Mind Torque

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Mind Torque

If you’re scared to go for something because you’re scared, uncertain, or doubting yourself…

Take a second to think about the other option: YOU choose to stay exactly where you are.

Staying in the same routine.
Overthinking and replaying the same excuses.
Listening to the same voice in your head - saying you can’t or you shouldn’t.

Instead of overthinking all day, give yourself 10–15 minutes to think about your worries—then actively STOP.

Sometimes the real risk isn’t trying….
It’s spending another day, another week,
another year wishing you had.

❣️When YOU let SUFFERING becomes part of your daily identity, you only see the hard parts of life not the good.

💥Consider this is your reminder to take the next step.....
Be brave
Be persistent
Trust in you.....
You can get another job,
Earn money again,
Rebuild your status
Learn a new skill
Fix mistakes…
However once your inner peace is disturbed, everything feels heavier.

We choose our perspective...
YOU, my friend get to chose everything in your life.
The light....
Love
Hope
Faith and trust
Grace and gratitude

And YOU get to choose to look for active solutions and plan...

Solutions create momentum - train your mind to move forward, not stay stuck.

And YOU do get to re-wire or rewrite the unhealthy experiences in life.

Everything begins with a THOUGHT and then a choice.

Choose peace with awareness and not aggression and stop being a victim.

𝖢𝗈𝗆𝖿𝗈𝗋𝗍 𝗄𝖾𝖾𝗉𝗌 𝗒𝗈𝗎 𝗐𝗁𝖾𝗋𝖾 𝗒𝗈𝗎 𝖺𝗋𝖾.
𝖣𝗂𝗌𝖼𝗂𝗉𝗅𝗂𝗇𝖾 𝗍𝖺𝗄𝖾𝗌 𝗒𝗈𝗎 𝗐𝗁𝖾𝗋𝖾 𝗒𝗈𝗎 𝗐𝖺𝗇𝗍 𝗍𝗈 𝖻𝖾.
𝖦𝗋𝗈𝗐𝗍𝗁 𝖻𝖾𝗀𝗂𝗇𝗌 𝗐𝗁𝖾𝗋𝖾 𝖼𝗈𝗆𝖿𝗈𝗋𝗍 𝖾𝗇𝖽𝗌.

Remember life is built on simple, consistent habits practiced daily.

YOU do not need to fix your whole life…
Just shift your state, one small action at a time and keep choosing a peace state.

Vivienne ❣️

Lets start be honest with you…

YOU will always have things from your past that hurt.

YOU - choose to keep going back to those hurts

YOU - choose to replay the hurts / pain - regretting and replaying your hurts / pain.

YOU - keep choosing and wishing you could undo it.

However, here's the truth nobody says out loud —

YOU can't - You never could.

Don't YOU understand that chapter is written - done!

Nothing can be changed its past - and no amount of guilt or shame or anger can change a single word or action.

What happened — happened.

However, it has shaped you and it broke you open.

And somewhere in that mess, it strengthen and built you, making you stronger!

Remember - your lessons are always the point.

Not the pain - stop punishing yourself for who you were before you knew better.

TAKE THE LESSON - LEARN - BREATHE.

Now its time to leave the weight behind.

Your next chapter deserves your full attention and self love.

Whether it’s a relationship, a habit, or a situation—no external gain is worth internal chaos.
Peace is not a luxury… it’s the foundation of everything.

YOU - choose you and prioritize your own emotional well-being and save your energy.

Peace begins the moment you stop explaining yourself and choose YOU......

Protect your energy.
Protect your peace.

Know and understand YOU are important and yes you've got this.

Do not let anyone dull your sparkle.

Vivienne ❣️

TURN UP YOU.......

Each moment of YOUR life is new, fresh, joyful and vital.

Every day - use your positive thinking to attract all that is good and draw every new possibility and any opportunities towards you with grace and gratitude.

Every day - open your eyes to each new day mindfully by choosing positive choices and from a place of awareness and understanding protect your peace and do not ignore what’s clearly in front of you.

Every day - People show you who they are in subtle ways—in their tone, their effort, their presence, and even in their silence.

Every day - YOU have a choice, you don’t always need to confront everything. Sometimes, simply observing, understanding, and adjusting your distance is the most powerful response.

Every day - control your emotions, not people.
Accept people as they are, not as you wish them to be—and you will avoid disappointment.

Blessings to everyone that reads this - know you are seen and heard.

Love you Vivienne ❣️

START SAYING “NO ” WITHOUT GUILT.

Every unnecessary “yes” drains you.

Boundaries are not rejection—they are protection.

Growth begins when you start saying no to the wrong things and yes to yourself.

STOP.....
Over explaining
Overthinking
Just say....… NO.

Saying "NO" taught me self-respect and the importance of prioritise.

The more you respect your limits, the more others will too.

Watch you're life become lighter when you stop forcing things that don’t feel right.

Choose what nurtures your energy, not what drains it.

Begin today by being mindful of where your time and energy go.

Blessings everyone
Vivienne ❣️

AUTHENTIC YOU OR NOT?.....

Are you playing a part or a version that someone wants of you?

Someday, you will look back and realize this version of you, the version you are playing is not authentically YOU - this version you living needs to die and be recreated with the real YOU!

So today find a quiet space where you can contemplate who you really are and what you need too do to identity in what direction you want your life to go in to be authentically YOU.

Sit quietly and observe where your mindset currently is - because what happens inside your mind is about how you behave, think and react!

💥IDENTIFY what no longer serves you or aligns with who you are right now or who you want to be - be brutal and kind to yourself during this process!

👋ASK YOURSELF:
Who are you?
Are you authentically YOU?
What needs to change to make YOU - YOU and how it can you make it happen?

💥If you feel you have not been representing yourself authentically adjust the way you present yourself - this could be either socially or professionally.

💥CREATE a personal mission statement that reflects YOU the authentic You (write it out) - this does not have to be advertised this can be just for you - clarity and mind affirmation!

💥You may need to CHANGE your inner circle with positive influences by seeking out mentors, supportive friends, or communities aligned groups that suit your needs.

💥NOTE - What you NOT CHANGING - YOU are choosing - being authentically YOU starts with honesty.

💥I would even go as far as to say it’s more important to learn how be HONEST with YOURSELF first, than it will be to be honest with others - friends and family have expectations! Ekkkkk!
And that balance between the honesty with oneself paired with the way you act is where AUTHENTICITY lies.

If you don’t love who YOU are right now, you have power to change.
One better choice.
One braver decision.
One step today....then another tomorrow.....
Small, daily moves that add up to make the changes.

Fighting Your fears is no easy task, however totally worth the effort and time in becoming who YOU are inside not outwardly who you think people want you to be.

YOUR challenge is to keep listening to your inner truth, that little voice within which tells you what you really want, where your happiness lies and then taking aligned action, regardless of how uncomfortable it feels.

SELF AWARENESS is the key to changing any inner behaviour that is not serving YOU!

❣️ALWAYS STRIVE YO BE AUTHENTICALLY YOU❣️

Keep fighting to stay true to who YOU are!
No matter the external crap that creeps in.
Be strong to whatever challenge's you.

Remember peace begins
the moment you stop explaining yourself.

Protect your energy.
Protect your peace.

You've got this, do not let anyone dull your sparkle

Love and light
Vivienne 💙💚

STOP EXPLAINING.........

YOU have to stop explaining yourself to people who are committed to misunderstanding you.

Not everyone is listening to understand—some are listening to reply, judge, twist or manipulate.

YOUR wisdom is knowing where your words will grow… and where they will be wasted or even twisted.

Some conversations are never about understanding you, only about keeping you emotionally exhausted enough to surrender your voice.

Nothing is as asphyxiating as arguing with a narcissist.
Don't - The moment you stop explaining yourself endlessly, their control starts slipping.

This is a powerful reminder to YOU that your worth is not defined by others' opinions or actions, it is about how you choose to respond and rise above the toxicity.

YOU ARE WORTH AND DESERVE SO MUCH MORE MY BEAUTIFUL!

So today look in the mirror and say to yourself YOU are important and worthy - stand up straight and know you're go this!

And yes, it is so important to prioritize your own emotional well-being.

Peace begins the moment you stop explaining yourself

Protect your energy.
Protect your peace.

You've got this, from this day forward do not let anyone dull your sparkle !!

Save your energy.
💚💛🧡🩷❤️

Today we celebrate all the wonderful women who keep us moving forward every single day 💐

We have all kinds of mums on this magnificent Planet - Birth mums,
Adoptive mums,
Chosen mums,
Stepmums,
Mums-in-waiting, and all the amazing mother figures in our lives.

To the mums who support us no exceptions or judgement given, the mums who need our support - we see you and we are here for you.

It’s a full time job and not for the fainthearted, their amazing strength, patience and resilience is inspirational and it has shaped many lives into being better and into who they are today.

I also send buckets of LOVE to those for whom find this day challenging - Mother's Day looks different for everyone. So know we are holding space for every single one of you.

Thanks Mum ❤️

Happy Mother’s Day to you all.

Namaste my beautiful Mums ❣️❣️❣️

OBSERVING IS POWERFUL

Spend less time reacting and more time observing.

Most chaos survives on your reaction.

When you step back and observe, situations lose their power.

AWARENESS and understanding often solves what arguments cannot.

Awareness gives you the freedom to choose. It allows you to respond wisely rather than react habitually.

You don’t always need to confront everything. Sometimes, simply observing, understanding, and adjusting your distance is the most powerful response.

Namaste ❤️
Vivienneoʻ

💥PRACTICE STILLNESS
not only in meditation
but in conversation… conflict and uncertainty.

PAUSE before reacting.
BREATHE before answering.
OBSERVE before deciding.