14/02/2026
โจ New school year. Same question.
Do I push my teen?
Or do I step back? ๐คทโโ๏ธ
In my work with young people, what I see help most is keeping teens in the driverโs seat.
I use scaling in my sessions
๐ = impossible
1๏ธโฃ = doable
We donโt aim for the 10.
We donโt even aim for the 5.
We find the 1 they can do today, then build from there.
And hereโs the part many parents find surprising ๐
Those first steps often have nothing to do with school.
A 1/10 might be
โ๏ธ getting up
๐ฟ having a shower
๐ฅฃ eating breakfast
๐ง a short grounding routine
๐ a walk outside
That tiny step matters.
It helps their nervous system settle, gives their brain a safe win, and turns overwhelm into
โI can do that.โ
Thatโs how confidence builds in teens.
Not by pushing harder
But by breaking things down and navigating it together ๐