Vanessa Moon

26/09/2026

Pulling a card from Conversations with Purpose - Talking Point (small talk bundle) and answering it live, completely unscripted. The question: how do you think your best friend would describe you to a complete stranger?

Spoiler - I don't have an easy answer. As a Xennial (that Gen X/elder millennial crossover) woman recently diagnosed with AuDHD, I talk through why I don't currently have a best friend, why my brain needs context before it can answer anything, and what actually comes up when people have described me in the past - weird, kinky, devoted pet mum to my dog Garry and cat Maya, sapphic leaning bi+, former s*x worker, tech witch, perimenopausal and still figuring most of it out.

This is the first pull from a 200-question deck, so there'll be more of these. If you've got an answer to today's question, or you also freeze up on it, drop it in the comments. I want to read every single one.

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26/09/2026

How do you think your best friend would describe you to a complete stranger?

That's the question I pulled from my Conversations with Purpose - Talking Point deck this week, and I sat with it longer than I expected to.

Here's the twist though. I don't currently have a best friend. As a recently diagnosed AuDHDer (March 2025, if you're curious), keeping friendships alive has always been the hard part for me, not making them. So many good people have moved away over the years, the way life just does that to you as you get older. It brings up loneliness sometimes, but I've made peace with it being temporary. There are probably people out there who already see themselves as my friend and I'm just too blind to notice it.

So back to the question. My brain went straight into interrogation mode. Which stranger? What setting? A work context, a personal one, a kink space, a vanilla one, a concert? Why are they even describing me to this person? I couldn't answer it as asked, so I ended up answering it for myself instead.

If someone had to describe me, they'd probably say: pet obsessed, completely devoted to her dog Garry and her cat Maya. A tech witch by trade. Currently learning Auslan. Emotional, caring, kind, a bit funny, definitely weird, and carrying a lot of lived experience from a colourful past most people don't expect. AuDHD and proud of the label. Sapphic-leaning bi+ woman. Perimenopausal and still figuring out what that means for me day to day.

Maybe that's not what you asked for, but it's what I've got.

Your turn. How do you think your best friend would describe you to a complete stranger? Drop it in the comments, I genuinely want to read every one.

31/08/2026

There's a feeling anyone who's ever started something new knows. The "I should be better at this by now" feeling. That's the one that showed up for me on day one back in the classroom.

It's like learning a choreography, and I'm stumbling and stumbling and stumbling, hoping I catch the routine before it feels like everyone else already has the steps. We're doing two weeks worth of lessons in a single day, four Saturdays covering what would normally be eight weeks. It's intense. It's throwing my brain straight into the deep end. And that's exactly why it works for me too.

Here's the honest why behind doing this now. Certificate Two doesn't start until next year, and enrolments don't even open until November. So this is me getting a head start, so next year doesn't hit me in one big shock.

But if I'm being fully honest, it's more than strategy. What else am I doing between now and then? Absolutely nothing, if I'm honest with myself. Just working. This is professional development and it's personal, both at once. It's purposely getting me out of the house. My autistic side is strong, and left to my own devices I would just stay in my routines, stay in the comfort of what I already know. This is the thing pulling me out of that, on purpose, every Saturday.

29/08/2026

Round two of Auslan Level Two. Last week I turned up on the wrong day, brain completely not functioning. This week I got it right - right week, right day, arrived super early, and found a good park right next to the stairwell so I wouldn't forget it. Known commodity over a new car park. How autistic of me.

I'd rather arrive a half an hour early than a half an hour late. Learnt that the hard way with Level One, and it's held true ever since.

One thing I've decided for these four Saturdays - I'm shouting myself lunch every week and trying somewhere different each time. It gives me something to look forward to, it helps my AuDHD, and it takes care of lunch and dinner without me having to think about it on a day when my brain is already working overtime.

By the end of the day we were all brain tired. Genuinely - the instructor gave us the actual sign for it, that's how universal the feeling was in the room. I was so glad I'd bought food rather than relying on the salad I'd prepped, because there was no way I was cooking when I got home.

One of my classmates started a WhatsApp group for the cohort. Small thing, but it matters - a few of us are looking at Certificate Two and Three next year, and having people to practise with before that even starts is a head start I didn't expect to get this early.

14/07/2026

A LOUD ALARM will be emitted from EVERY mobile phone in Australia on Mon 27th July by AusAlert

This moment of 10 seconds, when the very LOUD alarm is occurring could cause distress in many humans and living beings.

AusAlert, Australia's new emergency warning system will sound an alarm nationwide. Every mobile phone in Australia will sound a LOUD ALARM on Monday 27 July.

Australian Capital Territory – 2pm AEST
New South Wales – 2pm AEST
Queensland – 2pm AEST
Tasmania – 2pm AEST
Victoria – 2pm AEST
Northern Territory – 1.30pm ACST
South Australia (including Broken Hill) – 1.30pm ACST
Western Australia – 12pm AWST

The sound: your phone will emit a loud, siren-like sound and vibrate for about 10 seconds.

It will override your phone's settings: because this test uses a "Critical Alert" tier, it will completely override your phone's silent, do not disturb, or volume settings.

The message: the screen will clearly display a test message noting that no action is required.

You can turned the AusAlert off on you iPhone: settings > notifcations > scroll to very bottom and toggle off. For Samsung: notifications > advanced settings > click on wireless emergency contact.

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29/06/2026

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15/06/2026

The human behind the replies at Yoni Pleasure Palace community!

There's a real person on the other end of every response in the Yoni Pleasure Palace group.

I know that might sound obvious however lately it feels worth saying out loud.

I've been the sole moderator of that community for over five years. The only person replying to every single post, every question, every vulnerable share that lands in there each week. Just me. Thousands of replies. Thousands of women who deserved a thoughtful response, not a copy-paste brush-off.

For a long time I did it all manually. And it nearly broke me.

Two years ago I started using AI as a tool... to protect my voice (not to replace it). Because the alternative was burning out quietly and disappearing from a community I actually love showing up for.

Here's what that actually looks like in practice. I voice-note my answers. I've spent two years training the language to reflect how I think, what I value, and how I naturally speak. I build specific prompts. I fact-check everything. And then I filter every response through my own judgement before it goes anywhere near the group.

As someone with AuDHD, having a consistent and structured approach to how I show up there is actually one of the things I'm most proud of. It means you get a reply that's been thought through, not dashed off in a moment of exhaustion.

So yes. AI assists me behind the scenes.

So yes. AI assists me behind the scenes.

What you're reading is still me... a 47-year-old woman who has spent years developing the knowledge and skills to show up well in this space. That's come from training I've sought out for myself, from lived experience, and from genuinely caring about the quality of what lands in your feed. Some weeks are busier than others. But every reply gets the same level of thought and care.

AI is a tool. The same way a calculator is a tool. The same way spell-check is a tool. Using it makes my work more sustainable, more consistent, and honestly, more considered. (It doesn't make my words less mine!!!)

A few questions I want to answer directly:

*Is AI writing your responses?*
AI assists me. My words, my values, and my lived experience shape every single reply. I fact-check everything. Getting it right matters to me.

*Why use it at all?*
Because burnout is real. And this community deserves consistency and quality... not a version of me running on empty.

*Are you actually reading our posts?*
Every single one. 💛

*Can I talk to you directly about this?*
Always. My inbox (DM me) is open, and so is my email: [email protected]

I'll keep showing up here the same way I always have... with care, with honesty, and with a real human heart behind every word.

That part has never changed, and it won't. 🙏

30/05/2026

Are you fussy about taste and smell, or do you push through it? (AuDHD or not I'd love to know!)

29/05/2026

My ADHD said buy the new shiny sleepy drink - my autism had other plans.

So I did a thing. I let Instagram convince me to buy a sleep bundle (a hot chocolate and a maple cinnamon blend) because the packaging was beautiful, the ingredients looked great, and my ADHD brain was fully on board with the novelty of something new.

My sleepy drink situation has been on my mind for a while. I've been using the same one for a long time, and I love it .... but I could feel it becoming less effective. Like my system had recalibrated and I needed more of it to get the same result. Not cost effective. Not sustainable. Time to find something new!

And this is where being AuDHD gets genuinely interesting (whilst also genuinely frustrating at the same time). The ADHD side of me was all in. Something new! Something shiny! Let's go! And then the autistic side showed up and went: wait. This is unfamiliar. We don't know if this is safe. These two parts working against each other is a very specific kind of chaos I'm still getting used to.

I tried both drinks with coconut milk (the only milk that works for me) or straight or with honey. Multiple attempts. The hot chocolate smelled incredible when I opened it so I genuinely thought I'd finally found one that tasted like an actual hot chocolate. Unfortunately (for me), it did not taste like an actual hot chocolate. Both drinks had a taste and awful aftertaste that my whole body rejected.

I've lodged a refund request under their taste guarantee. We'll see.

But the bigger thing I wanted to share is this ..... I spent a long time believing that being sensitive to taste and smell meant I was being difficult. Fussy. Precious. And the more I sit with my AuDHD diagnosis (since March 2025) the more I understand that these are real, valid sensory sensitivities. I don't have to push through them. It's okay if something works for everyone else and genuinely doesn't work for me. That's not failure. That's just how I'm wired.

If you've felt this way: you're not alone in the fussiness. I promise.

28/05/2026

AuDHD and loneliness 🔁 are they basically a package deal? I think so. What's your experience?