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on my mind, Facebook? Well, here's a little something I've learnt.

We feel our thinking. Our thoughts shape our experienced reality but we confuse that with material reality itself.
Our thoughts are our narrative or map of self. Our thoughts are the story we tell ourselves about ourselves What's and we cling to them as if they are real.
We wouldn't confuse a map of Australia with the country itself, but we confuse our thoughts of self with material reality.

Feelings are transitory. They don't last. Moments of utter clarity or wisdom, grace or divinity are just moments, the same way feelings of hopelessness, loneliness or anger are just moments. They are fleeting.
Yet we cling to these feelings like a lifeline, which in turn can prevent us from allowing the moment to pass. We find ourselves focusing on the past or the future, both of which don't exist, looking for a fleeting feeling, which won't be found.

If we truly accept and realise that we FEEL our feelings, and these feelings are transitory and won't last, no matter how positive or negative they are. If we accept that even the biggest growth and break through and the feelings we get are fleeting, then we can allow ourselves to feel things fully. In this moment. Let them come and go as easily as we breath in and out.
We might find ourself enjoying the things we do, regardless of what they are. Being present, in this moment.

That's what's on my mind Facebook. Thanks for asking..

What does your wellness routine look like? How much time do you spend refining it?
Got any tips for those looking to create a new wellness routine or improve on an existing one?

We're now at the business end of January 2018.
That's enough time to be able to reflect and asses how well your goals and intentions are holding up.
Have you made an action plan and stuck to it? Have you made some positive results and movement towards your goals?
Are you being ACTIVE or REACTIVE?

Did you say no to those questions and yes to this one?

Don't worry, that's part of the human experience.
What separates you from the actualisation of your goals is ACTION.

My 6 week Goal and Intention Setting Program is designed around taking purposeful and specific ACTION and tackling any insights and learnings that may come up along the way.

It's hands on and fast paced. It's about getting in touch with the best version of you that you can be and having a bit of fun along the way.
Most importantly it's all about you. One on one coaching.

If you're ready to step up for yourself, to make a plan and start taking ACTION towards it then hit me up.

I have just a couple spots ready to kick off early February.
Shoot me a message or comment below and I'll shoot you some further info.

Here's to you and your journey.
Ruckus.

Sunday afternoons are for watching the sunset, drinking tea and planning your week ahead. Grab a pen and paper and design your perfect week. Write it all down, even if it seems impossible. Get specific. Get creative. Get inspired.
What does your week look like??

The distance between your dreams and reality is called action.
What can you do today, right now to bring you closer to your desired reality?

Oi. It's Monday. And it's fu***ng December already?!

It's about that time of year that we stop eating 4 hash browns for breakfast and start researching the nearest gym to join for 2 months.

DID YOU KNOW... that about 8% of people that make a New Years resolution actually achieve it.

Let that sink in, I'll wait right here.

That statistic forced me to ask myself what separates folks like you and me from that 8%? What is it that ultimately stops us from losing the Dad bod? Saving for a holiday? Getting a new job, cutting back on breakfast beers or just improving our all round wellbeing and state of mind?

Short answer is Consistency. Clarity. Consistency.
That's not a typo. I meant to write that twice.

Having the intention isn't enough, while it's a brilliant fu***ng place to start.

It's about consistent effort and the development of a new routine that will get us over the line, regardless of the goal. Key word ROUTINE.

Here's what I've done for us.

I've created a 6 week Goal and Intention Setting Coaching program.
It's designed to get specific about what you want to achieve, create an Action plan and fu***ng go for it.

Remember, motivation isn't found, it's created through purposeful and meaningful actions each day.

I only have a few spots left so shoot me a message or comment below and I'll get the pricing info and further details to you.

Time to join the 8%. Who knows, you'll probably enjoy yourself in the process.

Here's to you and your journey.
Ruckus.

If it doesn't challenge you, it won't change you.

Along my road to personal growth and self discovery I've fallen off the wagon a lot more than most.
I've attempted change so many times that it's become one of my life's only consistency's.

What I've noticed in reflection is that I'd make little to no attempt at improving my overall wellbeing or situation until I absolutely had to, or my environment is so 'uncomfortable' and 'unsustainable' that I am pushed into a position to be reactive instead of proactive. Do you even stress, bro?

I would wait till I was unwell before attempting to be healthy. I'd wait till I had little to no money to think about saving. I'd wait till I had no work before looking for a job that I really wanted. I'd wait till I was unemployed to think about studying. What I noticed is that I wasn't the only one doing this.

There's a couple things that I've learnt about myself and change that I'd love to share.

Firstly, change IS uncomfortable. Period.
If it wasn't, then it'd be easy and everyone would be living the life they desire, right?
So, what is it about being uncomfortable that we don't like?
Well, it's uncomfortable!
We live in a current social construct that's built around providing every measure of comfort and convenience to the modern human. We're so accustomed to this comfort that we avoid being uncomfortable at any cost.

The human we are today is a construct of habitual behaviours, feelings and actions that have served us at some point along the way.
We Simultaneously create and perceive our reality so fast and unconsciously that we very rarely stop to question its validity or how well it still serving us. We play to our comfort zones and step out of them only when we absolutely have to, or when our current situation requires us to.

So! Be uncomfortable. Look at your routine and step outside of the habitual behaviour that keeps you inside your comfort zone. Embrace the opportunity to learn and grow, not because you have to, but because you want to.
Doing this will literally create new ways of thinking, feeling, behaving and emotions. In essence a new you.
Doing this can feel somewhat overwhelming initially, however using the same repetition that you used to create behaviours that kept you deep inside the comfort zone will help you solidify new ways of being.
Keep a diary and journal your new daily routine. Even if you change one thing to start with. It's a start.

Secondly! This is not a dress rehearsal. This is the real deal.
No one else but you is responsible for the outcomes you achieve and the life you're living.
Your actions are more important than your words. Good ideas are no good at all if they just remain ideas.
What have you done today to help the future you?
What actions or movements have you taken towards your goals today big or small?

If it doesn't challenge you, it won't change you.
If you stay comfortable, if you play it safe, If you wait for the 'right time'. If you only want to change your life when the going gets tough how will you be prepared?

We all want instant gratification, to reap the rewards of our efforts immediately.
I'm not saying this won't happen, what I'm saying is you need to work for it. Every day. And be committed to it.
Patience is a virtue and if you want your achievements to last then there's no shortcuts to making them a reality.

This is your masterpiece. You're a walking, talking, creative piece of art. You can design your life just the way you want it. Take your time and learn to love the process.

Here's to you and your journey.
Ruckus.

To create change, and I mean real and lasting change we must do something different to what we have done to get us to where we are now.
Sounds simple, right?
However, we struggle to break through habitual ways of thinking, feeling and behaving, in doing so we keep achieving and creating the same things in the same reality- somewhat like a modern take on Bill Murray's movie 'Groundhog Day'

Working with a coach gives you the opportunity to have habitual behaviour identified, look into your beliefs and values and push through them to create the version of yourself that you see in your head but not the mirror.

I have a couple spots left to fill between now and January.
Comment below or shoot me a DM for more info.

Here's to you and your journey.
Ruckus.

There's a fundamental difference between 'understanding' and 'realising'. Realisation comes when we put what we understand into practice. So what's stopping you? Happy Wednesday beautiful humans.

The Journey Within.

Happy Monday!

When you embark on the road to self discovery and personal change it can be confronting, abrupt and uncomfortable.
All the things you've spent a lifetime trying to avoid.

It's when we decide that we want change that we realise just how difficult it can be to achieve.
There are a number of reasons for this, however what I'd like to talk about is how to set yourself up for success and the tools that you already have that can help you cross that bridge from where you to where you want to be.

'If you fail to plan, you plan to fail'- Benjamin Franklin.
Thanks Ben, I could have used this advice 15 years ago.

I remember making a decision to stop drinking and partying so much and focus on my mental and physical health.
I made this decision on the way to work one Monday morning while I was extremely hungover and very broke.
While my intention was in the right place, what I hadn't done is put anything in place to support this new way of thinking.
So, as soon as I was presented with the opportunity that supported my old ways of thinking and behaving I became the captain of the whoops train on a one way trip to benderville again without a second thought.
In my circle of friends I was 'that' guy. It took time and effort to reposition myself into my social network as anything other than the party boy that loved a good vomit and playing air guitar.

Then came the guilt. I felt guilty for letting myself down and when I attempted to make change and repositioning myself in my social setting, letting my friends down that were so accustomed to me being so self destructive.

This was a cycle I found myself regularly until it got to the point I was fired from my job then kicked out of where I was living.
I was looking for drastic change, and I definitely found it.
I hadn't quite reached the level of personal accountability that I have now at the time and spent a while looking for someone to pin the blame on 'oh, they fired me because they were over staffed' 'I didn't like the job anyway'

The reality was I knew there was more to my life that what I was doing. I felt a deep pull from within that I'd spent a long time trying to drown with every beer. Ever.
I'd asked for change and it was given to me, abrupt as it was, it was here.

'We want union, we want connection, we need it the way we need other forms of nutrition, and denied it we delve into these lower impulses for sanctuary'- Russell Brand.

So, how then, can we create positive lasting change?
Glad you asked.

Firstly, getting specific about exactly what it is you want to change in your life and exactly what that looks and feels like to you.
Spend some time writing these out. Be as detailed as you can be. Dream big.

Be brave. Making the decision to change aspects of your life will not only challenge you, but those closest to you.
Who you choose to surround yourself with play a vital role in achieving and maintaining positive change. It is a choice.
Consider your closest friends for a moment and ask yourself this;
Do they support the best version of myself that I can be?
Do they bring value and inspire me to step up and play at 100%?
If they don't, then it's time to reposition yourself in their lives. Sounds simple, can be emotionally challenging, however! It's you that is responsible for your life and the quality of it, not your buddy that wants to play Xbox and drink beer all night.

Keep a diary.
Keeping a diary gives you the opportunity to reflect on where you have come from and identify any habits or patterns of habitual behaviour that maybe sabotaging your new goals.

Cultivate mindfulness.
This was a game changer for me and my life's trajectory.
Going within. It's a wild ride!
In the age of smartphones there is an abundance of choice when it comes to apps and tools for meditation, breathing and mindfulness.
These apps can even send you reminders and track your progress. I know, amazing, right?

Set milestones and CELEBRATE them.
You've been working hard and deserve to be rewarded for it.
It's up to you how you choose to be rewarded and who with.
When you tick off a goal or reach a milestone. Congratulate yourself and you'll feel a renewed sense of motivation for working towards your goals. Remembering that the journey is just as important as the destination (so esoteric, but so true!)

It's ok to not be ok.
Along the way you'll have moments where you'll fall back into old ways of thinking and behaving.
Be gentle and forgiving on yourself. When you're creating new habits and ways of thinking it doesn't mean the old ones don't exist.
Look at it like this;
Your old ways of thinking and behaving are like a well worn bridge that you travel to work on everyday.
Construction has begun on a new 3 lane wide bridge beside the old one to replace it.
Once it's open it's smooth driving and smiles all around. But that doesn't mean the old bridge doesn't exist, intact when the situation and environment is aligned, you can find yourself taking the old bridge to work and being captain of the whoops train again.
This is ok. It's called 'being a human'
Once you become aware of it, and the triggers that got you there, you can be on the look out for them for next time.

Most importantly, have fun doing it. Motivation isn't found, but created through purposeful action.
If you're enjoying stepping up to these changes you're looking to make then you'll feel an intrinsic pull towards them. You'll be hungry for it.
If you're feeling like it's a chore, and you're really having to push yourself to do it, have a look at the changes and what the reason is you're doing them. Constantly reevaluate and reflect. There's no right or wrong here, just results.

Here's to you and your journey.
Ruckus.