreams and talent. And please, do not think that doctors and engineers... are the only happy people in the world. (Source:google)

Happiness is a journey and it will never be a destination. Writing this is not to make anyone feel uncomfortable but to learn together that life is more important than anything and let’s put life first.

What reading does has everything to do with positive growth.
Reading makes them understand better, comprehend better and question more which are attributes that helps a child grow.

As adults and parents we must advocate and show them how to do it. The question that’s mostly asked is “I don’t know how to read and write, how do I help my child” but we can see and observation is a strong asset for anyone who cannot read and write but want to help your child. Observe them ask questions, talk to someone who can help like teachers, other adults etc…

We can if we want to … and that want is more important ….

If your goal is obedience and not understanding, you’re still leading with correction, instead of connection.

I am sure I will get lots of comments saying “but we need obedience at times!” Hear me out… I know not everyone will believe this… it’s so far from what we have been taught BUT… when we lead with understanding, if “obedience” is necessary, we will be able to collaborate towards that goal, more easily. So what I’m saying is, if we take the time to understand what our child’s need is, we likely won’t need obedience because we’ll be able to collaborate towards a common goal. But that goal can not be one-sided. We can’t just listen and then go-ahead and push our agenda (sometimes we have to) but when you do insist on obedience without understanding and collaboration, you will likely receive push-back because they know they are worthy of more.

When obedience is expected without understanding or collaboration, respect and connection is lost, not gained.

I do not want my child’s skin to be so thick that they cannot feel the pain of others.

Empathy is desperately lacking in this world. Within our society. The children give me hope. We cannot thicken their skin through mistreatment but rather build their confidence and empathy through nurturing. Responsive Parenting embodies this perspective.

The mad, sad, silly, frustrated and overwhelmed versions of your child need as much love and acceptance as the polite and obedient versions do.

Want to go even deeper? The versions of your child that you struggle to love and accept unconditionally, usually remind us of the versions of ourselves that we don’t love and accept. If you’re finding it hard to love and accept all the parts of your child, you may want to reflect on whether you also struggle to unconditionally love and accept all the parts of yourself.

Learn more about this journey in my latest book 👇

Finding Your Calm: A Responsive Parents Guide to Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation⁣⁣
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Link in bio or on the Website: responsiveparentinginspirations.com⁣⁣

If you wear good clothes, you are a show off, if you wear simple clothes you are poor, if you speak your mind you are arrogant, if you don’t speak you are coward, whatever we do the world has something to say.

What should we as adults, parents and educators understand about students ?

We were once a student and we know what it feels like to be a student. But are we really thinking that way now that we are adults.

We are talking about how students and children have problems ( behaviour, academics, mental health issues, economic issues, issues at home, etc ) but have we invested time and given time to them. Talking about their academics for sometime and giving up is not going to help them we must help them understand and invest time. Expecting change the next day is not how it works… work with them for longer duration… children require time and us as an adult do too…

Be confidential about a child’s problem. We don’t want to talk to someone who talks to everyone about our problem. Adults want to solve and share in a confidential space and to the right person example we share problems to only those who listens and gives us hope.
But is this the same with children, we as adults, parents and educator talk about a child’s problem in front of the whole crowd and many join in too… where is confidentiality?
Don’t you think children deserve confidentiality as well?

Our reading and studying methods are not that good yet we want our children to do it, our mistakes, we hide it better but a child’s mistake never gets that reinforcement it deserves. Our intentions are always good and directed towards the good of our children but the question here is are our methods good enough.

Children at this day and age are advanced than we were in our past but we are still relentlessly defending that old system because we grew in that, but will this help today’s generation… a simple analogy is the use of tech and social media…. This generation understands these better but old generation are using it too which actually shows that we have technically moved but our notion of educating our child has remained there only…

I am writing this as my own reflection but this can also be your as well…