09/03/2022
โฟ S3x and Yolo donโt go together โฟ
I am currently rolling my eyes and thinking the time, a man I met on a night out used the phrase โYou only live once, donโt you want to have fun and let your hair down?!โ When I told him 2 times already I didnโt want to be s3xual with him!
To be honest, saying No two times was exhausting enough and then having to say it a third time was very frustrating but I think what was the strangest thing to me, was the "You only live once" comment.
S3x/intimacy should not have to feel like a bargain deal or that you are trying to be convinced, persuaded, manipulated into being s3xual with someone. If the connection does not feel right, it just doesn't feel right.
I know, Itโs not always easy saying no, and also feel like you have to justify yourself and seem โless funโ for not โhaving s*xโ "letting your hair down" .
This is where I feel our modern society can be disconnected from intimacy and puts sometimes too much emphasis at times on being โs*xualโ โup for itโ โdown for itโ โnot vanillaโ instead of โreadyโ โrespectedโ โreal connectionโ โfeeling connectedโ
itโs important to really see the differences of expectations here!
The real point is, I donโt believe the Yolo phrase is the right way to go about initiating s3x with another, at least a healthy respectful s*xual encounter.
Now , I have learnt when I am faced with a phrase that makes me feel less then, manipulated, not fun enough or just not good about saying no!
I would now Say โYes itโs true I do only live once and thatโs why I want to make sure I am making the right decisions for myselfโ
With Love, GA xo
โฟ ๐๐ฐ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฏ ๐๐ณ๐ข ๐ค๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐ด ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ ๐๐ฐ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฏ ๐๐ฏ๐ต๐ช๐ฎ๐ข๐ค๐บ โฟ
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