17/08/2026
I wrote this because I keep seeing the healing industry argue with itself.
There is growing criticism of untrained practitioners, spiritual bypassing, toxic positivity and people positioning themselves as authorities over another person’s healing.
And then, often in response, comes another kind of positioning: I’m not one of those practitioners. I’ve trained for years. I’ll let you feel your anger. I’ll let you be yourself. My approach is different.
But if all we do is rearrange who gets to be the trusted authority, I’m not sure we have changed the underlying problem.
The question for me is much simpler:
How do we return authority to the person themselves?
Support and expertise still matter. Relationship matters. Skilled practitioners matter. We were never meant to do everything alone.
But support does not have to require surrendering agency.
In any healing environment, our work can help a person notice their own experience more clearly, recognise their own patterns, understand what is changing, and participate in the decisions that affect them.
Our expertise can offer language, perspective, questions, conditions and support.
It should not replace the person’s relationship with themselves.
This is one of the foundations of the Helical Healing Method and SomaFlow: not creating better dependency, but restoring trust, autonomy and agency to the person doing the healing.
We are not responsible for producing another person’s healing.
We are responsible for how we participate in the conditions around it.
You Were Never Meant to Heal Alone - Rejecting authority does not require rejecting support.
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https://madonnagott.substack.com/p/you-were-never-meant-to-heal-alone?r=74rpl4&utm_medium=ios