Mel B Dating Coach

1. Endless texting - goes on way too long without making a move to meet in real life. Many women become bored with endless texting if there is no expression to progress to real life. Aim to talk or arrange to meet in real life within a week or two week of matching.

2. In the initial stages of chatting online, ask questions! An online chat goes nowhere in a hurry if only one person is asking questions about the other. Get creative about your questions… think beyond the standard “what do you do for work?” “Where do you live” questions? Delve into values, hobbies, interests, passions, personality traits - find something interesting to bond over by asking open ended questions!

3. No phone call initiated. Most confident men deliberately move to a phone call early on. This shows a man is confident to have a conversation over the phone, and is genuinely interested in getting to know you more. The phone call is the ticket to establishing if you both want to go on a first date and can lead to a date invitation/set up.

4. In the early stages of chatting, either on the app or once you have exchanged numbers, you are sending lots of selfies looking for validation. Whilst it is nice to confirm you are who you say you are from your profile, perhaps suggesting a video call, or leaving a voice memo is just as effective while maintaining an element of mystery. You want to keep her curiosity piqued and intrigued. Who is this man? I want to learn more about him. Take your time getting to know her as well.

If you are not feeling confident about making connections on dating apps, or feel lost or overwhelmed with the "how" of online dating, I'm here to help.

You don't have to struggle finding your way through the dating jungle.

DM to get started, I'm here to help. Mel B x

1. There are thousands of people who are SINGLE and LOOKING for a long-term committed relationship.

2. Online dating sites and apps are set-up specifically to help single people meet each other (and for this reason there are thousands of people who are using these sites every day. Using technology to your advantage to facilitate the introduction of new people is the smart way to use technology).

3. Online dating apps and websites don’t cost much and many of the best ones are FREE (and for this reason there are loads of single people on them!)

4. You don’t have to get dressed up or leave the house to get lots of introductions (this is why so many single people use them!) But used properly, you can easily fill your weekends or evenings with interesting dating experiences - in REAL life!

5. If you are not online dating, then you’re not really in the dating game. Yes, it may be a jungle out there, but I’m here to help you navigate the jungle!

Dating can be so much fun when you know how to do it!

And yet, online dating gets such a bad rap.

With the right skills and even better, the right mindset - online dating can reinvigorate your social life.

It’s a great way to build your dating skills and apply them in real life.

And thats when dating really starts to get interesting!

To date online successfully, you need a great profile. I can help you make a great first impression.

DM to get started - I’d love to help.

Never a truer word spoken.

The relationship we have with ourselves, sets the tone for every other relationship we have.

Do you really know who you are, your different parts, how they play out in your own relationship with self?

One of the questions I like to ask my clients is: "How well do you really know yourself?"

If you can put your hand on heart and answer that question confidently, you are ready to find your next love.

It's a journey of self discovery. The better you know yourself, the more you can give to a potential partner.

DM me to book a discovery call, I'd love to chat.

www.mel-b.com.au

That moment when you are waiting for your date to arrive...

It's ok to sit and check in with your feelings. Nervous? Excited? Giddy? Petrified?

All of these feelings are completely understandable and normal when meeting someone for the first time.

Check in with yourself. Acknowledge how you are feeling. Reassure yourself that it will all be OK. You've got this.

When we move outside our comfort zone, we feel all our emotions more acutely. Be kind to yourself. You're about to do something very brave.

Remind yourself - you might just be about to meet a great person!

Enjoy.

Rejection is actually the universe redirecting us towards something better.

I love this way of thinking about rejection.

It can be crushing when things don't work out romantically with someone we are interested in.

But I do believe the powers to be are at work - to redirect you towards something or someone better.

This mindset is powerful when it comes to building your resilience muscle when dating.

It's often not something you've done, it just wasn't the right connection.

Remember this. Stay hopeful. Stay curious, and stay patient. The right person is out there. They just haven't crossed your path. Yet.

Saw this up on the wall of an italian restaurant tucked away in one of Melbourne's many laneways while out on a dinner date last night...

A beautiful love poem, and a great topic of discussion on a date over a candlelit dinner.

I love embracing the romantic conversations with a man and getting his thoughts. It's always so enlightening. I think he enjpyed it too ;-)

Going on a first date, first impressions are important.

The way a man is dressed is often one of the first things a woman notices about him. In that moment when she first lays her eyes on you, she will remember her first impression.

A well-dressed man can exude confidence and individual style, leaving a lasting impact on the woman he is meeting for the first time.

Many women say a well-dressed man is sexier than a man with a lot of money.

Many women would choose a better-dressed man over other characteristics, like what he does for a living.

If your dating wardrobe is a little tired and stale, invest in a few new items to freshen it up. A new shirt, freshly ironed, may be just what you need to feel your best.

Many menswear shops have staffwho will help you choose items that flatter and help you to feel confident. Ask for help when out shopping - the staff would love to help you with your dating wardrobe!

So, when preparing for a first date, put some thought into your outfit. Pick an outfit you feel comfortable in and helps you to feel your best. Make sure you have ironed your shirt, your shoes are clean and polished (if they need it).

Please, please, please don’t turn up wearing trackies and a hoody. That sends a woman a message that you have put zero effort into meeting her.

And remember, most women put quite a bit of effort into their appearance for a first date. Hair, make up, nails, outfit, shoes - you want her to feel you have also made an effort.

Dress to impress. Your date will appreciate you for it.

Online dating can be hard when you are single. Draining. Energy zapping. Frustrating. Depressing.

It can leave you feeling depleted.

It's at these times when it's good to take a break.

Switch off your dating apps. Hide your profile.

Give youself a breather, and some space to reconnect with yourself.

Online dating can be cyclical. Sometimes it's all in the timing as to who else is there and who you will match with.

If you know you have a great profile, and are not getting any quality matches, take a break.

Do something else that you love doing instead.

Read a book, watch that movie you've been meaning to see. Catch up with friends you haven't seen in a while. Focus on your hobbies and doing things you love.

Picking up a tennis racquet and having a hit on the court always fills my soul.

Focus on you. Refill your cup. Then come back when you are ready.

Hell yeah! That's the response and enthusiasm you should have when considering whether to date someone.

I recently had a client who asked a woman if she would be interested in going on a date after meeting briefly through a friend a few months ago.

She politely declined and let him know she wasn't interested.

When talking through the declined invitation and how he felt, he said he was glad he asked and happy to know she isn't interested. I asked him why? He said he would never want to date someone who wasn't a "hell yes!" As in both parties are saying hell yes to each other mutually.

I couldn't agree more.

It has to be a hell yes every time!

Mutually.

My client bounced back quickly and ventured back into the jungle. He's ready to date and has already attracted a number of matches since the weekend.

I can't wait to hear about his near future dates and how they go.

Last weekend I attended a wedding in the country and had a conversation with a woman I hadn't seen in around 8 years, overlooking some beautiful tall trees in the most gorgeous valley.

The topic of conversation moved to dating in your mature years.

At 64, she lives in the moment and treats dating as one of life's pleasures.

She tells me of some amazing dates she has had in her 60's.

Dinner at Vue De Monde in Melbourne, long lunches at some fabulous restaurants, & attending events as a plus-one.

These mature men that she dated only needed two things from her - good company and conversation.

Many a friendship blossomed from there - I thought this was a wonderful example of the positives that come from dating in your more mature years.

It's never too late to meet new people and enjoy new experiences together.

If you let go of having expectations from a date, and enjoy being in the moment, you never know what may happen.

If you are feeling unsure about dating after a long -term relationship has ended, gone through a divorce or been out of the dating game for a long time, I'm here to help.

Reach out and lets have a chat.

www.mel-b.com.au

A friend of mine sent me a screenshot yesterday of a message she received from a guy she had just started chatting to on a dating app late last week.

We both celebrated a little - this is how mature adults should behave when online dating.

More of this communication please - from both men and women.

Open, honest, upfront, polite, respectful, to the point.

It's really not that hard.