The Fulfilled Man

Connection starts within each of us.

At a time like this in the world, connection is the one true currency...
A connection within so that we can connect deeper to other like minded and open hearted humans.

The heart doesn't reject the love from someone based on their beliefs, so let's come back to that place to again see the fragility of our humanness and that we are only trying to do the best we can.

If you're feeling anger or fear with the events of the world, perhaps it's time to turn inward so that you can show up more powerfully and in your conviction outward.

In this 3 hour journey we will be doing some things.

These things may very well allow you to dissolve fear, uncertainty, stagnancy or judgement so that you can have more clarity, feel more centred and grounded, open your heart and find the part of you that can grow without limitation.

So what are these things that we will be doing?

✨Sacred Ceremonial Cacao, ancient Peruvian invocations and intention setting
✨Embodied movement
✨Guided Breathwork and meditation

If you don't know what these things are, head over to the event link in the comments and find out so more. It's the perfect balance between science and magick.

This is a beautiful opportunity for you to let go of everything happening in the outer world and connect deeply to your inner world, where the answers await you.

When: Saturday 28th August 3:30-6:30pm
Where: Burleigh Masonic Lodge, Gold Coast
Investment: $45 + booking fee

For more information or to get involved, jump onto the event page via the ticket link or reach out to me and ask some questions.

and I would love to see you there.

We’d also love to see some men step up and commit to doing the work on themselves alongside the ladies 💪🏼

When you sat at school they taught you what to think and how to think.

When you went to university/tafe they taught you what to think and how to think.

When you turned on the television to watch the news they taught you what to think and how to think.

They told you to get a secure job so you’d be safe.
They told you to save to get a house so you and your family would be safe.
They told you to never question authority so that they can keep you safe.

They told you and you said yes.

How dare you act out of line and think differently.
How dare you step outside the bounds of the system in which society is built on.
How dare you value freedom over your own safety.
How dare you question anyone in a position of authority.

Don’t question.
Do what the majority do.
You will be looked after.

But what if you don’t belong in a herd?

What if you’re prepared to take a risk to do what lights you up?
What if you prefer to live in a van and just get by financially but be the happiest you’ve ever been?
What if you prefer to start your own business?
What if you want to think differently and act differently?
What if you’re on a path to finding fulfilment?
What if authority doesn’t always have your best interests at heart?

“That’s foolish and you will regret your actions.”
“If you do that you will never be able to retire.”
“If you think like that you’re a conspiracy theorist.”
“You can’t be happy if you don’t have money.”
“We’re doing this for your safety and health.”

The majority will never agree with you because they don’t understand you. 
They haven’t walked in your shoes.
They don’t understand the way you see the world.

Dare to be different.
Dare to question.
Dare to break free of the chains so many are bound by.

Finding the unity within the division

I’m grateful for the support I received yesterday on my post regarding the hate on my live video from the freedom rallies.

And after I posted this I received 2 messages from people who were apart of the hate, apologising for the way they acted and it being a heat of the moment thing, fuelled by emotion. I’m grateful for you and your ability to have the self awareness to see where you may have crossed a line and where you were true to yourself. 

This is the human form at its finest.
Fragile.

And, this brings up a very interesting conversation to have.

Based on this same example of people acting on emotion and regret for their actions, then how many others sit in the same boat?

What can actually be done for someone to be ok with another human who contradicts their beliefs and performs actions that you don’t agree with? 

So then I think back to the last 5 years of my life, the reason I distanced myself from tertiary education and dove into unconventional education: NLP, emotional work and Breathwork
To see life from a new lens, a new perspective. 

And this is not to say tertiary education doesn’t have it’s place, but its to say that tertiary education definitely didn’t teach me how to treat other people…

These skills and tools that the majority of society never learn in their lives were the very things that allowed me to not retaliate, not to undermine another human and to continue to forgive those who thought it was ok to attack me.
It’s these same things that I have been ridiculed for in my life.

I am a wig out
I am having a psychotic episode
I’ve joined a cult
You shouldn’t leave a double degree in engineering
You shouldn’t leave the gym
You shouldn’t move away from the shire

I choose to live my life without limitation.
I choose to question the mainstream narrative
I choose to treat humans with love and respect

So here is a call to action!
Stop judging yourself and others based on their beliefs
Stop judging yourself and others based on intellect and credentials
Start judging yourself and others based on whether you are a decent human

When you point your finger, there are 3 pointing back at you 👈🏽

I’ve found it super challenging to navigate social media the past month.

I’ve been conflicted internally about what I want to share and how I am to do that.

I could write posts that would speak directly to the people I am here to work with and I will continue to do that, but right now I wanted to share something much deeper that would be of impact to more people.

And then all my s**t came up… if you don’t post the way you have that has grown your business then you won’t have a business anymore…
What you have to share may conflict the beliefs of those you would and could do business with, is that wise? 

And then I asked the question… what is authenticity?

It’s not suppressing my voice.
It’s not following the “rules” to business on social media if it doesn’t feel like its coming from a genuine place.
But it is sharing what I believe in regardless of the consequences.

I believe in Freedom of speech.
I believe in freedom of body autonomy .
I believe in the freedom of choice.
I believe in the freedom to uphold basic human rights.

Right now those things aren’t so FREE anymore.

Mass censoring of information online.
Threats that body autonomy won’t be a choice.
Mandatory directives being pushed out on a national basis that directly oppose your rights.

This is probably not news to you.

What I really want to share though is what I observe in majority who are aware of these things, and what I had observed within myself.

SILENCE and COMPLIANCE.

People who have committed their lives to doing the work on themselves… self development, mindset work, emotional work, Breathwork.. and yet all this work that has been done to empower themselves, they remain silent or blindly comply.

When is the time to speak up about the injustices.
When is the time to speak up about the impact of extensive lockdowns that were only meant for 2 weeks to “flatten the curve” that has resulted in more su***de and businesses closing down than you know what
When are you going to stop rolling over like a dog and putting up with this?

Are you in or have you been in a really busy time or a time of massive change in your life where it impacted the connection to your partner?

Even when you were physically present with each other, it’s as though you were miles away…

When you would speak you’d lose train of your thought and it would only be about you…
When your partner was speaking and you were listening you couldn’t even recall what was being said…

It’s not such a great feeling when under the facade of the achievement and success is the longing for deep connection...
Deep connection that feels as though nothing else matters outside of this...

Your default is to label life as too busy right now and it just being a hard phase you’re going through but things will improve...

What we actually need to look at is the ability to compartmentalise the different areas of your life.
Devote work to certain hours within your day.
Devote time to sustaining your speed through looking after your mental, emotional and physical health.
Devoting time to nourishment in your relationship by letting go of everything else and being fully present in the relationship... (applies to the relationship with yourself if you are single)

Busyness and change is a part of life when you pursue high achievement and success.
It’s how you approach it that determines whether you can find the fulfilment in it 👌🏼

It’s pretty simple.

Your health, relationships and joy are something that you’re focusing on everyday, or something that you avoid to only have them smack you in the face at some stage in the future.

By all means work hard to create results and success in your life, but realise that is not your entire life.

A Fulfilled Man grows in the pursuit of his purpose, his relationship, his health and his joy.

Welcome to The Fulfilled Man

The Fulfilled man is here to change the face of what it truely means to live the life of a man with fulfilment.

The Fulfilled Man was birthed after I personally experienced such divide between success and fulfilment in my life.

In my upbringing I never saw the example of what it meant to have material success whilst also being deeply fulfilled in relationships, health and connected to ones purpose and reason for living.

I decided that you could only ever have one or the other … until things shifted for me.

No more hustle until you die and definitely no waiting until the life you have always wanted lands on a silver platter.
Fulfilled men create impact, are connected to their hearts and grow in all areas of their life.

A successful man focuses on making it.
He may have created results in his work or business.
He may have mastered the art of dating.
He may very well be looked up to for his success.
He has a strong and developed mindset.

But a successful man will sacrifice connection for his success.
His mind will overrule his heart.
He will settle for a connection rather than deep love.
His worth is tied in his achievements.
He is overly masculine.
He neglects his health and relationships. �His happiness suffers.
And with all the beauty in the world surrounding him, he can’t feel the pleasure.
Deep down he is on a journey to find the pure connection with his heart.

A fulfilled man has already made it.
He realised that making it was actually a feeling he had once been searching for; he has found it in the now.
He softens and surrenders to the depths of love.
Yet, he has a fierceness and ferociousness in his mission that he shows up for daily.
He knows he is worthy of living this life.
His presence is felt.
He creates clarity in times of turmoil.
He is the example of an integrated life.
Masculine and feminine.
Heart and mind.
Growth and expansion.

At some stage in the past you didn't think the life you are living now was achievable or even possible.

Yeah there may still be a lot you want to change.

There may be things and areas that aren't quite where you want them to be.

But you're here and you've got a lot of life ahead of you to focus on all those things.

Give yourself a pat on the back before you focus on the next summit to climb or valley to descend 👌🏼💚

Ps: We haven't had our boy "loyal" for the past few months while we tried to find a home. Now we are back reunited ♥️

Uncommon belief of those pursuing more success…

The more you do doesn’t necessarily result in the more you achieve, have and become.

That is, spending more time doing doesn’t mean more achievement, results, impact and growth.

Doesn’t make sense right?

I’ll explain…

It comes down to quality of what you do and the WHY behind what you’re doing…

When you’re working massive hours to get more done, sure in the short term more will be done.

But when you’ve done this over a long period of time you’ll lose effectiveness… you’ll start to question and you’ll certainly start to feel an underlying level of misery…

How would I know?
I did this for years.
And when I had the courage to look around at my life…
… it was empty.

My days turned from being so excited to “build my Empire”, to “how can I get out of this now… how can I find a way to escape with some change?”

So what was the shift?

Having time to fully switch off…
And spending time on not doing more.
Seems counterintuitive right?

In the long run it’s the thing that truely matters and the thing that’s going to continue to carry your forward…

Time to be fully present in your relationship.
Going to the markets on the weekend.
Spending time in nature.
Taking your doggo for a walk.
Walking on the beach.
Spending time to sit and think.

If you’re not doing these things when you aren’t successful, you’re not going to do them when you are…
In 6, 12, 18., 24 months when new challenges are coming into your life, these are the things you get to come back to.
These are the things that are going to pull you forward time and time again.

And let’s be aware of the dangers of swinging the other way and spending majority of your time manifesting while taking no action. Tried that too.

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Men, who want to build a relationship with deeper presence and how to actually have time to switch off without pulling your hair out.
Last 24 hours to apply for my FREE 4 week mentorship BECOME THE MAN
Link to apply in my bio

The man chasing success.

Pursuing it with every inch of his being, that it’s not a matter of “if” but “when.”
Hunger, focus, consistent action.
The future looks bright.

But what about right now?

It’s irrelevant to him.
Right now he’s not as successful as what he wants to be so he focuses on that.
Connection… doesn’t really matter.
Health… when he can fit it in.
Adventure… no time.

Fulfilling right..?
…Far from it.
Yet in this stage, he’s blind to what he has avoided or pushed aside.
This is life.

This most interesting thing about this…
It’s a simple shifts to be made…

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We cover this deeper in BECOME THE MAN

This is the 4 week free mentorship for Men who desire to access more fulfilment in their lives.

Nourishing Relationships. Sustained Speed. Connected Success.

Are you ready for more fulfilment?

Apply for the free mentorship via the link in my bio ✌🏼

When you are caught up in the mundane of your work and business and forget about what really fuels you…

Getting stuck in the mundane routine of the day to day can create a lot of unhappiness.
If that is all you see each day, then overtime you’re going to lose faith.
Especially when you have a large responsibility as a leader or business owner.

What is this actually all for?
Why am I doing this?
Why don’t I go and do something easier, with less responsibility and less stress?

At the deepest level you know that going for the easier option with less responsibility and stress gives you no contentment or fulfilment...
… but right now what you are doing is also giving you no contentment or fulfilment.

If you’re in this stage right now, you’re probably thinking; “Well if I stop doing all the mundane things and only focus on what really fuels me, then it will be all solved.” Happiness, contentment and fulfilment will follow.

However, sometimes what is considered as mundane may actually be necessary.
This mundane may very well be the tedious, structural pieces of working/owning a business.
And, you need to remember that the structure (masculine) gives space for the freedom and flow (feminine).
It may be this very flow that is where you feel more fuelled

By all means, focus more on this which fuels you.
But rather than completely avoiding “the mundane” it’s time to shift the lens through which you are viewing it.
The lens of perspective and gratitude.
Theres a long term process to all of this. The perspective to zoom out of your little bubble right now, and focus on where this is actually taking you will be a gamechanger.
And from that point when you see the path ahead you can be grateful for right now… Even in the challenging and “mundane” times.

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Wanting more fulfilment in your work?
Wanting more tools, strategies and practices to bring more gratitude in your day?

Then BECOME THE MAN 4 week FREE mentorship is for you.

Become the man deeply fulfilled in his work/business and ready to live a life with more gratitude.

Head over to the application page in my bio to apply 🔥✊🏽

A personal share about my inability to navigate my former relationship and pursue my purpose simultaneously.

It was back in 2017 when I was in the process of transitioning out of university to start my first business.

At this stage I was so thrilled to be my own man, to create a business that would give me freedom and live the life of a business owner.

I was also in a long term relationship.

Throughout my time in this relationship prior to the dream of opening the business, I was studying my heart and mind out for the degree that was going to give me the success and results I had dreamt of.

But now with the change and correction to owning my own business on the horizon, things would change.

I would now have the success and freedom to spend more time with my partner; something that studying had deprived me from.

And so that was my word to her “once I have the business setup, I’ll have much more time for you. We will be able to spend more time together. This is just a phase.”

And so fast tracking a few weeks then months, that freedom and promise to her was never delivered.

The business didn’t in fact give me the freedom I thought it would. This thing actually required work. And it stressed me out big time.
And me feeling the most aligned I ever had to my purpose, decided that work was the first priority.

I bought into a dream that I’d have more freedom immediately and I gave my partner at the time my word... which I never followed through with.

Over the next few months there was complete deterioration to the relationship.
Emotional unavailability from my behalf.
And from my partner what I considered as her not valuing me pursuing my purpose...

With the awareness I have now and the ability to change lens, the relationship lacked values alignment, but the biggest thing that I was unaware of at the time was I simply couldn’t show up with presence in the relationship and all she wanted was to actually feel me.
Yet, I was unavailable for that.

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