Humm Coaching

We had an incident last night with this little man. I finished changing his nappy and when I pulled him up to stand he started screaming crying, so out of character for him, and was then protecting his arm. A trip to the ED to ensure he hadn’t dislocated or fractured anything, and he is now absolutely fine, using it completely normally again.

But here is the point to my story……..

I felt so guilty, that as I pulled him up off the change table I had hurt him, even though we have done that 1000 times before, and this time seemed no different. When I was telling the triage nurse what had happened, the first thing she said to me was “𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗿𝗼𝗻𝗴” of course the tears at that point started running down my cheeks.

Ok, now really, here is the point to my story!

You never know how your words are going to affect someone else, to her that simple sentence probably felt like nothing, but to me it meant everything. It was such a good reminder to not only be mindful of what we say to others but also what we say to ourselves

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I spoke to a client recently and she said to me she was looking for more “𝒄𝒆𝒓𝒕𝒂𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒚”. So I asked her “𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒅𝒐 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒄𝒆𝒓𝒕𝒂𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒚 𝒐𝒇?” and she replied “𝑰 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝑰’𝒎 𝒅𝒐𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂 𝒈𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝒋𝒐𝒃” (with my parenting)

These few words hit me hard………..because I remember feeling this way. I remembered all those times I searched high and low for some kind of sign that I was doing it “𝒓𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕”, that I was a “𝒈𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝑴𝒖𝒎”. And you know what those signs never came…….

Well actually they did! Let me rephrase that I didn’t 𝗔𝗖𝗞𝗡𝗢𝗪𝗟𝗘𝗗𝗚𝗘 those moments when people would literally say to me “𝒚𝒐𝒖’𝒓𝒆 𝒅𝒐𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂 𝒈𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒕 𝒋𝒐𝒃”. It was all I wanted to hear and yet when I heard it, I ignored it, because I didn’t believe it.
And now I understand why……
When we seek external validation, reassurance, or signs we are doing something “𝒓𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕” we will never find them, 𝗨𝗡𝗟𝗘𝗦𝗦 we are able to internally validate first.

If we don’t believe it ourselves, we won’t believe it when someone else says it, not long term anyway.

So when seeking certainty, validation, acknowledgement – start from within.

What’s one thing that you 𝗞𝗡𝗢𝗪 you are doing well? What’s one thing that you 𝗞𝗡𝗢𝗪 will give certainty?

Start there and see what happens 🥰🤩

Let me know in the comments below what you are doing well
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Celebrating 100 days of prep!
Congratulations old man, we could not possibly be any more proud of you!!

100 pick ups and drop offs, 100 lunch boxes, 100 morning discussions about putting your shoes on (actually might need to change the number for that 😉).

100 days ago you walked into school for the very first time. You didn’t know anybody, and yet you were so eager to go in to the classroom. Here we are 100 days later, you can read!!! You can write!!! You have grown!!! (way too much!) You have matured, you have pushed yourself outside your comfort zone, you have 2 student of the week awards, you have learnt SO MUCH, and most importantly you have made some beautiful friendships and you are absolutely thriving.

SO so proud of you beautiful boy, even at 100 you’re still so handsome # # #

Hope you’re having the best day

Love you 🧓💙

Simple doesn’t mean easy!
Stop minimising your, intentions or achievements because you think they are simple.
Simple does not always mean easy!
Getting the kids to school or footy practice on time is a simple task…………………but as Mums we know it isn’t easy!

By minimising our daily tasks into something “simple” or what is “expected” we take away the ability to celebrate those little wins that we have every single day.

So the next time you complete something “simple” like juggling the dinner, bath and bed routine, instead of shrugging off these tasks as “being a Mum”, try acknowledging and celebrating yourself for the awesome job you are doing.
You will be surprised at just how many wins you have each and every day!
💜Let me know what wins you have had today in the comments below 💜
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Can’t wait to hear your thoughts on this! 💜

WORST.MUM.EVER
Parked in a different spot for school drop off 😱
Stand off between Mummy and Mr 4 because he couldn’t walk around “his tree” 🤦‍♀️
How are you a “bad Mum” today? 😜🤔🫣🤭

Happy Friday!! At the end of each week I ask my clients to reflect and celebrate ALL of the wins they have had during their week. It’s so important to take the time to appreciate and celebrate all that you have achieved, no win is too small! Even when things aren’t going to plan, even when there are challenges, frustrations and miscommunications there is ALWAYS something you have done that you can be proud of. From keeping on top of laundry, arriving somewhere on time, washing your hair, exercising, finding some me time…….. whatever it is your efforts and achievements are worth taking the time to acknowledge. If you are struggling to find balance, if you’re feeling burnt out, overwhelmed, stressed and like you aren’t achieving what you want to achieve week in week out, join me in my “stop parental burnout” webinar. You can discover how to find the balance, which areas of your life are lacking clarity and focus, AND next steps on what you need to do to get you on track to feeling more like yourself again 💖💖💖 link in comments to register

I spent 20 mins with a screaming 4yo negotiator this morning, telling me he was in fact a preppy and needed to be in class with his brother.
How’s your morning?!
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I would LOVE to hear your thoughts on this 💖💖💖

𝐖𝐇𝐘 𝐒𝐎 𝐒𝐄𝐑𝐈𝐎𝐔𝐒?..............
Is it just me, or do you feel like you lost some of your playfulness when you became “an adult”, and even more when you were thrust into the world of parenting?
Too much fun = You’re not serious = You won’t be taken seriously
I have just had the 𝗠𝗢𝗦𝗧 fun morning.
I have danced around the kitchen, sometimes alone, sometimes with the kids, and sung louder than I have in a long time. It reminded me of the days when going out and singing/dancing to a live band were my 𝗙𝗔𝗩𝗢𝗨𝗥𝗜𝗧𝗘 thing to do………because it was 𝗙𝗨𝗡!
Whilst having this moment of fun and playfulness I got the dishes done and tidied up a few things……but even more than that, I watched the joy on my kids faces as we spent this time together. They’re watching me be free and let myself go, and they’re giving themselves permission to do the same. To leave all the self-doubt and judgement at the door and just have fun.
Playfulness is a great way to release tension, relax, reset, and make the boring mundane stuff more tolerable and fun.
Before you became a Mum, what did you 𝗟𝗢𝗩𝗘 to do?
How can you bring a little piece of that joy into your day? 💃🎤🎨🎻
Oh and by the way, I wasn’t taking myself seriously when I was dancing and singing in my pj’s with no bra……..but that 𝗗𝗢𝗘𝗦𝗡'𝗧 mean I 𝗖𝗔𝗡'𝗧 be serious.
It simply means I’m finding the balance
Playful 🔁 serious
How’s your balance? ⚖️
Let me know in the comments how you are bringing playfulness into your life!
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Looks can be deceiving………….
My left arm is getting such a workout today! You know the days - whether you are experiencing them now or have in the past, where you just can’t put your child down!!?? Yep I’m having one of those! Everytime I feel my arm start to ache I tell my son I need to put him down for a minute, “Mummy’s arm just needs a rest”
Interesting – I’m listening to my body message – you’re arm needs a break!
I am quick to recognise when my body aches, and, I am quick to respond and relieve the pressure.
And its got me thinking………
Stress, anxiety, overwhelm, procrastination, guilt, self judgement, self sabotage, negative inner dialogue – these are physical AND emotional responses to pressure…… and yet we can be so reluctant to relieve them. In fact, we often CHOOSE to push them aside because “I don’t have time, money, space, energy, information etc etc to deal with it, and therefore instead of relieving the pressure we INCREASE it!
If I focus solely on my aching arm today – it will continue to ache.
WHY?
Because my son has an emotional need that requires my attention – and UNLESS I focus on that FIRST my arm will continue to get its workout, because he will continue to want to be picked up, because he doesn’t feel like his emotional need is being met…….YET.
Think about it – when you’re finding your getting frustrated at the kids, feeling overwhelmed at the ginormous washing pile, feeling stressed because your running late for a super important meeting with your boss and there’s vegemite on your top……………..do you attend to your emotional need in that moment? Or do the feelings of frustration, overwhelm and stress continue????
They don’t have to continue………….
You don’t have to continue feeling this way anymore.
If you would like some support in finding the balance between your physical and emotional needs send me a PM. I would love to chat with you 💜💜💜