Mat Bankes

Break the shackles of self-sabotage!

Below is a list of 200 self-sabotaging behaviors that you can reflect on and begin identifying the most critical areas of your life that hold the biggest opportunity for improvement.

Share what you have overcome and defeated in your life AND what you might still be wrestling with....?!?

For support in this area feel free to DM me for resources or support.

Alternatively, if you would like me to hold a workshop/speak to your organisation or group about how to eliminate self-sabotage and set a path to self-mastery - DM me for more details.

List of 200 Self-Sabotaging Behaviors:

Allowing Clutter to Accumulate
Allowing Fear to Paralyze Action
Allowing Guilt to Overwhelm
Allowing Others to Dictate Self-Worth
Avoidance
Avoiding Challenges
Avoiding Conflict
Avoiding Conflict Resolution
Avoiding Difficult Conversations
Avoiding Exercise
Avoiding Feedback
Avoiding Feedback in Relationships
Avoiding Financial Planning
Avoiding Health Checkups
Avoiding New Experiences
Avoiding Physical Activity
Avoiding Problem Solving
Avoiding Professional Help
Avoiding Professional Networking
Avoiding Public Speaking
Avoiding Reality
Avoiding Responsibility
Avoiding Risks
Being Easily Distracted
Being Hypercritical of Others
Being Overly Competitive
Being Overly Optimistic
Being Overly Pessimistic
Being Overly Sentimental
Being Overly Suspicious
Blaming Circumstances
Blaming Others
Catastrophizing
Chronic Complaining
Chronic Lateness
Chronic Stress
Comparing to Others
Defensive Behavior
Denial
Disorganization
Dwelling on Hypothetical Scenarios
Engaging in Negative Gossip
Excessive Planning for the Future
Failing to Celebrate Small Wins
Failing to Communicate Needs
Failing to Create Contingency Plans
Failing to Follow Through
Failing to Manage Stress
Failure to Delegate
Fear of Failure
Fear of Intimacy
Fear of Rejection
Fear of Success
Fear of Vulnerability
Financial Irresponsibility
Focusing on Negatives
Gossiping
Holding Grudges
Holding Unrealistic Expectations
Hyper-Focus on Flaws
Hyper-Focus on Productivity
Ignoring Career Advancement Opportunities
Ignoring Early Warning Signs of Illness
Ignoring Feedback from Loved Ones
Ignoring Financial Advice
Ignoring Gut Feelings
Ignoring Health
Ignoring Intuition
Ignoring Intuition in Decision-Making
Ignoring Legal Obligations
Ignoring Mental Health
Ignoring Passion Projects
Ignoring Passions
Ignoring Personal Interests
Ignoring Professional Boundaries
Ignoring Professional Development
Ignoring Red Flags
Ignoring Relationship Problems
Ignoring Signs of Burnout
Ignoring Sleep
Ignoring the Need for Relaxation
Impulsiveness
Inconsistent Effort
Inconsistent Routines
Inconsistent Self-Discipline
Indecisiveness
Isolation from Support Systems
Job Hopping
Lack of Boundaries
Lack of Gratitude
Lack of Persistence
Lack of Self-Care
Living for the Weekend
Living in Denial
Living in Fear
Living in the Past
Micromanaging
Micromanaging Others
Negative Relationships
Negative Self-Talk
Neglecting Creativity
Neglecting Emotional Health
Neglecting Environmental Awareness
Neglecting Hygiene
Neglecting Networking Opportunities
Neglecting Spiritual Health
Neglecting to Reflect
Not Celebrating Successes
Not Learning from Mistakes
Not Practicing Self-Compassion
Not Seeking Help
Not Seeking Mentorship
Not Setting Goals
Not Setting Priorities
Not Taking Breaks
Obsessing Over Minor Details
Over-Analyzing Past Mistakes
Over-Apologizing
Over-Investing in Others
Over-Investing in Technology
Over-Planning
Over-Reliance on Others
Over-Scheduling
Over-Spending
Over-Valuing Others' Opinions
Overanalyzing
Overanalyzing Past Mistakes
Overcommitment
Overeating
Overemphasis on Control
Overemphasizing External Validation
Overestimating Abilities
Overloading Schedule with Unimportant Tasks
Overthinking Conversations
Overworking
Passive-Aggressiveness
People-Pleasing
People-Pleasing at Work
Perfectionism
Perfectionism in Appearance
Perfectionism in Appearance
Perfectionism in Planning
Perfectionism in Relationships
Playing Small
Playing the Victim
Prioritizing Short-Term Pleasures
Prioritizing Work Over Family
Procrastination
Procrastination on Important Decisions
Pursuing Unreachable Ideals
Refusing to Adapt
Refusing to Adapt to Change
Refusing to Apologize
Refusing to Ask Questions
Refusing to Let Go of Control
Refusing to Negotiate
Refusing to Plan for the Future
Rejecting Praise
Relying Solely on Others for Happiness
Resisting Change
Resisting Constructive Criticism
Resisting Feedback
Resisting Technological Advancements
Rigid Thinking
Rumination
Rushing
Sabotaging Relationships
Sabotaging Success
Sacrificing Long-Term Goals for Immediate Gratification
Seeking Approval
Self-Criticism
Self-Doubt
Self-Fulfilling Prophecies
Self-Handicapping
Self-Harm
Self-Isolation
Self-Labeling
Self-Sabotage in Education
Setting Inflexible Routines
Setting Too Many Goals
Setting Unrealistic Goals
Social Media Addiction
Spending Excessive Time on News
Spending Too Much Time on Hobbies
Staying in Comfort Zones
Stubbornness
Substance Abuse
Taking Criticism Too Harshly
Taking on Too Much
Taking Things Personally
Under-Investing in Relationships
Under-Spending
Underachievement
Undereating
Underestimating Abilities
Underestimating Time Required for Tasks
Unhealthy Comparisons
Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms
Unnecessary Risk-Taking
Workaholism

What's some exciting life goals YOU have???

😎🤘 If I haven't ticked these three things off my bucket list by the time I'm on my death bed... I'll be a disappointed man!

One (and a quarter) down... basically two more to go!

♥️ There's no time like the 🎁 to do what you know you need to do...

ℹ What have you been avoiding but KNOW you need to get it done??

What is THAT one thing you know you need to do... BUT keep avoiding??

The ONE THING you KEEP putting off

The ONE THING that keeps haunting you

The ONE THING that keeps nagging you

The ONE THING that you KNOW will make your life easier & better once it's done...

You know what it is!

Because it 's SCREAMING at you right now in your own mind NOW as you read this!

Soooo... for how much longer???

How much longer are you going to act powerless and allow it to hold its power over you??

How much longer are you going to play the victim to it??

How much longer until you take responsibility for it and make it happen??

..and if not NOW... then WHEN??

I CHALLENGE YOU!!!

Type what YOUR ONE THING is in the comments below!

Call yourself out in this public forum!

Create a level of accountability for yourself!

THEN GO AND... DO... THAT.... THING!

Good Luck!

Once you have completed your ONE THING... come and type "DONE!" in the comments to this post so we can all celebrate with you!!!

PS. For me...

My ONE THING lately...

Has been getting back on the horse of creating social media content to start sharing value online again!

So here I am!

Calling myself out and getting it DONE!

Now it's your turn 🙏

PPS. This may appear to be a simple and light-hearted exercise... however the precession effect and value of stepping into uncomfortable conversations at your earliest convenience will permeate throughout your whole life and generate growth in all areas of your life!

Do not underestimate the power of this challenge!

If you have read this far... then there is no turning back.

I look forward to celebrating with you on the other side of your task completion!

Yayyy

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