Tegan Ireland Intimacy Coaching

Tegan Ireland Intimacy Coaching Using NLP, psychology, embodiment & coaching to guide you to the next levels of an intimate life

❌Not another Valentine’s Day post ❌Today, marks such a deeply layered element within all of us. We all want to feel love...
14/02/2025

❌Not another Valentine’s Day post ❌

Today, marks such a deeply layered element within all of us.
We all want to feel loved, like we belong & safe to be open to that love.

That isn’t always easy.
Being vulnerable, to share a gift or card or meaningful item, is such a huge step into unknown.
Will it be received?
Will I be received?
Will they love me?
Will they see me…?

For some, that risk is crippling.
For others, not receiving anything is also deeply painful. It can also feel like a rejection…the silent unspoken confirmation in your own mind of your shadows.
“I’m not enough”
“I’m too much”
“I will always be alone”
“I’m not loveable”

Or…”they don’t care”.

What if, we stepped into this day with COMPASSION.
And held space & offered safety for their love, however that is presented.

It’s not about the gift. It’s not about the “getting it right”.
It’s about being honest, about what it means to you; ACTUALLY means. It’s about acknowledging the thing that you actually want (to feel connected, appreciated, seen…) and recognising the struggle that’s happening OUTSIDE OF YOU, in them.

Then, maybe then, we can get past the flowers, the chocolates, the fancy dinner & get the greatest gift of all.
Connection ❤️

It’s official! I am officially a certified s3x geek. Or in professional terms, S3xological Bodyworker. And can I just sa...
05/02/2025

It’s official!

I am officially a certified s3x geek.
Or in professional terms, S3xological Bodyworker.

And can I just say, out of all the certifications I have, this was by far the most challenging.
This training required me to go so freaking deep into my own body and mind; I had to experience all the tools & practices myself.
Two weeks in a remote rainforest retreat with 30 other totally random strangers, all learning how to deepen sensation & pleasure. Totally crazy, right? And utterly terrifying?

But also unbelievably freeing & empowering.
I discovered such a deep, renewed respect for my own body & how I live my life.
⬆️ *levelled up* ⬆️

Do you want to OWN your body?
Do you want to remember how it feels to feel ALIVE in your body?
Do you want to redefine the entire concept of pleasure & experience pleasure in EVERY PART of your life?
Do you want to have the most intense CONNECTIONS with yourself & others?

I got you, boo.
Step into my office.
Let’s rock your world.
Let’s change your life.

Hell yes. Over the weekend, I sat in a room with an incredible group of inspiring people, coached by and . And what ha...
12/02/2024

Hell yes.

Over the weekend, I sat in a room with an incredible group of inspiring people, coached by and .

And what happened?
My life changed.
They challenged my beliefs and pushed my boundaries. They highlighted my weaknesses. The fear was peaking, and I leant in.
My mindset has expanded so significantly my own definition of success scares me.
And that is freaking exhilarating.

Limiting beliefs. I see you and I’m coming for you.
Weaknesses. I see you and I will transform you.
Success. I’ve got your number.

I am adapting and pivoting.

I am rising.
Are you ready to rise too?

09/08/2023

How are you choosing to be loved?

When we seek love and companionship & we choose to spend time with someone, we are making a conscious choice that how that person is providing love to us is what we accept.

That choice sets up so many elements of our own inner compass and self worth.

The people we surround ourselves with become our ecosystem, they are our oxygen, our rain, our sunshine. They become the elements that feed us or starves us.
If we accept a love that doesn’t fit us, doesn’t serve us, doesn’t fulfil us, we are telling ourselves…that’s where our worth lies.

We can communicate our needs. We can use our heart to voice these needs, the things we need to thrive or even survive.

Sometimes, those people may not be capable of understanding or prepared to give you what you have communicated.
And that, deserves a deeper level of respect and acceptance.
Respect for where they are at in their own healing journey and acceptance on your part, to stay in that choice or move onto a new ecosystem where your needs are met.

That choice is choosing yourself.
Loving yourself enough to give yourself that.
Respecting yourself enough to seek your needs.

Learning to choose you is hard.
And the most rewarding journey you will ever undertake. ❤️

22/07/2023

I’m back!

The last 6 weeks of life have been a whirlwind to say the least. But also a deep experience in letting go.
We sold our homestead, leaving behind our oasis that we had created over 7 years. We bred & owned every type of farm animal, from rescues to award winning show quality fluffies.
It made me so happy, to share my life with these beautiful creatures. But at the same time, it was suffocating. The time, committment…the heartbreak devastated me. We realised we were missing so much with our own little ones that time was passing us by & more than anything, we felt trapped by what society expects of our lives. 2 kids, white picket fence, family dog, good school, 9-5 jobs with promise of career progression. All of it, incredibly grateful for but it wasn’t what our hearts burned for. We spent countless evenings talking of things we only dared to dream of.
And then the universe handed us the most incredible opportunity, to travel to India and experience an incredible bond between two magical souls. Something we had only ever dreamed of. That’s manifestation.

If you had said me to 12 months ago, I would be standing in a caravan park, living out of a van and only a handful of clothes to wear with no solid plan for the next 5 years, I’d say you were hallucinating.
But here we are. Putting our energy into manifesting & creating a life of freedom we had only ever dreamed about.
It’s messy. Rough. Little crazy.

For the first time in my life, I’m learning to let go. Of what I should do, what I should be doing, of planning every step forward. I’m learning to let go of every pressure I’ve put on myself of who I thought I should be.
And I’m living my best life ❤️

09/06/2023

We often see forgive as something we give to others, and not a gift we can give ourselves.

We hold ourselves accountable for our pain, for others pain, for “failures”, for the things we didn’t achieve, for staying, for going, for trying too much or not trying enough.
We can get stuck in a pattern of not moving forward, not growing, toxic patterns that we have created. Which can leave us confused as to why we can’t just move forward. Why can’t we achieve everything we want?! Why do we keep coming back to this moment…

We can’t because we are holding ourselves back. We are subconsciously punishing ourselves to hold us accountable for our decisions or “failures”. Read that again.

If your passion to grow, to move forward is weighing heavy on your heart, look inwards for self forgiveness.
We judge ourselves the most harshly. And for that, we need to forgive ourselves with the most passion.

I’m here to help you seek that forgiveness ❤️

You are worthy of the world.
You are worthy of everything you have ever dreamed.

05/06/2023

It’s not your job to fix those you think are broken.

It’s not your job to show them their path back to themselves either.
It’s their choice. If you spend your energy trying to show them, guide when they aren’t ready, you will lose yourself.

They have to be ready to find their way back.

Focus on your own journey.
And along the way, you may inspire others to follow ❤️

02/06/2023

I love helping people explore their sexuality and the intimacy they experience in their life or even the intimacy they dream of.

Being open to acknowledging and exploring your desires, wants and needs require immense vulnerability not only with others but also yourself.
If your willing to dive deep into those desires and explore them, the potential for your quality of your s€x life significantly increases.

And I believe, this willingness to be vulnerable/explore is directly linked to your self growth and development.
The more you explore, the more you’re satisfied, the more awareness you create in your mind and body and more self awareness means more personal growth.

So when people come to me, and recognise the trust we can build together to discuss the inner mechanics of their s€x life (with themselves or their partners), I can see they are ready to grow exponentially ❤️

01/06/2023

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31/05/2023

Relationship health check.

This can be incredibly hard topic for a lot of people.
We shy away from these hard questions out of fear to be honest of what’s really going on inside.
It’s easier to avoid, deflect and hide.

Or is it?
By avoiding honesty with ourselves and our partners/friends/family, we are hurting ourselves.

We are telling ourselves that our needs aren’t as important.

That is not maintainable.
And if you keep running, your missing all the beautiful things in life that could be.

The first step, is simply, asking the question and respecting the answer.

Whatever that answer, your not alone ❤️

30/05/2023

Spectatoring!

Guys, this one is specifically for you.

I commonly get asked “how do I last longer?”
Whilst there is certainly techniques and positions to always try, its often not addressing what’s really going on.

If your generally asking me that question, it means your probably not 💯 present in your moments of intimacy.
It means your probably focusing on how you look, what your doing, making sure your partner is enjoying themselves, worrying how long your going to last and in some cases, holding back your or**sm for dear life.
This is spectatoring.

Your not really present in the moment, your stuck in your head and as a result, your missing out on all the good stuff!

I have a solution (or potentially part of one)…GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD & INTO YOUR BODY!

When we disengage from our body to be focused on what’s happening outside of us, we are missing the finer magical details of pleasure.
Who wants to miss that?!

The next part requires vulnerability.
Communicate. Tell your partner what your body is experiencing. Tell them how amazing it feels, exactly what your enjoying and what it’s doing to your body.
Take them along for the journey.

Knowing that your creating such pleasure in another human is wildly erotic. So communicating that to them is like freaking fireworks!

Together you can experience the pleasure & try new positions and methods to keep presence in your body.

Remember, Intimacy is a team event.

**ra

This is my why. Knowing I am an active participant in someone changing their life. In making changes to grow and step in...
29/05/2023

This is my why.

Knowing I am an active participant in someone changing their life. In making changes to grow and step into the fear and vulnerability, only to be rewarded on the other side.

I am only a participant. I am not the driver.
You are.

You are the one making the changes.
You are growing on your own.
You are evolving on your own.
You are levelling up all on your own.

Sometimes, we just need someone to help cheer us on from the sidelines.
And I got cheer pom poms in every colour.

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