25/04/2023
Adopting new and healthier habits in your relationship, or your life in general, can create a lot of anxiety.
It's often easier to stick with what you know, but often what feels familiar only provides a temporary and false sense of safety.
If you stay brave, stick with positive changes, and face your fears, the unknown will eventually become the norm and you will have found the true safety you've been looking for all this time.
Only you can know what those changes will need to look like to get yourself unstuck. Sometimes you already know, sometimes it takes some soul searching. Maybe you need to start setting boundaries. Maybe you need to look inward and truly face your part of relationship problems. Maybe you need to learn to take risks and be more vulnerable, so you can more fully connect to your partner. Maybe you need to practice staying with a hard discussion even when everything in you wants to run away or shut down.
Only you can truly know what you need to change in order to move out of false safety and put in the hard, but ultimately freeing work, to find true security.
