Mamma's Instinct

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Via

Let’s rethink and rework how birth is viewed by society these days! 💕💕💕

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Too right! 😂


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LOL yes this was me 🙋 Who can relate? ⠀
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Funny that. 😋

One year ago I birthed my last babe. He came with such speed and force I declared confidentiality that I'm never going to do that again.

Today I'm looking back on this last year and I'm so sad that all these moments are going to be my last.

Isaac Peter, you are my special guy ❤️ I never imagined such a playful and animated baby boy when you were inside. You're a wonderful surprise. Thanking God for you every day ❤️

I cringed when I heard the interviewer ask Meghan and Harry these questions. They're common questions asked of new parents that reveal our ridiculous standards of what newborn babies should be like.

All babies are good babies. Some babies sleep more than others, regardless all parents are exhausted 😴

https://www.facebook.com/103498619688114/posts/2179545475416741/

Who just sighed at the interview with Harry and Meghan and their new baby when the reporter asked this question?

This is possibly one of the most toxic (and stupid) questions we ask new parents. It sets up incorrect expectations, places undue pressure on the parents and perpetuates myths and misunderstandings about baby sleep.

Babies do NOT sleep 'well' - or correction, babies do not sleep like adults. They are MEANT to wake very regularly (by regularly I mean multiple times per night, hourly waking is not uncommon). They need to feed often, receive bodily contact from their parents (ie hugs) and frequent waking protects them against SIDS. Throughout the whole of the first year (and beyond) night waking is NORMAL. Night waking is common. It categorically does not make a baby 'bad' (I guess this is the presumption of a baby who wakes frequently - if those who don't wake often are considered 'good'?). It is not healthy for a younger baby to get long solid stretches of sleep.

Quite frankly, how a baby sleeps is nobody's business apart from the child's parents. We need to stop being nosy about it. If we must ask anything concerning sleep, it should be "how are you finding the normal frequent wakes? Do you feel you have enough support?". .

Sleeping abnormally does not make a baby 'good'. Sleeping like a normal baby and waking often does not mean they are 'not good' (or by default 'bad'). Similarly labelling a baby as good or bad is ridiculous. It's as unhelpful as labelling a toddler naughty, or easy. All children exhibit a range of behaviour, but they are not their behaviour. They are them. Unique individuals.

We really need to lay off piling on the sleep guilt to new parents. It is no coincidence that 'baby sleep problems' (and associated 'fixes'/consultants/gadgets) are so widespread in modern western culture. In many areas of the world they have no words for 'sleep training' and they don't understand what is meant when asked how their baby sleeps. They report significantly less problems when coping with their baby's sleep. There's no coincidence there!

Also, can we stop making such a big deal about how women look after they give birth. Hot mess or hot in a dress, who cares?! Postpartum isn't a competition 🤦

We love you, Meghan, but this is the truth.

(via Bits O' Bacon Blog)

I love the perspective presented in this article. How and where a woman chooses to birth is her business. While evidence shows a need to normalise natural physiological birth, it's critical that we keep the focus on women's right to choose from all forms of birthing. Idolising one birth scenario over another contradicts this.

https://www.facebook.com/114150865331725/posts/2241388489274608/?sfnsn=mo

Why I never want to know whether Meghan had a home birth - and neither should you Rebecca Schiller, author of Your No Guilt Pregnancy Plan, explains why she hopes we never find out where Harry and Meghan had their baby

Happy 2nd Birthday to my nephew today 🥰

This was the First Birth that I attended after training as a Doula and it was incredible ❤️