Vicky Murgatroyd Coaching & Healing

2 years ago today our ‘small’ dog was born. 2 years means to more growing…phew.

Barnaby, we wouldn’t have you any other way. Delightful addition to the family ❤️

A distinction worth sitting with. Some of what you’re experiencing isn’t your partner choosing not to show up, it’s them not having the capacity to show up in the way you need…yet.

Here’s how to get your needs met even when they can’t be the one to do it.

Every part of yourself you hide out of fear it won’t be accepted is a part of yourself you’ve decided isn’t worthy of love.

You want actual, reliable, unshakable love? This is where it starts and it’s all completely within your control 🙏

The power of parts work/inner child work is profound - words and logic don’t fix this, but the deeper work does and frees you to respond as your whole, healed, adult self instead of from the old pain.

We need a shared definition of ‘fixed’ if we’re ever gonna get there. Answer these 4 questions to reveal yours and share with your partner when you guys are in a good supportive space

Who you become inside a relationship is valuable information. It’s not all down to your partner, there are ways we unconsciously try to mould ourselves into who we think we should be.

If your partner overreacts to small things, it’s not an overreaction to them. From inside that experience for them, that’s a proportionate reaction - and that perspective can help bring you so much closer and diffuse so many conflicts 🙏

If your partner ever gives you ultimatums, here’s what you need to know.

This doesn’t excuse the behaviour, but once you understand WHY it’s happening, things shift. You stop taking it personally, so you react less in return. Instead of joining in the emotional s**t storm, you can set boundaries and stay connected.

A 30-second exercise that will bring you closer to your partner

If you’re trying not to argue and your partner reads it as avoidance…

Your intention is de-escalation, but they don’t know your intention. Use these words and see how differently it lands 🙏