Aligned Living Coaching - Rediscovering Yourself

Yesterday I was invited to speak at my local Her Zest networking event.

I stood in a room full of women and stretched a resistance band between us. Not just a cute demo but as a truth-telling moment.

Because that's exactly what your elastic limit does. It stretches with every demand, every expectation, every version of yourself you perform for others. And it gives...until it doesn't, snapping you back.

We talked about the beliefs living underneath the exhaustion, the constant striving, the 'be more disciplined' and work harder pep talks. The language we use that keeps us locked in patterns we didn't consciously choose.

The moment you learn to ask "Is that actually true?"... and mean it, how outcomes can shift when you're presented with choice.

Thank you to the incredible team at HerZest for the invitation and for creating a space where women get to think, feel, and question out loud. And to every woman in that room, you showed up fully, thank you 🩷

If you've ever felt your own elastic stretch to its limit and snap you back. Send me a DM and let's talk.

So a little while ago I had a really fun and interesting chat with Jacqueline Rose on her podcast "Things I want my daughter to know" (great podcast name, right!?)

Did I go off on tangents and not fully answer questions...probably...I do have a squirrely brain...but that's part of the adventure, yes? 😂

All the links are in comments so please have a listen and show Jacqueline and her podcast some love (and me too😉)

Most women attend me Reflect & Release workshop carrying the weight of an entire year on their shoulders.

They sit down with that familiar mix of exhaustion, frustration, disappointment, the quiet voice whispering...

“Honestly… I’m just so done with this year.”

I get it. I've had a BIG year.
Some years feel relentless.
Some years feel like a blur.
Some years feel like we’ve been fighting for every inch of ground.

But here’s what happens every single time we begin the process…

We start mapping the year, honestly, gently, without judgement.
The highs.
The lows.
The breakthroughs.
The heartbreaks.
The choices.
The moments they forgot they survived.
The moments they forgot they created.

And then something shifts.

A woman will look down at her page, pause, and say...

“…Wow. I didn’t realise how much I actually did.
I didn’t realise how much I grew.”

The heaviness starts to loosen.
The narrative starts to soften.
And suddenly the year that felt like a disaster… doesn’t look so bad anymore.

Not because the hard parts disappear, but because they’re no longer the whole story.

They see the strength that was there the whole time.
They see the courage they didn’t give themselves credit for.
They see the tiny, quiet wins that were drowned out by stress.
They see the woman they became because of the year, not in spite of it.

And by the end, the energy in the room is different.
Lighter.
Clearer.
Grounded.
Proud.

Not because the year was easy…
but because they finally saw it truthfully.

This is the magic of Reflect & Release 💫🩷

It’s not about pretending everything was great.
It’s about honouring the truth of your year
and letting the wisdom rise to the surface.

If you’ve been carrying a heavy story about this year…
come and see what happens when you look at it through a different lens.

✨ Reflect & Release
📅 2 Dec & 6 Jan
🎟️ FREE on Eventbrite
👉 Link in comments

Come heavy.
Leave lighter.
You’ll be surprised by what you find.

If there’s one truth I’ve learned (& try to live)....and it's what I want you all to hear and know...

You are more magnificent than you’ve ever allowed yourself to be.
Not someday.
Not after the next breakthrough.
Now.

And yet, we’ve been trained out of that knowing.
We’ve been conditioned to speak small, think small, dream small
because big words make people uncomfortable.
Words like sovereign.
Magnificent.
Radiant.
Whole.

They roll off the tongue like spells, don’t they?
Because they are.
They awaken something ancient and electric inside you.
And that’s exactly why some people flinch when they hear them
because to claim those words is to claim yourself.

Maybe you’ll feel the pull to shrink back as you read this,
to say, “That’s not me.”
And if that’s you, that’s okay.

Just know that the part of you that wants to dismiss this
is the very part that’s forgotten its own power.
You don’t need to become more.

You need to remember.
Remember that you were born whole.
Born worthy.
Born capable of creating worlds with your choices.

Everything you’ve been seeking — peace, purpose, freedom, power
it’s not out there.
It’s in you.
Waiting for you to turn inward and say,
I see you. I’m ready.

So expand your thinking...
Speak the big words again.
Live like you’re magnificent.
Because you are 🩷

If this message spoke to something deep in you… this is the work we do inside Soul On Fire.
It’s time to remember who you are.

If you’ve been wondering what I’m up to lately… here’s your sign to jump back in....

It’s been a while since I popped in over here, so let’s get you up to speed because there’s a lot happening behind the scenes 👀

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So, that’s the vibe right now — coaching, creating, expanding.
If you’ve been waiting for a nudge to get unstuck, consider this your very obvious wink from the universe.😜

Ready? Book a session, grab a workshop ticket, keep an eye out for fab T-shirts 💖

I have this video saved in my INSPIRATION playlist. Take a moment to read the post and see why....🩷

WHY DO I LOVE THIS POWERFUL VIDEO SO MUCH?

First watch the video (it’s ok to shed a tear) then read the post…maybe rewatch the video...

This piece from Swan Lake is a powerful ANCHOR for her. It brings back cherished memories and strong emotions. At the end of the video she remarks “It excites me!” ❤️‍🔥

For 2 minutes she was transported back to her ballerina days, not just in her mind but in her WHOLE BODY….and everything changes.

In an instant, recognition floods her. Her breath catches. Her spine lengthens. Her chest opens. She lifts her eyes. Her arms begin to move — they float, slow, fluid, precise. The grace and muscle memory of decades past return as if TIME ITSELF DISSOLVES.

Every joint remembers. Every cell awakens.

You can SEE her come alive again — eyes lifted, shoulders strong, completely transformed by a piece of music she once EMBODIED.

It’s breathtaking.
And it’s a reminder of how powerful we truly are.
How magnificent our bodies and minds are.

And it’s the perfect example of how our bodies REMEMBER everything.
And that everything we need is already inside us.
Even if the memory is stored deep down, the body keeps the score. The posture. The rhythm. The essence. It’s all still there, waiting to be REAWAKENED

That song was her anchor — a trigger connected to deep emotion, mastery, and presence.

And here’s the truth, WE ALL HAVE ANCHORS LIKE THAT.

👉Most of us just live at the mercy of the negative ones 🎤.......💥

Yet we have the power to shift the focus and choose the positive anchors — the ones that pull us back into confidence, passion, joy, excitement, power.

And that is why I love this video and why I love what I do.

Because if her body could remember how to dance in that moment… imagine what yours could remember.

Former Ballerina With Alzheimer's Performs 'Swan Lake' Dance | Super Emotional Watch this super emotional & viral video of former dancer Marta Cinta González Saldaña, who had 's and died in 2019, reacting to Tchaikovsk...

Challenge the Voice

If you want change,
you’ll have to challenge the voice in your head—
the stories you tell yourself,
the ones others told you,
and the ones the world keeps repeating.

Because they’re all just one perspective.
And it’s probably never been yours.

Ask yourself:

Is it true?
Or just familiar?

Your rebellion starts there. 🔥

There’s something I want you to know before anything else

I’m not here to save you.

I’m not here to tell you how to live, what to fix, or what steps to follow.
Because I’m not finished doing the work - I live it daily.

I’ve played small.
I’ve shrunk myself for relationships, for work, for people who didn’t know what to do with my light.
I’ve lashed out in pain, avoided hard truths, and let fear run the show.

I’ve made choices from old wounds and called it “being strong.”
I’ve let ego speak when my heart was scared.
I’ve said “I’m fine” when I wasn’t anywhere close to okay.

Sound familiar?
None of that makes me bad.
And if you’ve done those things—it doesn’t make you bad either.

Most of what we call “messy” behaviour is actually just an attempt to feel safe.
To belong.
To protect ourselves in a world that taught us to hide.
And that’s why I coach.
Because I get it.
Because I’ve been in it.
Because I’m still in it, and I’ve got tools now that work.

I don’t coach from a pedestal.
I coach from the trenches—where the real work happens.
So if you’re craving a space to unpack the parts of yourself you’ve been carrying quietly for years
If you’re ready to stop performing and start rebuilding from truth, I’ve got you.

Coaching with me isn’t about perfection.
It’s about real transformation.
It’s about reclaiming your voice, your power, your truth—and doing it your way.
I’m here as your wing woman 😉

If you’d like talk to a real human (me) send me a DM.

We don’t need to be perfect to grow.
We just need to be ready and committed.

Last Wedsnesday I found myself in a bit of a slump...

and that's a normal part of life, right? Except I had stuff to do.

So what can you do when feeling a bit blah, flat, tumbleweeds blowing through your brain...MOVE YOUR ASS 🫏

This isn’t about waiting for inspiration to drop in.
Getting sh*t done is about alignment through action.
This is about keeping promises to Future You.
And that means showing up even when it’s inconvenient...and hard.
Even when the muse doesn’t drop down from the heavens and sprinkle glitter in your coffee ☕💫 (btw...where CAN I get glitter coffee?)

Because you know what’s better than motivation...momentum.
Newtons First Law 👉 things in motion tend to stay in motion (the reverse is true too)

This July and August, my Alignment Blueprint newsletter is spotlighting ways to "Move Like You Love Yourself"...and the best thing I did in that moment of feeling blah was to find a great dance playlist, crank it up and get moving....because when the body is moving, the brain is grooving (thanks for that one Jim Kwik)...and I did get my sh*t done 😉

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