03/10/2026
Hello everyone,
With certain behaviours, in certain schools, going on in the BJJ community, I feel it’s worth re-iterating that the mat environment has changed in recent times.
There have always been women on the mat. But, decades ago, it was one or two women per mat - they were a rarity (kudos to those brave pioneers) - but nowadays, those numbers have increased dramatically - and the mat is far better for it, in my view. But, some men, need to adjust their behaviour accordingly.
First and foremost though - let’s be super clear: All women on the mat should not only ‘BE safe’ , they should be made to ‘FEEL safe’. We shouldn’t need to say this - but we’ve seen some well-known schools, fall apart, from breaches of this code of conduct in recent years. Let’s make a few things clear …
We are fortunate that women are coming to Jiu Jitsu - we want to encourage more of it, but some people need to realise that the training space is something of a sacred space. Men (and women) need to realise that they need to leave inappropriate innuendo outside of the training environment. Women are there to train, learn and grow - they don’t need exposure to unwanted advances, sexual comments, or the pressure of having to laugh off behaviour that makes them uncomfortable. It’s on all of us, and especially those who lead the room, to uphold that standard, so that no woman has to choose between speaking up and feeling welcome on the mat. Most men understand this - if they are unclear, perhaps they should simply ask would they like their sister or daughter to be exposed to inappropriate language and behaviour. It’s not rocket science.