Coach Ayu Asi

✨Remind them when they forget, affirm them
when they remember✨

We are halfway through the second week of school and I’m noticing the youngest one being more consistent this year in getting his stuff ready for school the night before.

He did forget 1 or 2 days last week but I reminded him and helped him out with it but when he’s been remembering this week, I acknowledge the effort and praise him for it.

Consistency and perseverance are key in habit building. It helps even more to be encouraging and supportive on days that they falter.

Some days it’s not about him needing the hugs, it’s about me needing it more. 🥰

2025 truly taught me the power of connections and how holding on to hope is what will get you through the toughest of times. With hope and the courage to push through, that beautiful transformations happen. Let’s continue to hold our children’s hands no matter how tough it is and push on through the challenging phases so they can get to those beautiful transformations.

Resolutions or not?
It’s that time of the year where we talk about reflections of a year passed and resolutions for an upcoming year. Some would say why would we keep making resolutions if we don’t commit to making them a reality. I choose to differ. It makes a difference in setting a target and making that intention because it helps set our mind to something. It’s like putting the destination to your life’s GPS. It gives you a direction rather than driving aimlessly.

Working late into the night 🦉

With much awareness, I still struggle
to get any serious work done in the day, especially when everyone is home.

Yet after 10pm, especially when the cleaning is done and the youngest is asleep, it’s like suddenly my engine not only warms up fast but is running at full speed.

I can’t be more alive, focused and bombarded with so many ideas and it’s 2 mins past midnight.

How to fall asleep like that?

❤️Bonding over food ❤️

You can never go wrong when it comes to food and the kids. Go to a restaurant where it caters to all of their taste buds and it creates the perfect environment for great conversations.

As much as it gets more difficult to get everyone at the table as they grow older, I’m blessed that they would still make time for a day out for shopping and makan time with the whole family.

These holidays, we were also blessed for more time together celebrating their aunty’s engagement and cousin’s wedding earlier in the month.

💕 When do we start talking about marriage? 💕

Three weekends in a row of family gatherings — engagements and weddings on both sides — naturally opened up conversations about weddings and marriage at home. With four youths in the family (and two now young adults), the timing felt… just right.

What surprised me most was hearing their perspectives — who they would invite, how big or simple a wedding should be, and what truly matters to them. Their priorities spoke volumes.

It got me thinking: should these conversations have happened later? But in the middle of real-life celebrations, they felt organic, unforced, and meaningful.

At the heart of it all is this question: who will they choose as a partner?
And that, I reminded them, always comes back to who they are as a person.

A conversation with my husband brought us back to something we often overlook — how much social circles shape who we eventually end up with.

And perhaps the most important reminder of all:
Never enter marriage thinking you can change someone.

May our children — and all of us — be guided with wisdom and clarity through this journey.

✨Coaching and the ✨

How or knowing the type of to ask help my daughter and I up our minds when we are stuck in a situation.

my daughter nowadays is not so much managing the behaviours but more helping her manage her .

She’s currently pursuing her Advance Certificate in Early Years (ACEY) at National Institute of Early Childhood (NIEC). Amazingly despite having struggled in secondary school previously, she’s excelling in this course.

The one thing she struggles with sometimes though is in not knowing where and how to start where her assignments are concerned.

How I’ve helped her always is in asking these questions.

1) what’s the objective of the assignment/what is your goal or what is the outcome that you want to achieve?

2) what resources you have or what’s your strength in this particular topic? What’s your current situation?

3) After knowing the answers to
the first 2 questions above, then it’s, “What can you start with?”

In the case below, the question that I started with was, “Which topic are you most confident in?”

Screen time - 4 years of delving into parenting coaching, time and again, the issue of not being able to control a child’s screen time comes up again and again.
So when the above announcement about tightening smartphone rules in secondary schools was made, it was largely welcomed by many parents I know, including myself.
As I mentioned above, it takes the whole village and school is one of them. We must also remind ourselves to start with ourselves, role modeling the change.

There’s no user guide nor any fixed methods in parenting but am glad to be able to contribute 1 hack to this collection of parenting hacks by Straits times. Read here for the full article: https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/parenting-education/10-hacks-for-common-parenting-struggles

Thankful for another positive review.