La Femme Focus : Mothers with ADHD

There is a lot of courage needed to slow things down. Fear and guilt are emotions that come up quite a bit when you are running a million miles an hour in life and not taking the time to stop and reflect on where you are.

The crazy thing is, that once you actually stop, breath, take time out to just be ok with being in this present season of your life…

New perspectives, adventures and opportunities start appearing for you.

Have a beautiful day 🤍

Controlling perfectionism in overdrive.

Sometimes it’s just best that I close my eyes and turn my back for a while… even if the result ends up with paint everywhere. They have so much more fun that way and I get a good laugh.

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But mainly the first two. Being a highly sensitive person is SUPER overwhelming and makes you want to be completely irrational.

For those who aren’t ADHD who would like to understand a bit of BTS with this sh*t…

Imagine having rage against the machines playing full blast in your right ear and old Mac Donald had a farm in the other. At the same time something is scratching the back of your neck in very repetitive annoying strokes. Then someone decides to spray a mixture of water and vinegar in your face with a spray bottle, all while a strobe light flashes freaking lazer beams in your eyeballs. Ok now going and do all those things you needed to do while you’re at the mall before your kids start to play up and you implode.

Ya feel me?

Leave me a “feck yeah” In the comments and then head over to my Mothers with ADHD Facebook group and hit join.

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Hey guys. Long time no speak.
I fell off the face of the planet there (physically and mentally figuratively speaking).

There’s no shame in it.

While maybe a few months ago I still felt like I had to carry my tail between my legs coming back to post here… I feel it’s time to put my big girl panties back on and get real. After-all the whole point of La Femme Focus is to help other mothers with ADHD learn to love themselves and their brains. The only way I can do that in complete and authentic honesty is by sharing my own struggles, realities and hope that my struggles and also triumphs will help you see you are not alone and this world is becoming less and less scary for us neuro-spicy folk.

So stay tuned, when I find a moment to get my thoughts together I’ll let you all in on what’s been happening for me the last 6 months and why I had to take a step back from here for a while.

Much love to you all.

Drop me a fun little random emoji in the comments to let me know you’re still floating around here too.

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In reflection, my word for 2022 has been Community.

That’s what has gotten me through this year. My family, my friends, my work colleagues, my mums in business gang, the school mums and my beautiful brains community.

Oh man it’s been a effing hard year with one thing after another. But the truth of it is that in those hard times, those times that really freaking challenge you… that’s when you have the opportunity to grow the most. I know that sounds so cliche but it’s true. Ask yourself, what have the hard times taught you?

My word for 2023 is GROWTH. Growth in all areas of life.

So let’s step into this year knowing that we are a different person from who we were this time last year and that’s a great thing.

So I put it out there and ask you, what do YOU want for the next 12 months?

What word would you pick for 2023?

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I didn’t come away with a win but freaking hell, the women who I was a finalist with were extraordinary!!! To say I feel honoured to have been selected as I finalist for two categories is an understatement! You could not wipe the smile off my face last night. Just being there in that room with all the incredible people there was an absolute highlight of my year.

I got to meet two women last night both with their own very challenging ADHD stories and it really cemented in as to why I started La Femme Focus and the Beautiful Brains Project.

I drove home last night reflecting on the year that has been and a conversation a friend and I had last week - that being grateful isn’t only about thanking God/the universe for the good and successes it brings to your life, but also being thankful and showing gratitude for the challenges.

This year has been one of the most challenging and uncomfortable years of my life, but what I realised last night was that the most important thing to have come out of this year has been the incredible communities that have grown around me in all areas of my life.

My family near and far
My best friends
My group of school mums
My women in business sisters
My work colleagues
My beautiful brains women
My Instagram community
My mothers with ADHD community

Everyone in these communities around me have been a huge part of helping me get through this year. You are the best thing that has come out of an incredibly challenging year. So thank you. ❤️ with all my heart.

Why don’t we celebrate the wins as much as we preach our losses?

Is it because over our lifetimes we have consistently struggled to do the “easy” things and so when we do a hard thing, we just think this is what “normal” people should be able to do…?

I have wins I’d like to celebrate with you if that’s ok..

This year I have:

〰️ started a business alongside starting back at my job as an interior designer from maternity leave 3 days a week.

〰️ grown this account from 0 to 1200+ beautiful supporters

〰️ created a Facebook community of Mothers with ADHD to over 300 members and counting (link in bio)

〰️ faced a fear and did a YouTube/podcast interview about ADHD

〰️ built a website, set up a mailing list, learned Canva and ran Facebook ads when I had no fkn idea what I was doing

〰️ survived 2 covid lockdowns with two kids on my own (husband was away both times)!

〰️ held two successful workshops around ADHD and self awareness

〰️ hosted a workshop for

〰️ have made SO many new and beautiful friendships with the women in this community

〰️ built a 5 week program from just a few inspiring thoughts swirling in my head

〰️ not only sold out but actually oversold that very first program!

〰️ have many helped women find their worth and their value in the world and have seen the results!

〰️ and now have been nominated as a finalist in not one, but TWO Freedom Awards!!

The Freedom awards are the only awards that celebrate women in both LIFE and business. I’m a finalist for the BRAIN category and the COMMUNITY category and I’m hoping I can top this epic list off with a win because that would be pretty damn amazing!!

All of this started because I knew there was something more for me out there. I got curious about what my life could look like if I aligned it with my passions and interests.

And the biggest win worth celebrating above all of them, is that despite this being one of the most challenging and hardest years of my life both mentally and physically, I’ve kept going because I have absolute faith and belief in myself and what I am capable of.

Besides your family (because of course they’re at the top of the list), tell me just ONE thing that is really important to you right now in the comments below.

I’ll go first….

(see comments for my answer and join in).

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I knew I had changed when I looked at this photo jarrod took of us on Kangaroo Island and my first thought was “Gosh I look happy”.

The me only a month earlier would have picked out every single bodily “flaw” before ever considering that I looked happy and I looked good!

I love this photo. Rolls, big bo***es and all! And I could allow myself to love it because I had spent every day arguing with myself. Counteracting every negative thought about myself.

I started telling myself I looked beautiful and thanking my body for being there for me, to my heart for beating for me every single second of my life since before I was even born.

This is only one of the exercises I take the women in my Beautiful Brains group through over the 5 weeks. Because Without creating a strong mindset for yourself, you will always be your biggest critic rather than the cheerleader you need to move forward and creating positive and meaningful change in your life.

What do you think life would be like for you if you stopped beating yourself up all the time and started cheering yourself on?? Let me know in the comments.

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If you think you would be interested in being a part of the next Beautiful Brains Project for next year, type: TIME TO LOVE MY BRAIN below and I can pop you on the waitlist.

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I could get used to this weather.

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