Debbie Rivers Relationship Expert

20/07/2026

Did you know that how you show up in conversation can make or break a first date? 💬

One of the things I work on with my clients is how to connect authentically — and great conversation is at the heart of that. This episode from The Diary of a CEO with Harvard behavioural scientist Professor Alison Wood Brooks is pure gold. She breaks down the science of what actually makes people feel drawn to you in conversation and what quietly pushes them away.

Whether you're dating or just want to feel more confident connecting with new people — this one is worth a listen. 🎧

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0pSXXUjPPIAUAOxtaMhfkk?si=yHCcJmeoQVCnFbIB48z8hQ

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett · Episode

12/07/2026

Did you know that 67% of men felt this way? News.com asked my thoughts, and I do see men doing this all the time.
https://bit.ly/3R1qGE6

The rules of modern romance are undergoing a massive shift, and some say it could be for the better.

08/06/2026

Life has this funny way of reflecting whatever we keep thinking about. Not the big statements we make, but the quiet thoughts we repeat when no one’s around. The little stories we tell ourselves about who we are, what we deserve, and what’s possible for us.

When our thoughts are heavy, life feels heavy.
When our thoughts are hopeful, things start opening up.
It’s not magic — it’s just how our mind shapes the way we see the world.

Most of the time, the biggest shift doesn’t come from changing our whole life… it comes from changing the way we talk to ourselves.

Being a little kinder.
A little braver.
A little more honest about what we actually want.

Because life mirrors that back.
Slowly at first, then all at once.

So today, try choosing thoughts that support the person you’re becoming.

Thoughts that lift you instead of limit you.
Thoughts that make you feel like you’re moving toward something, not running from it.

Your life is always reflecting what’s going on inside — so make the inside a place you’d actually want to live.

03/05/2026

✨ Letting go creates space for what’s meant to find you. Here’s to lighter energy and new beginnings. ✨

🌿💫 Release. Reset. Receive.

25/04/2026

🌊 It’s wild how one lie can crash through trust like a wave wiping out a sandcastle. All that effort, all that care… gone in seconds. Honesty isn’t optional — it’s the foundation 🤍✨

23/04/2026

You can’t force a feeling of safety. 🛡️ We’ve all heard it: "You just have to trust me."

But here’s the reality—trust isn't a switch you can flip just because someone asks you to. Trust is a byproduct of safety, and safety is something that must be cultivated, not demanded.

When we demand trust, we often create pressure. And where there is pressure, there is rarely true vulnerability.

Trust is built in the quiet, consistent moments: Checking in when you say you will. 📱 Listening without jumping to judgment. 👂 Respecting a boundary, even when it’s inconvenient. 🛑 Being honest, even when the truth is uncomfortable. 💬

If you're feeling like trust is missing in a dynamic, stop asking for it and start looking at the "safety" of the environment. Are both people free to be real without fear of penalty?

Trust is the house, but safety is the foundation. You have to build the floor before you can move in. 🏠✨

How do you show someone they are "safe" with you? Let's share some ideas below. 👇

19/04/2026

🎁 Every day arrives wrapped in possibility. Some days feel soft, some feel heavy, but each one is still a gift. Life isn’t about waiting for the perfect moment… it’s about finding the beauty in the one you’re in right now 🎁💛🌿

16/04/2026

The pressure to have it all "figured out" is the quickest way to burn out. 🛑

We often look at the mountain and forget that it’s climbed one step at a time. You don’t need to solve next year’s problems or master next month’s goals today. You just need to show up for the next 24 hours.

Master your morning. Master your reactions. Master your boundaries. Then, wake up and do it again.

Consistency is the quietest form of power. Relax, you’re doing better than you think. ✨

15/04/2026

STOP DATING A VERSION OF HIM THAT DOESN'T EXIST
How many years have been lost to "potential"?

The Reality Check: ✨ Potential is a fantasy; effort is a FACT. ✨ If you have to "convince" someone to care about you, then they are not a partner or your person. ✨ Don't ignore what everyone else can see because you're addicted to the "what if."," "matured," or "realised what he had."

We saw it play out on MAFS this season with couples like Bec and Danny. It was painful to watch because the reality was written all over the screen: He just wasn't that into her. While she was busy building a future in her head, he was busy doing the bare minimum to stay in the room.

The Reality Check: ✨ Potential is a fantasy; effort is a FACT. ✨ If you have to "convince" someone to care about you then they are not a partner or your person. ✨ Don't ignore what everyone else can see because you're addicted to the "what if."

It’s time to stop romanticizing the "potential" and start respecting your own reality. You deserve someone who shows up with a loaf of bread, not just the crumbs. 🥂