26/08/2026
"Their parents just aren't tough enough on them."
I hear that one a lot. Closely followed by — "kids didn't have these problems when I was at school."
And you know what? They're not entirely wrong. Something has shifted.
But that's where the comments stop being fair.
Because what people don't see is what these families are actually dealing with. The specialist appointments. The waitlists. The assessments and the re-assessments. The therapy sessions scheduled between school runs and work. The forms, the referrals, the phone calls, the "have you tried?" advice from people who've never even met their child.
So no, these aren't soft parents. They are some of the most determined people I've ever worked with — fighting through the maze of a seemingly endless battle and leaping through hoops just to get their kid the education every child deserves.
So no, they're not lacking toughness. They've got more of it than most of us will ever need.
Have you ever been on the receiving end of a comment like that? Or know someone who has? What didn't you say that you wish you had?
If you know someone going through this, share this with them to let them know you really see them.
If it's you dealing with the endless roundabout - please know that we truly see all that you do.