30/09/2026
You’re at a barbecue, surrounded by other couples. Everyone’s chatting, having a drink and sharing a meal. You laugh, join in and, from the outside, everything looks good.
You notice a couple holding hands. Another sharing a hug. The little touches, the affection, the way they look at each other. You feel a pang of envy because you remember when that was you.
Then you come home.
You go into separate rooms, or sit beside each other on the couch, both on your phones. There’s a little surface conversation about the barbecue, who was there, what someone said, but nothing about how you’re actually feeling. The warmth of the evening already seems so far away.
At bedtime, you roll away from each other. You miss the spark you once had. The closeness. The feeling that you were more than two people sharing a home and getting through the week.
Your partner may have no idea what’s going on inside you. How lonely you feel. How much you worry and overthink. How you miss having something to look forward to together.
You used to picture growing old with this person. Now, you struggle to picture what your future together looks like.
Perhaps you don’t know how to start that conversation. So you get up the next morning, step back into your roles and keep going through the motions.
I’d like to leave you with a question:
If you could feel close to your partner again, what would you want your relationship to look and feel like?
If that question stays with you longer than you expected, book a complimentary 15-minute call with me.
We can begin exploring where you are now and the kind of relationship you would like moving forward. https://power-of-change-counselling-and-coaching.simplecliniconline.com/diary
