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We are happy to share a few student testimonials on our session" Awaken the Leader Within".

A leadership session was conducted by us with around 350 students on board from Grade 9 to Grade 12 from GEMS Milleninum School.

Guiding and enlighting these young leaders of today, the 2 consecutive sessions on "Awaken the Leader Within" was all about helping them understand the importance of Planning,Time Management, Communication and Creativity,

Do you want to be a parent or a friend to your child?

Parents have 2 main roles to play in the lives of their children. One is the emotional role which is love, affection, and esteem which is an essential part of being a parent, and it’s a beautiful thing to behold.
The other is the functional role, where the parenting role is functional. For an infant, that means feeding, changing diapers, for an eight-year-old, it means ensuring homework gets done, so on and so forth.
What if a mother loves her child emotionally but neglects the functional role, that child is at risk of not maturing into a responsible adult. Therefore, emotional and functional parenting roles go hand in hand.
When a child grows up into a teen a parent gets confused about whether to be their friend or remain a parent.
Its often-seen parents make the mistake of becoming a friend (taking the emotional role forward as against the functional role) to their teen, which comes at the cost of their authority, and it undermines the role of a parent. When limits are set, the child may not approve of it and show displeasure. This may not go well with the parent and so may fall into the trap of playing the emotional role.
Practically speaking, your child can find another friend, but your child can’t find another parent. You and only you can be your child’s parent, and that’s why you need to be the parent and not the friend.
Another mistake a parent does is to make their teen a confidant. Sharing about family members, neighbors, teachers, and expecting a response from them may not be good, for the simple reason that the child is not morally, emotionally, or intellectually prepared to play that role and respond accordingly.
Friends are a group of people who have similar notions and ideas about life. And strangely a parent and child do not share the same. They have different notions about right and wrong. And they have different priorities. That’s appropriate and to be expected. But that’s not a recipe for friendship. And if you try to make it a friendship, it causes unnecessary conflict and anger.
Adolescence comes with individuation (a process through which a person achieves a sense of individuality separate from the identities of others). Individuation is healthy. It means your teen child will want to have a life separate from you and may not want to share her life with you the way that she did in the past. You may not always approve of her friends and values, but it’s your child’s job to work through that. Many parents see this individuation happening in their adolescent children and feel abandoned by their child. This feeling of abandonment is especially true when they have parented too much in the emotional role and have acted as their child’s friend.
I would end hereby only saying, you can be friendly to your child but not at the expense of being their parent. Rather be a responsible parent who loves their child and at the same time holds their child accountable.
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What is Happiness?
Happiness is a state of mind, a process - rather than a destination.
This is a statement which we all may agree too but may not work towards it.
When I was in school getting a good percentage to get in to the best college was my happiness and it then moved on to get a job which I desired, to a partner whom I wished to marry, to have a lovely family..the cycle just kept moving on...there never seemed and end to my desires and wishes.
All the above are the concept of conditional happiness....if I get this I will be happy and if I get that I will be happy.
All this will only give you a sense of accomplishment that will let you hungry for more.

While working towards your goals is always a great thing - and I, by all means, encourage it - but when we come to happiness, we end up chasing things rather and living in the future, than living in the present and enjoying the moment.

It was later that I realized that there is nothing such as “absolute happiness”. It is simply a mental construct that we create in order to work and fulfill our dreams - it is an endpoint which is associated with a feeling of euphoria, and this endpoint can be moved.

If you want to be happy, stop believing in achieving happiness and start believing in being happy. Ask yourself this - what is it that is stopping me from being happy at this very moment? - and then you will have your answer.

Importance of Gratitude

We all have the ability and opportunity to cultivate gratitude. Rather than complaining about the things you think you deserve, take a few moments to focus on all that you have. Developing an “attitude of gratitude” is one of the simplest ways to improve your satisfaction with life.

People who regularly practice gratitude by taking time to notice and reflect upon the things they're thankful for experience more positive emotions, feel more alive, sleep better, express more compassion and kindness, and even have stronger immune systems.
True humility is a mindset that involves less focus on self and more on others, and an ability to see the strengths and value of others. Thus, gratitude fosters humility, and vice-versa. They have a “mutually reinforcing” relationship with one another, creating an “upward spiral” of personal and professional growth.

Both gratitude and humility are integral to emotional intelligence, an essential leadership quality in today’s world.

We can practice gratitude and train our minds to see the good despite unfavorable situations. And to do this one can always:
1. Keep a gratitude journal- Every day, or at the end of every week, write down the things that you should be grateful for.
2. Avoid negative people around - Choose your company wisely.
3. Pay it forward- The best way to feel thankful for what you have is to extend a little kindness to those less fortunate. Knowing that you’ve helped someone, makes you appreciate your capacity to help and makes you feel thankful for your blessings.

There is a lot of wisdom in the saying Count Your Blessings. Helen Keller said it best when she said: “So much has been given to me, I have no time to ponder over that which has been denied.”

Given her situation, that statement is the ultimate hallmark of a grateful person. She was deaf and blind.

What about you? What are you grateful for today?

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