Isabella Foote

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… M A Y 🗓️

have you ever conversed with someone who always has something to say after each viewpoint you express?

have you ever wondered how much deeper you could go with it, if only they asked you a question to elaborate, or even just held some more silent space for you?

it’s totally normalised for that person to relate with a story similar to yours… but this ‘reaction’ doesn’t always allow us to really be vulnerable… to gain a deeper connection.

there is no harm in asking the other to hold a little more space (i do it all the time, sorry anthony lol), but first, start to practice it yourself on other people - see what comes from it, how much more you can learn about that person, and where having more curiosity & concern can take the relationship.

what was that quote i heard once somewhere??? oh yeah -

✨ hold space with grace ✨

✨ your new mantra ✨

we all do what we can with the level of emotional intelligence and maturity we have at the time.

there’s going to be s**t that you regret or you feel guilty or shameful about… well, hindsight is clearer than foresight.

let it be okay, forgive yourself.

no matter how big or small this group is each week, this work is so powerful as a team.

if one of your fears is walking into a room full of other people, don’t let that stop you from coming because surrendering to that fear is holding you back from having the most powerful experience.

others’ energy amplifies your experience FOR you.

meet the fear rather than let it hold you back.

i promise you’ll feel safe in this space because the people i attract are nothing short of making that happen.

showing your vulnerability is just easier in rooms like this. and we all know how important it is to be vulnerable.

link in bio to book
meet your edge
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i’ve been in an foul mood today (& yesterday… & the day before) holding back tears in the middle of servicing silent clients, stuck in my own self-sabotaging thoughts. the normal kinda thoughts you have when you’re feeling hopeless.

there are so many “solutions” to getting out of a funk. but sometimes you just need to feel the sadness. and even though it’s been three days now, i’ve been doing just that.

but here’s why…

i started to listen to a podcast on the way home, and realised i didn’t even have the emotional capacity to hold what the host had to say.

so i muted the radio & just sat with my thoughts for two hours to work out the reason behind my foul mood.

i’m in avoidance.

one time in year 8 i MOVED schools because…
1. so behind in one of my subjects
2. i was fighting with one of my friends
3. i wanted to see my boyfriend more (to go to the same school as him)

all AVOIDANT behaviours to something that i perceived as being “too hard” to tackle head on.

1. “too hard” to catch up in school
2. “too hard” to make or break a friendship
3. “too hard” to be away from my partner

it was easier to move schools.

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if it weren’t for me truly sitting in my sadness, i would never have found the underlying reason for my funk today and what type of pattern it was.

so - at the moment, i have A LOT on my plate.
i’m sulking because it’s EASIER to sit in hopelessness than it is to actually do something about it. i’m AVOIDING the hard by telling myself things that aren’t true… “my body needs rest” “i miss my brother” “it’s been a big week” “im tired”

well now i’ve found my opportunity, i’ll be clocking that one

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moral of the story… rather than “sitting” in your sadness - FEEL it, PROCESS it, and then CONFRONT it.

self reflection is a fkn superpower and the growth from this realisation of mine is going to literally change my life.

i remember i used to have panic attacks at traffic lights (if i had to WAIT for that little man to turn green to walk across the road) - oh how that experience could have been different if i knew how to control the amount of cortisol that was being released in my body.

s**t like that shouldn’t have to stress us out - and it doesn’t have to.

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the reason i am so obsessed with growth is because i never realised how much of my life i was actually in control of.

i felt very fkn powerful when i started to control my own patterns & behaviours in life, just as i felt very fkn powerful when i started to take control of MY OWN BREATH - another thing you can actually just take the drivers seat for.

our autonomic nervous system controls unconscious processes like our heart rate, digestion and our stress response.

controlling the way you breathe, can influence all of the above.

that means YOU can be the one to tell your body when you’re NOT stressy stressy, it doesn’t have to be the one to tell you when you are.

🚀 if you have some big goals for 2024 and you don’t know how to control your breathing, this is a problem.

go to a breathwork class. educate yourself. integrate those teaching into your life. do big things.

🫁 coming soon

are you choosing protection or connection? 🙃

i have so much to say about this and i’ll start with the conversation that first made me fall for anthony.

emotions all play their equal part in your life.

sure, some emotions “feel” better than the other.
but without one, the other can’t exist.

eg.

without sadness, there can’t be happiness.

without fear, there can’t be courage.

without hatred, there can’t be love.

so when we first met (online that is) anthony & i arranged our very first phone call. the evening of the call came around, wednesday night i remember it so clearly… and i messaged him to say i was really flat & wanted to postpone.

“im just not feeling myself”

“just because you’re not feeling happy, doesn’t mean you’re not yourself”

i can’t tell you how much that sentence shook me to my core.

i hadn’t learned to love myself, let alone allow someone else to love me, when i wasn’t feeling my best.

since that day. i haven’t once said that i’m “not feeling myself”. i’ve embraced every single emotion that decides to come up for me, recognised that that emotion is still part of me and it’s good for me to be feeling it.

i’ve analysed whether it’s an emotion that can stay around for a little bit because it serves me, or if it doesn’t - whether i can influence another emotion to come up for me instead.

oh, and we did talk on the phone that night & it was really nice 😌