Jacinta's Family Day Care

Some moments don't have photo's they are words. When a child you care for is heading home with mum calls out he loves you and you call it back❤️. These moments are memories❤️

Another day another excursion and do you know what fills my heart? This connection just seems to be a natural part of our world! Love and connection, caring and group mentality! All of our excursions these holidays this has been massively heart-warming to watch with all of my little group ❤️

The photo's I didn’t bother sharing with parents today because there's no face these pics still show our amazing morning hobby farm haigsleigh this morning! Thankyou ewenique! https://www.eweniquehobbyfarm.com.au/ if interested in visiting - visit their website to book a spot❤️ don't worry mummas and pampas got the other photos 😉

Our natural pets inspired by our little bushwalk yesterday. Directed by the little people i just glued and glued and glued. They are so creative and impressive! Carefully placed eyes arms hair and wings etc😍 All heading home this afternoon to be looked after by their creators❤️

School holidays Mondays are hectic! They all talk to me at the same time all morning - all of them!🤣. So we went out and it helped shift me trying to have 7 conversations as they started talking to each other lol. A little local bush walk and gosh these guys had a blast. We found so many different colours in the environment flowers moss leaves bark etc. We googled plants and bugs to see what they were and discussed the coloured sticks that indicated someone had planted a plant for the environment. The conversations that I supported that this group started themselves was amazing! They came together held hands and we walked as a group without being reminded the children themselves announced when we had to wait for the person at the back! What a beautiful morning of learning and love❤️

Love this! Speak to them thats how they learn! They only give us their truth when they are so little - pain or something not right! Or happy or settled because thats all they can communicate when first born. But those first couple of months they take so much in and they understand so much people dont give them credit for! But they understand very quickly when we talk to them from such a small age❤️. This woman is brilliant! https://www.facebook.com/share/p/17NXkughS6/

They said babies didn’t remember.
They said toddlers couldn’t understand.
They said children were too young to feel real pain, real fear, real rejection.

She listened to them anyway.

Her name was Françoise Dolto, and she changed how the world understands children—not by inventing a machine or a drug, but by taking seriously what had always been dismissed.

That children know more than adults think.
And feel more than adults are comfortable admitting.

In the early to mid-20th century, medicine treated children as incomplete adults. Their cries were reflexes. Their distress was noise. Procedures were done without explanation. Hospital stays were isolating. Separation from parents was considered necessary, even beneficial.

Infants were operated on without anesthesia.
Toddlers were restrained without comfort.
Children were lied to “for their own good.”

And the trauma stayed in their bodies.

Françoise Dolto believed this was not ignorance.
It was avoidance.

Trained as a pediatrician and psychoanalyst in France, Dolto worked with children who could not yet articulate their pain in words. And yet, she noticed something undeniable.

When children were spoken to honestly, even as babies, their bodies changed.
Their fear softened.
Their resistance eased.
Their symptoms shifted.

She proposed something radical for her time: children understand language from birth. Not intellectually, but emotionally. Symbolically. Deeply.

A baby may not grasp syntax, she argued, but they understand meaning. Tone. Intention. Truth.

Pain explained is not the same as pain ignored.
Fear named is not the same as fear denied.

Dolto insisted that even the youngest patients deserved to be spoken to—not around, not about, but to. That telling a child what is happening to their body is not cruel. It is grounding.

Her work challenged long-held medical dogma.

Doctors resisted.
Institutions scoffed.
Some accused her of projecting adult psychology onto infants.

But mothers recognized the truth instantly.

They had always known their babies sensed more than they were told.

Dolto’s ideas reshaped pediatric care, child psychology, and maternal bonding. She influenced how hospitals handle separation, how doctors communicate with children, and how parents understand emotional development.

She emphasized that symptoms—bedwetting, mutism, aggression, withdrawal—were not misbehavior. They were communication.

The body speaks when words are denied.

She also confronted something deeply uncomfortable: that adults often underestimate children not because children lack understanding, but because adults fear responsibility. If children feel pain and rejection fully, then adults must reckon with the harm caused by silence, dismissal, and avoidance.

Dolto didn’t allow that escape.

She said children deserve truth delivered with care. That honesty, even about illness, death, or separation, is less damaging than deception.

Her philosophy changed how generations of clinicians approached childhood trauma. It helped lay groundwork for attachment theory in practice, trauma-informed pediatric care, and modern approaches to early emotional health.

And it reframed motherhood in a way women felt in their bones.

That maternal intuition is not sentimentality.
It is observation sharpened by love.

Mothers had always known when something was wrong—even when doctors minimized it. Dolto gave that knowing scientific dignity.

She once said, “What is spoken is no longer suffered in silence.”

That sentence explains her legacy.

Because when children are believed, their pain becomes visible.
When pain is visible, it can be treated.
And when truth is spoken early, it does not have to erupt later as illness, fear, or shame.

Françoise Dolto didn’t make childhood easier.

She made it honest.

And in doing so, she protected millions of children from the quiet harm of being unheard.

She trusted babies before science was ready to.
She trusted mothers when institutions didn’t.
And she proved that listening is not softness.

It is medicine.

Today we shopped to purchase hygiene products to donate. All of our group were super helpful while shopping collecting the goods and loading the register. We stopped in at the art gallery to build some lego cars and play with wind tunnels before delivering our mornings purchases to Indian Mehfil who run a no-one eats alone on Christmas day lunch. The discussions the children had were heart-warming and the pride on their faces as we handed over our small token of contribution. Combined with the reception we received at Indian Mehfil made for a heartfilled day. Helping raise holistic conciece humans who consider others❤️ https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1BqbB9pr5J/

Extending our learning about the solar system after the children were so excited about our ceiling. Exploring with a puzzle and soft planet balls and learning information for the utube song called " learn about the different planets of the solar system".

They loved it! Reach for the stars little ones! I had to print off a solar system chart so I can remember which planets are which because so many questions!!!! We followed this up with a little video on utube about planets. I am secretly surprised they were so inquisitive! ❤️this!!

The walls are definately highlighted now🤮 but the ceiling got a makeover in the play room! The other 3 walls are on the agenda!!!

I could sit them down with a piece of paper and a pencil and ask them to draw a line to see if they can - or I can notice that they can when they copy Bonnie's lines to make roads for the monster trucks. Which one do the littlies prefer? Which tactics is more effective for learning? Learning from their peers 101 in action here - learning through play - evidence of skills❤️