04/09/2026
"This is the exquisite difficulty of parenting: in the moments that stretch us most, our children need us to hold two things that can, at times, feel impossible to hold together.
Warmth and boundaries. Expectations and support. The limit and the relationship.
They need us to stay warm without becoming permissive. Firm without becoming frightening.
To hold the boundary with steady hands, and relationship with gentle ones. To lead without controlling, connect without surrendering, and to stay steady when feelings are running big."
Parenting has a particular way of bringing all of us to the same place eventually. It usually starts with a perfectly reasonable no. Sometimes to a perfectly unreasonable request. Or an untimely one. Then, from them: the words, the spicy, the pleading, the fury, the accusations of ruined lives, and....