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Online Counselling with Berenice

Online coaching and counselling for individuals wanting healthier relationships, better communication, and stronger self-worth.

Based in Perth, sessions available via video or phone in a safe, supportive space. Berenice is a student of human nature.

12/03/2026

Emotional intimacy fuels the strength of healthy long-term relationships.
The level of emotional intimacy between two people often determines the depth and quality of their relationship.

It can be defined as the emotional closeness and openness that exists between two people.

The following can enhance emotional intimacy in a relationship:

• Be vulnerable. Share your insecurities, fears, personal values, goals, memories, dreams, and struggles.

• Have honest conversations. Share your real thoughts and feelings, not just surface-level talk.

• Be trustworthy, consistent, and reliable.

• Listen actively to each other with full attention. Listen to understand each other's feelings, not simply to fix problems. Respond with care, empathy, and understanding.

• Stay curious about each other. Ask meaningful questions and show genuine interest.

• Express appreciation regularly. Acknowledge what you value about each other.

• Spend intentional time together without distractions, creating space to talk, reflect, and connect.

😁 Emotional intimacy grows where there is trust, vulnerability, and understanding.

05/03/2026

Compersion is the feeling genuine happiness or delight because someone else is experiencing happiness, success, or pleasure.
This feeling is said to be the opposite of jealousy & possessiveness.

05/03/2026

What do you value that helps you live a life well lived?
What matters most to you in living a fulfilling life?

04/03/2026

AFTERCARE means taking time after intimacy to check in with yourself and your partner and attend to each other’s emotional and physical needs. Its purpose is to help everyone feel safe, cared for, and able to share feedback about the experience.

04/03/2026

Defusing NEGATIVE SELF-TALK -
One technique you can use to help defuse problematic self-talk is to repeat that thought to yourself in a silly voice, or, by singing that thought out loud for about 10 seconds.
This helps create distance between you and the thought, turning it from a powerful belief into just words or mental images.

04/03/2026

FUSED THOUGHTS (also known as cognitive fusion) -
Fused (stuck) thoughts happen when we get overly attached to our own beliefs, memories, or emotions. These thoughts can take over, making it hard to stay present and act in line with our own values.
Whereas defusing thoughts means noticing our thoughts without getting stuck, are we are able to stay present, and act according to what truly matters to us. This helps increase psychological flexibility.

04/03/2026

ACTIVE LISTENING is listening with interest, with your full attention and without interrupting or judgement - not just waiting for your turn to speak.
It means listening to understand, reflecting back what you hear, and responding with empathy.
Using eye contact, avoiding distractions, using body language and non-verbal signals that show that you are listening.
It is important to listen actively, so the speaker has a chance to feel heard and that their perspective and feelings are important.

04/03/2026

LOVE takes many forms.
For lovers they can experience two types of love.

PASSIONATE LOVE -
Also known as romantic love or infatuation.
It's a state of extreme absorption with and desire for another person. Intensive feelings of tenderness, elation, anxiety, sexual desire and ecstasy.

COMPANIONATE LOVE -
Also known as compassionate love.
It's a less intense emotion than passionate love and involves a thoughtful appreciation and a deep caring for one's partner.

04/03/2026

In dating, the term breadcrumbing often refers to when someone gives small, inconsistent bits of attention to another person that they are involved with. These 'crumbs' are just enough to keep the receiver of the attention interested and the sender usually has no real intention of building a relationship.
For the person receiving the breadcrumbs the attention can feel good at first but often leaves them feeling confused or unsettled.
The breadcrumbing usually looks like low-effort, vague, or non-committal communication.

04/03/2026

Most relationship conflict is about how partners treat and respond to each other in everyday moments. The issues often involve things like affection, respect, or independence. Sometimes, deeper childhood experiences can also influence these conflicts.

04/03/2026

In stable, happy relationships, couples tend to have at least five positive interactions for every one negative interaction during conflict.
It’s not about eliminating conflict — it’s about making sure positive connection outweighs negativity.

What counts as a “positive interaction”?
Smiling or warm eye contact
Saying “thank you”
Showing affection (touch, hug, kind tone)
Expressing appreciation
Humor or playfulness
Listening with empathy

What counts as a “negative interaction”?
Criticism
Defensiveness
Eye-rolling or contempt
Harsh tone
Dismissiveness

Why the 5:1 ratio matters -
Negative moments carry more emotional weight than positive ones. They stick. So relationships need a strong “positive buffer” to stay emotionally safe and connected.
When couples fall below that ratio (especially during conflict), resentment tends to build over time.

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