31/12/2025
With gratitude to Sheba Hospital (Sheba Medical Center, Tel Hashomer)
We thank Sheba Hospital (Sheba Medical Center, Tel Hashomer)for generously supplying this guidance, story, and support materials to help our community navigate after trauma.
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New Year’s Eve After a Traumatic Event
Support for adults, parents, and children in communities impacted by the Bondi Beach attack
In the wake of the Bondi Beach attack, this New Year’s Eve may be experienced differently than usual. Sounds, crowds, and the holiday atmosphere can bring up reminders, tension, or worry, even when you are physically safe. Reactions vary widely, and there is no “right” way to feel.
This handout is meant to help you recognise common stress reactions in yourself and in children, and to offer practical ways to cope during New Year’s celebrations.
Why New Year’s can feel harder
• After a frightening event, the brain/body stay on high alert. Later, reminders can switch the alarm system back on — even when you are safe.
• Common reminders on New Year’s Eve: fireworks (bangs/flashes/smoke), crowds and celebrations, sudden announcements/sirens, disrupted routines (late nights, travel), and alcohol-related unpredictability in public.
What distress can look like (by age)
Young children (toddlers–preschool):
• Clinginess, separation fears
• Tantrums/tearfulness
• Sleep changes
• Regression (babyish behaviour/toileting accidents)
• Repetitive “scary” play
• Avoidance of noisy/overstimulating situations
School-age children:
• Worries about safety
• Repeated reassurance-seeking
• Physical complaints (stomach/headaches)
• Irritability or shutting down
• Trouble concentrating
• Avoidance of reminders (places, crowds, loud sounds)
Adolescents:
• Mood swings or emotional “numbness”
• Pulling away from others
• Conflict/acting out
• Escapism (heavy screen time; sometimes alcohol/drug use)
• Refusing gatherings
• Looking “fine” while struggling inside
How to prepare ahead of time (simple and effective)
• Preview what will happen: crowds, cheering at midnight, possible fireworks — so the brain can label it as “celebration,” not “danger.”
• Make a plan together: where you’ll stand/sit, a signal for a break, and permission to leave early.
• Practice gently: watch a short fireworks clip at low volume and pause to do a calming skill (see below).
• Support regulation: keep meals/sleep as steady as possible; tired bodies react more strongly.
A short script for young children (adapt to your words)
“Tomorrow night is New Year’s Eve. People may gather outside, cheer at 12:00, and there may be fireworks. Fireworks can be loud. Loud bangs can remind our body of scary sounds from Bondi Beach. If your body feels worried, that’s your body trying to protect you — but we are safe. If you feel uncomfortable, tell me. I’ll stay right with you and help your body remember we’re safe.”
Teens: a respectful explanation
The National Program for Trauma Treatment, Safra Children’s Hospital, Sheba Medical Center
“Fireworks/crowds can trigger the nervous system. The ‘alarm’ system can cause a racing heart, tight chest, nausea, shaking, anger, or wanting to leave. We can switch on the body’s calming ‘brake’ with slow breathing and grounding. If you get triggered, it doesn’t mean danger is back — it means your body is remembering. Let’s plan breaks and an exit option.”
In the moment: a 3-step approach
Connect: get close (if welcomed), calm voice — “I’m here with you.”
Clarify safety: “That sound is fireworks. It’s loud, but we’re safe right now.”
Calm the body: do one coping tool below; thinking gets easier once the body settles.
Quick calming tools (for adults and children)
1) ‘Smell the flower, blow the candle’ breathing (kids)
• Breathe in slowly through your nose for 3–4 seconds (smell the flower).
• Breathe out gently through your mouth for 4–6 seconds (blow the candle).
• Repeat 5 times. Encourage a slower out-breath than in-breath.
2) Box breathing (teens/adults)
Inhale 4 seconds → hold 4 → exhale 4 → hold 4.
Repeat 4 rounds.
3) 5–4–3–2–1 grounding (all ages)
Name: 5 things you see, 4 you feel, 3 you hear, 2 you smell, 1 you taste.
Then look around and name where you are and who is with you.
4) ‘Press and release’ (muscle calming)
Press feet into the ground for 5 seconds → release.
Shrug shoulders up for 5 seconds → release.
Repeat 3 times.
5) Orienting (resetting the brain to the present)
Slowly turn your head and look around. Say out loud:
“Right now I am in _____. Today is _____. I am safe with _____.”
When and how to reach out for additional support
Consider professional support if reactions:
• Are intense, worsening, or not improving over several weeks.
• Interfere with daily life (sleep, school/work, relationships, functioning).
• Include frequent panic, persistent nightmares, strong avoidance, or feeling detached most of the time.