The Cognitive Reset

People aren’t looking for a perfect partner -
They’re looking for a happy partner.
Your role isn’t to be fully healed, it is to be at least 70% happy.
You can’t say you’ll only be happy once you ‘get’ a partner.
Live your life now - dance, travel, invest, buy that apartment, move countries… just don’t put your life on hold for a second longer.

“How will they know what is wrong if I don’t point it out?!”
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“I keep pointing out why I’m unhappy and nothing changes!”
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“I know that the dreamy behaviour I want is possible, because look at my friend’s perfect partner!”

At dinner parties, I usually end up in a tete-a-tete with romantically frustrated guests.
To their surprise, my advice is to flip the script and try a contrary approach to their current strategy.
This usually results in a gushing text the next day, saying how amazingly, my advice to be nice and patient with their honey actually worked!!

We give too much agency to our partner for our joy, without considering our own tricky role in the dynamic.

If ‘nagging’ worked, it would be called ‘request’.
ALL partners are prone to this venting, but it’s a redundant strategy in truly sensuous relationships.

If you’re tired of being tuned out, why not try adding a touch of sugar to the bitter taste your dynamic is generating:-

Begin in a nice way. Appreciate what’s working. Be gracious in your request. Consider your partner’s current capacity to meet it.
Are they tired? Stressed?
Is your request reasonable to their schedule - or desirable to their values?

A potent connection isn’t as simple as ‘give and take’ - but rather a breathing, interweaving web of our emotions and psyches.
If you honour each other’s needs and boundaries without malice, both cups will overflow in the long run.
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If you want to shift a flagging connection into a passionate, committed journey, then I have only a few spots left between Christmas and New Year for 2021 to show you how you will change your life ✨☄️💎❤️.
2022 Jan and Feb almost booked out, so take this window and never look back. 💍

In my effort toward building a healthier culture for women,
I will NO longer celebrate or support the “superwoman” narrative:

A woman who is forced into little sleep, excessive work AND caregiving responsibilities. A woman who is ‘doing it all’ with a smile on her face (but very few see the quiet tension of her clenched teeth). A woman who is celebrated for getting her degree while working full time and having four kids (but only her doctor sees her stress rash).
Working our “ass off” must become an outdated notion in a society that truly cares about uplifting women - and therefore investing in women’s health.
We did it all because we HAD to do it all, through a sacrifice to our joy and pleasure.
What if it was different? What if we asked ourselves, our workplaces and our institutions to honour our wellness?
Maternity leave and mental health days are a start - but it’s our narratives that ensure we lay our own trap.
Do YOU give yourself permission to take a test?
Drop me a 💎 if you resonate 🦋

If you feel somewhat trapped in your current relationship…
If you’re exhausted by all the fighting;
or tired of all those broken trust bonds that hurt your soul…
Consider this:

Our lived reality, in the quantum field is LIQUID.
A caterpillar liquifies FIRST to turn into a butterfly. 🦋
Carbon melts and resets to a diamond, re-organising itself into the most stellar and resilient of stones. 💎
That which appears FIXED then, is malleable.⠀⠀⠀⠀

Based on these laws, I promise that your current mental maps - and emotional chemistry - can be organised into a higher, healthier state of being. 💫

Think of it, that to become a Diamond, you must first LIQUIFY your own ‘carbon’ - the stagnant inner blocks that dull your love.
If follow the right process, the quantum molecules WILL start to re-arrange themselves and open new doors to a completely new romantic destiny.
Let me show you. 💎🦋💎

How many do you have?
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How many do you have?

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Being a woman is the ultimate luxury.
The way you cultivate your inner Being.
Nurture your emotional space.
Indulge your sacred senses.
Refine and upgrade your thoughts.
Share courageously your story of your authentic beauty.
Means those who enter your field are permanently transformed and elevated by your timeless and priceless mystique.

Your mood is the barometer through which you assess every corner of your life.

Feeling tired, cranky, flat?
Your partner’s every wobble will turn into an earthquake, as the tectonic plates of their behaviour grind along your weary nervous system… with explosive outcomes.

Yet when your cup is filled with mood-fulfilling pleasures, you’re more delighted, softer, more forgiving… is it not so?
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As women, we often think our mood is circumstantial, yet nothing is more firmly within our control.
We are the only ones responsible for our pleasure, and our hormonal and somatic regulation.
Yet so many of us have forgotten what we want, or how to tune into our inner stirrings.

How can we claim the life or partnership that we desire when we can’t even acknowledge what that looks like anymore? 🤍
How can we expect someone to fill our cup, when we no longer resonate with what that feels like?
The only way to cultivate a joyful inner foundation is to connect with your desires.

A genuine good mood means levity. The lightness of one’s emotional needs fulfilled.
That’s when you realise you’re on your way to the happiness you want.

Want some support to articulate EXACTLY what you desire - in your relationship, in your world, in your inner being?
Then I would love to have a virtual tea and chat with you - let’s activate the seeds of your magnetic potential. ✨💎💫

PS - I’m dancing in nature wearing the Mocha My Life dress by - an ethical, sustainable label that empowers women. 🐆💎

Real women, real results.
Hand on heart, it’s NOT too late to finish 2021 in the happiest relationship of your life - and set up your life (and mind) for lasting happiness.
When you book your Relationship Reset session with me, you start a powerful healing process.
I’ve designed it using the best blend of science and sensuality to help you:
- Release old relationship trauma
- Reset your energy for receiving love
- Discover your unique relationship style
- Ramp up your feminine magnetism
- Get tips and personalised advice tailored to your situation.
In under 2 hours (because we work with the power of your subconscious mind - where all those resources are stored).
With a payment plan for those who need it and a flexible (but quickly filling) schedule to accomodate women’s busy lives, there’s no reason to not be one of these happy women who took control of their love life.
No fluff, no cliched advice, just some powerful woman wisdom and a no bu****it approach :).
You know you deserve it. 💋
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Where’s the lie tho?
Drop me a diamond 💎 if this resonates.
Want help getting into your body and connecting with your feminine magnetism?
Drop me a DM and I’ll share some easy energetic techniques!
If you have a practice that really works for you to fill your cup, please share it below.
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My grandmother often told me…
“You control the emotional mood of the relationship”. 🙎🏼‍♀️
But what does it actually mean?
As I started to observe my own relationship patterns, I noticed that indeed, when I’m present, centred and aligned to myself, easy connection and intimacy flowed more briskly.
Yet when I was tired, emotional, insecure… there is no reasoning with me, and there was nothing anyone could say to help me calm down.
It was an inner game, and when I sabotaged enough relationships, I realised it was time to do something differently.
Can anyone else relate to this?

As much as we pride our ‘game-face’, our unresolved ‘stuff’ is always revealed unconsciously, through lip twitches, sunken shoulders and sighs that reveal our emotional truth better than words.
When a woman is hurt, her energy field retracts in such a sudden way that it becomes impossible to reveal her heart, or anything else.
What helped me learn and release some old relationship trauma was becoming a facilitator in 2018. A simple, life changing modality that helps us quickly release emotional stress from the body.
What this means, is whenever I am triggered (and like any human, our old pain will come up from time to time), instead of picking a fight, panicking or storming out, I can quickly reset myself and meet each conversation - and each challenge - with more presence and grace.
It no longer becomes about who is right and wrong… but communicating in a way that always restores mutual harmony.
And the best thing, when YOUR partner is triggered, you can meet them with love and compassion and growth, instead of spiralling down with them.
If you find that getting triggered or insecure in your relationships, or trust issues are a pattern, there may be some unresolved emotional blockages to play.
Want to clear them?
The Rationsjop Reset session is designed to help you understand and release your old blockages (using ) and reset your love destiny to a fresh, exciting start. - this is a one -on-one 90 minute session (with pre/work)…. only a few spots left!

If you feel somewhat trapped in your current relationship…
If you’re exhausted by all the fighting;
or tired of all those broken trust bonds that hurt your soul…
Consider this:

Our lived reality, in the quantum field is LIQUID.
A caterpillar liquifies FIRST to turn into a butterfly. 🦋
Carbon melts and resets to a diamond, re-organising itself into the most stellar and resilient of stones. 💎
That which appears FIXED then, is malleable.⠀⠀⠀⠀

Based on these laws, I promise that your current mental maps - and emotional chemistry - can be organised into a higher, healthier state of being. 💫

Think of it, that to become a Diamond, you must first LIQUIFY your own ‘carbon’ - the stagnant inner blocks that dull your love.
If follow the right process, the quantum molecules WILL start to re-arrange themselves and open new doors to a completely new romantic destiny.
Let me show you. 💎🦋💎