Finding Your Light, Online Counselling with Elaine

12/08/2026

Gosh, life has been a bit of a fast-paced blur lately!! But nothing a little magic can’t fix! ✨🪄

We had SO much fun with the fam at the Harry Potter light show, and somehow managed to stay dry! ⚡️

These little moments of awe and wonder, doing “firsts” together and simply being present and fully absorbed in the experience together, cannot be underestimated! ❤️

These little moments of shared joy help create connection, belonging and emotional safety within the family and those little pockets of magic can mean more than we realise to our loved ones (big or small right!). 💛🫶

So, where could you sprinkle a little magic into your schedule this week? Doesn’t have to be a big event, could be a spontaneous dance in the kitchen, watching the sunrise or putting the phone on silent for a bit!✨

Heart is full… and I’m feeling a little bit like a kid again myself! 🪄

06/08/2026

Why is it so much easier to offer grace to a friend than to give it to ourselves?

We often treat our own mistakes like personal failures, while treating everyone else’s as completely normal and human.

Many of us grew up believing that being hard on ourselves is the only way to stay motivated, or that self-kindness is selfish. In a strange way, that inner critic can feel like a shield, even when it’s actually causing us pain.

A gentle reflection for your week:

Where is one small area in your life where you could start to soften that inner voice?

What would happen if you spoke to yourself the way you speak to someone you love?

04/08/2026

We just want to reach the top of the mountain without doing any of the hard work.

We want confidence without facing our fears.
Peace without processing our pain.
Change without changing.

But healing doesn’t work that way.

The climb is where you learn resilience.
The setbacks teach self-compassion.
The difficult steps build courage.

The inner work isn’t always easy, but it changes you in ways the destination never could. ❤️🫶💖

What is one small step you can take today towards becoming that person?

The view from the top of the mountain isn’t the greatest reward. The greatest reward is becoming the person capable of climbing it.

22/07/2026

If counsellors could share a few things with everyone, these would be high on the list. Here are eight things counsellors wish everyone knew.

Elaine, Counsellor in Perth and Australia-wide.

20/07/2026

Your brain learns from repetition. The thoughts, words, and beliefs you repeat become the “instructions” your mind follows, influencing what you notice, how you feel, and how you behave.

Repeating supportive, realistic messages helps build healthier patterns, while repeating negative ones can reinforce unhelpful habits.

Ways to “program” your mind more effectively
• Repeat helpful thoughts consistently. Your brain learns through repetition, not perfection.
• Visualise success. Spend a few minutes imagining yourself calmly handling a challenge. The brain responds strongly to vivid mental rehearsal.
• Speak to yourself as you would a close friend. Compassionate self-talk helps reduce self-criticism and supports resilience.
• Focus on evidence. Instead of asking, “Why am I so bad at this?” ask, “What’s one thing I’ve done well today?” Your brain starts looking for proof to answer the question you ask.
• Act like the person you’re becoming. Small behaviours reinforce identity. For example, rather than saying, “I want to be confident,” ask, “What would a confident person do in this moment?”

Ready to learn more?
Check out Your Mind, Your Rules by Marisa Peer

19/07/2026

Have you ever been so absorbed in something that time seemed to disappear? Maybe you lost yourself in painting, gardening, writing, playing music, sport, or even a meaningful conversation.

That experience has a name: flow.

Flow is more than simply being productive. It’s a state where your mind is fully engaged, your skills match the challenge in front of you, and everything feels just a little more effortless.

Research suggests that spending more time in flow can support wellbeing, reduce stress, improve motivation, and increase life satisfaction.

In this carousel, I’ll explain what flow is, why it matters for your mental health, and how you can create more opportunities to experience it in everyday life.

12/07/2026

✨ Exciting news! ✨

I’m so excited to share that Finding Your Light is now welcoming clients for in-person counselling in South Perth.

While I’ll continue supporting clients Australia-wide through online sessions, I’m excited to now offer both online and in-person counselling, giving you the flexibility to choose what feels right for you.

💛 In-person counselling now available in South Perth
💻 Online counselling available Australia-wide

If you’ve been thinking about reaching out, this could be the perfect time to take that first step.

📩 Send me a message to learn more or book a free 15-minute discovery call to see if we’re the right fit.

05/07/2026

Something I hear often in counselling is:
“I’ll do it when I feel motivated.”

It makes sense, we often think motivation comes first.

But psychology tells us something different.

Research on behavioural activation, an evidence-based approach used in counselling, shows that taking small, meaningful actions can help lift mood, reduce avoidance, and increase motivation over time.

That’s why in therapy, we don’t always wait until you feel ready.

Instead, we focus on one small, achievable step.

🧺 Sort one pile of laundry.
👕 Put away five items.
🪟 Open the curtains.
💧 Drink a glass of water.
🚶 Walk to the end of the street and back.

Each small action sends your brain a powerful message:
“I can do hard things.”

That builds confidence.

Confidence creates momentum.

And momentum often leads to motivation.

Healing doesn’t usually happen through one giant leap.

It happens through small, consistent steps taken with compassion.

So if you’re waiting to feel motivated today, start with one small action instead.

Movement creates momentum.
Momentum creates motivation. ✨

Sometimes, the first step isn’t about feeling ready, it’s about giving yourself permission to begin.
What’s one small step you could take today?

22/06/2026

Looks who’s joining me at work this morning?! 😂❤️

Are therapy cats a thing? 🤔 😂

✅ Great for emotional regulation
❌ Terrible at paperwork

21/06/2026