31/07/2015
I'm having one of my guru days today, so please take a deep breath, relax and enjoy some wisdom that I promise wasn't written while on the toilet...
James Hetfield might as well have been god to me growing up. In every picture of him and in every piece of footage I ever saw, he just looked in charge. I'm sure there are millions of other kids out there who saw him the same way and to a lot of us, he became a role model - a perfect example of making your own path in life and staying true to yourself regardless of what others think. I'm also sure there are millions of other fans out there who have watched their live vids so many times that they've memorised his stage banter, too (come see me when you've memorised the band commentary track from Some Kind Of Monster!). How much has it really changed? I mean, sure, he drops the F-bomb a lot less these days, but when you see them a few times on the same tour, you realise that he says the same thing at the same time to every crowd every night, which I always put down to him just having played so many shows and wanting to relax a bit in his less-younger years. But then, when I think about it, he's kind of always done that...
What is odd though is that the older I get, the more I notice how wrong my early perceptions of him were. I was on a Youtube journey a while back and spent hours watching live videos of them and it finally dawned on me: he's shy. Like, he's REALLY shy. As soon as the band was playing, he'd be okay, but when it was just him talking to the audience, you could see that he was trying really hard to cover up his shyness. I've seen interviews with a sober Hetfield where he talks about being shy, but being told something and understanding something are two different things. Suddenly, he made much more sense to me and became less of a god and more of a man, at least in the sense of my relatability to him. (I mean, c'mon - it's James freakin' Hetfield! He's still a god!) This all got me thinking - do we really think of celebrities as people?
I really don't pay any attention to those famous-for-the-sake-of-being-famous kinds of people, so I can't really comment on them. Musicians, writers, actors - that's who I care about. I like the artistic and the creative folk! Now, while I can't relate to the Maserati, the mansion and the supermodel, what I can relate to is criticism. Face to face, people are usually pretty gentle with expressing their feelings, however, the internet removes the possibility of being headbutted and so people say some really brutal things about these creative people and their work. Now, if there were millions of people talking about you, you'd want to know what they were saying and it isn't hard to find out these days. Say you've had an artistic vision and you write an album, but between the producer and the label, they've basically warped it until it's something completely different from what you originally wanted to make and you know it sucks. How upset would that make you? Now think about all of those comments we leave on line and imagine someone wrote that about you.
Before you even say it, I know what you're thinking. 'Well, sure! It might suck a bit, but I'd happily put up with that if I was getting paid millions of dollars.' Would you though? How about for one million? How about a quarter of a million? How much would you charge to be okay with people bullying you; to feel depressed and rejected? Sure, plenty of people feel that way without the money, but I'm sure those people are the first to admit that money, while being useful, isn't going to fix how they feel. Money is not the cure for depression and it isn't a shield against being bullied - take a look at Kurt Cobain if you disagree.
Just because you don't like a person doesn't necessarily mean you should be rude and nasty to them simply because you can do so anonymously and far beyond the reach of a headbutt. Next time you're going to say something nasty about a famous person, ask yourself whether you'd say it any differently if they were standing in front of you. It's easy when you're just a face in the crowd and they're separate from you, but when they become a person just like you, you start to understand that what you say might be really hurtful to them because they might not be as invincible as you think they are. And yeah, they probably won't see it or hear it and it probably won't make a difference to them at all anyway, but even if that's the case, why waste your time on being negative? Your life is ticking away one second at a time so why waste ANY of it doing something that might hurt someone else? Just be nice and get on with your day! Now, I know that what I'm proposing would mean that we all have to stop hate-tweeting One Direction, but I think it's only fair - if we stick together and support each other through this, we can find new constructive hobbies that will help fill the void.
Here's an idea - why not learn to play drums!? That's an awesome hobby! It just so happens that we can help you with that, so give us a call to book your lesson today! Other than that, just be nice to each other.