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BY AGE 40 YOU SHOULD BE SMART ENOUGH TO REALIZE THIS:

1. Someone makes 10x more than you do in a 9-5 job because they have more "leverage" with their work.

2. Distraction is the greatest killer of success. It stunts and destroys your brain.

3. You shouldn't take advice from people who are not where you want to be in life.

4. No one is coming to save your problems. Your life's 100% your responsibility.

5. You don't need 100 self-help books, all you need is action and self discipline.

6. Unless you went to college to learn a specific skill (ie. doctor, engineer, lawyer), you can make more money in the next 90 days just learning sales.

7. No one cares about you. So stop being shy, go out and create your chances.

8. If you find someone smarter than you, work with them, don't compete.

9. Smoking has 0 benefit in your life. This habit will only slow your thinking and lower your focus.

10. Comfort is the worst addiction and cheap ticket to depression.

11. Don't tell people more than they need to know, respect your privacy.

12. Avoid alcohol at all cost. Nothing worse than losing your senses and acting a fool.

13. Keep your standards high and don't settle for something because it's available.

14. The family you create is more important than the family you come from.

15. Train yourself to take nothing personally to save yourself from 99.99% of mental problems.

Girls at the age of 18-24 years always attract serious men who are fully ready to marry them, but at this age most of our girls/sisters never wish to hear anything about marriage.
1. I'm too young for that.
2. Who cares about marriage.
3. I'm focused on my books.
4. I want to gather some money first.
5. Marriage is full of problems.
These are some of few statements ladies talk of at their youth age.
But these girls will be having serious & series of s*x relationship with small boys of their age, because at that age, they always have high rate of boys, guys and men coming for them, but they will prefer to choose those boys rather than the real men who want to marry them. They are still young to marry right, but they are not young to have s*x with boys.
No problem, God is watching you.

At age of 25-27, parents will start asking them the following questions;
1. How far?
2. Don't you have any one yet ?
3. Are you not planning to get married ?
4. Are you seeing that all your mates are getting married ?
5. Don't you know you are getting old?
But mind you, parents only see the outside of their daughters, not knowing there is nothing left inside.
With all these questions by her own parents, she will now be thinking and asking herself things like: My mates are marrying,
1. Does it mean am old enough to marry?
2. Hmmm, how should I go about it?
3. My boyfriends are not serious about asking my hand in marriage.
4. They are not even ready to marry yet.
5. Well, God knows the best. I believe in God.
See oooh...!, she has started putting her blame on God. "God's time is the best" OK, I agree for argument sake.
At age 27-30 they now start looking for men to marry not boys to have s*x and play with again.
They will start looking for serious relationship that will lead to marriage, but unfortunately, at this age of 27-30 not all men will be asking their hand in marriage.
You will see them forcing themselves to marry a man who don't want to marry them. Please we beg you, leave us al

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16 Expert Tips For Reducing Your Alcohol Consumption

ByNicole Gregory

Expert Reviewed

Belinda Gordon-Battle, M.Ed., M.S., L.M.H.C.

Updated: Feb 6, 2024, 7:47am

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If you enjoy drinking, be it a glass of red wine with dinner or a tumbler of your favorite spirits poolside, you might have experienced the urge to keep pouring after a long day. But serious health problems can develop from drinking too much, including liver disease, heart disease, depression, stroke, stomach bleeding and certain types of cancer, according to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA). And even moderate drinking is associated with increased risks of injury from violence, falls and car crashes.

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How to Know When It’s Time to Cut Back

How much is too much? One simple sign: “If people think they need to cut back, then they probably do,” says Fulton T. Crews, Ph.D., a pharmacology and psychiatry professor and director of the Bowles Center for Alcohol Studies at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill’s School of Medicine.

Women should limit their alcohol intake to no more than one drink a day while men should limit their alcohol consumption to no more than two drinks a day, according to the Dietary Guidelines for Americans.
Medical experts now use the term “alcohol use disorder” rather than “alcohol abuse” to address the concern of excessive drinking. “The healthcare field has also moved away from the term alcohol and drug ‘abuse’ because studies show the word ‘abuse,’ which literally means ‘willful neglect,’ is inaccurate and perpetuates negative stigma and bias,” says Shawntrell Moore, a certified alcohol drug counselor with the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation in Chicago.

To determine whether—and where—you fall in the alcohol use disorder (AUD) spectrum, answer the following questions.
In the past year, have you…

Had times when you ended up drinking more or longer than you intended?

More than once wanted to cut down or stop drinking, or tried to, but couldn’t?

Spent a lot of time drinking or being sick or getting over the aftereffects?

Wanted a drink so badly you couldn’t think of anything else?

Found that drinking or being sick from drinking often interfered with taking care of your home and family or caused job or school problems?

Continued to drink even though it was causing trouble with your family or friends?

Given up or cut back on activities that were important or interesting to you or gave you pleasure in order to drink?

More than once gotten into situations while or after drinking that increased your chances of getting hurt, such as driving or having unsafe s*x?

Continued to drink even though it was making you feel depressed or anxious, or you had a memory blackout?

Had to drink much more than you once did to get the effect you want? Or found your usual number of drinks had much less effect than before?

Found that when the effects of alcohol were wearing off, you had withdrawal symptoms, such as trouble sleeping, shakiness, irritability, anxiety, depression, restlessness, nausea or sweating? Or sensed things that were not there?

If you answer “yes” to two to three questions, your symptoms align with mild AUD. If you answer “yes” to four to five questions, your symptoms align with moderate AUD. If you answer “yes” to six or more questions, your symptoms align with severe AUD. Consult with a licensed mental health professional to further explore AUD.

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16 Ways to Reduce Alcohol Use

If you identify with any of the scenarios above, try the expert tips below for reducing your alcohol consumption (or even eliminating it altogether).

1. Measure your drinks.

“The first step is to understand how much you’re actually drinking,” says Katie Witkiewitz, Ph.D., a psychology professor at the University of New Mexico and author of the 2019 study, “Advances in the Science and Treatment of Alcohol Use” in Science Advances.
A standard glass of wine is 5 ounces, which contains about 12% alcohol. A shot of distilled spirits like vodka is 1.5 ounces and equally 40% alcohol. One 12-ounce can of beer contains about 5% alcohol, and a standard glass of sherry is 3 to 4 ounces and contains about 17% alcohol, according to the NIAAA.
Use the NIAAA’s drink size calculator to determine the amount of alcohol in various drinks.

2. Track your intake.

“Once you have a sense of how much you’re drinking, it’s helpful to track how many drinks you’re having per day,” says Witkiewitz. “You could use a calendar, journal or any number of tracking apps.” Drink Control Alcohol Tracker or Less are two examples of free tracking apps available on iOS devices.

3. Make a plan.

People who set daily drink limits consume 10% fewer drinks each week than those who don’t, according to data from 10,000 U.S. users of the app Sunnyside. And beginning the week well is an indicator of success: Members who stay under their planned limit on Monday and Tuesday are nearly four times more likely to reach their goal for the week.
“Start easy,” suggests Crews. Instead of aiming for complete abstinence, for instance, aim to drink fewer than seven days a week. “Try sober Mondays or sober Mondays through Wednesdays,” he says.

4. Tell family members and friends you want to get healthier.

Reframe drinking as you would any other health behavior you want to change, such as eating better or getting more exercise, and share it aloud with those closest to you. This social approach can help normalize the change you’re trying to make, says Witkiewitz. “You don’t have to have a problem with drinking to want to improve your health and quality of life by reducing your drinking.”

5. Try a month of abstinence.

“Try doing a ‘dry’ month like Dry January, Go Dry for July or Sober October,” says Moore. In January 2020, more than 6 million people reportedly participated in Dry January, a campaign to reduce alcohol consumption organized by Alcohol Change UK. Follow-up research suggested that most tended to drink in healthier amounts afterward.

6. Get exercise.

If you turn to alcohol to ease anxiety, try exercise as a healthy alternative. “For those who have access to and enjoy outdoor activities and other physical activity options, we know that physical activity, particularly in nature, can be very helpful in reducing anxiety and coping with other negative moods,” says Witkiewitz.

7. Drink water.

You might reach for alcohol when you’re really just thirsty, says Crews. Drink a cup of soothing tea or a tall glass of water before you imbibe—once your thirst is quenched, you may not feel the need for as much—or any—alcohol.

8. Eat before and in between drinks.

Food can absorb the alcohol in beverages, so eating before or even while you drink can dampen the effect and may make you want to drink less, says Crews.

9. Make a plan for cravings.

The urge to drink will inevitably come—so make a plan for it. Remind yourself of why you want to cut back, talk to a friend about it and distract yourself with a hobby or exercise, the NIAAA suggests. Accept that you have the urge and that it will pass.

10. Remove alcohol from your house.

If you tend to drink too much whenever there is any alcohol in the house, get rid of it altogether, the NIAAA recommends.

11. Watch out for anger, resentment or grudges.

Do you turn to alcohol when stewing in anger? In its book Living Sober, Alcoholics Anonymous suggests navigating these feelings with exercise, talking the situation through with a trusted friend, getting rest and choosing a “live and let live” mindset instead of drinking.

12. Avoid loneliness.

If you drink to ease the pain of loneliness, then make a conscious effort to connect with others. Alcoholics Anonymous cautions its members not to get too hungry, angry, lonely or tired—all of which can make you more vulnerable to the urge to drink. Find activities that are mentally and emotionally nourishing and bring you joy, and identify ways to connect socially with friends, says Witkiewitz.

13. Get online support.

You don’t have to leave the house to get support from other people who understand and respect what you’re trying to do. In fact, you can find it online with sites like Sunnyside, which helps you create a customized plan, Tempest, Moderation.org or Ben’s Friends for people who work in the food and beverage industry.

14. Avoid triggers.

What makes you reach for a drink? An acquaintance who talks nonstop? Watching news about the stock market? “We encourage using an informal mindfulness practice when feeling triggered,” says Witkiewitz. “Stopping in the moment to take stock of what’s actually happening, what emotions, sensations, thoughts are present, bringing awareness to breath, and then making a choice for how you want to respond to the situation. Maybe it’s still drinking, maybe not. Maybe it’s calling an old friend, going for a walk or spending time with a beloved child or pet.”

15. Learn how to say, “No.”

Prepare yourself for those times when someone is going to offer you a drink. Find words to help you decline politely but firmly. “No thanks” is a simple, clear statement. You might also hold onto a nonalcoholic drink instead, ask a friend to support you in difficult situations or simply exit early if temptation gets too strong, the NIAAA suggests.

16. If you slip, return to your plan.

Don’t give into shame and regret—just restart your plan. “Success really is about how you respond to setbacks and things that are thrown your way,” says Moore. “If someone’s strategy to drink less doesn’t work, it’s crucial to recognize and reflect on lessons learned and take action—at least one next, right step—to begin making a change.”

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What to Expect When You Stop Drinking

If you’ve become dependent on alcohol, cutting it out of your life may produce withdrawal symptoms, such as a rapid heartbeat, high blood pressure, sweating and shaking. Psychological symptoms can include irritability, anxiety and restlessness. Talk to your doctor if you experience these symptoms.

When to Seek Help

If you’re unable to cut back on your own despite your best efforts, if you get frequent hangovers or if you’ve had a DUI, then it’s time to seek help from a therapist or consider going to an AA meeting, says Crews. Other options include SMART Recovery, Recovery Dharma and the 24/7 helpline provided by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, which can connect you to an appropriate treatment for you. Just call 1-800-662-HELP (4357).

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THINGS TO AVOID IF YOU REALLY WANT TO LIVE LONGER IN THIS LIFE.

🌹 Avoid sharing the same plate of food with your former enemy who later becomes your close friend, because you don't know what thier next plan is.

🌹Avoid lending your friend money,except such friend is well trusted bcus many have died because they lend money, thier friend will go to places to eliminate them so they won't pay the money..

🌹 keep away from a married woman as a man and also a man as a woman.

🌹 is not every good thing coming your way u need to announce cos many has evil heart and can stop it or eliminate you..

🌹 avoid betraying someone no matter how much is involved..

🌹not everyone is happy that you are alive so
don't eat with everyone..

🌹 not everyone should know your way about bcus you can easily be trapped by your enemies

🌹 avoid keeping a jealous friend, any friend you know that they like competing with u is jealous.. avoid them.

REMAIN BLESSED

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11. Canned Products
Canned food tends to contain really high levels of salt and/or sugar, but that’s not the main reason it is bad for you. It’s actually the cans that contain the food.
They are often lined with the dangerous chemical BPA , which is a known hormone disrupter that has also been linked to cancer. BPA will leech into whatever food comes in contact with it, especially things that are naturally acidic, such as tomatoes.
Eat your produce fresh or frozen instead, or only buy canned products that are labeled as BPA-free.

A mathematical theory says the perfect age to get married is 26 — here's why
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If you're in your early 20s and Valentine's Day has you thinking about your romantic future, consider the 37% Rule.
According to journalist Brian Christian and cognitive scientist Tom Griffiths, coauthors of " Algorithms to Live By: The Computer Science of Human Decisions," that rule could help you save time looking for a spouse.
The 37% Rule basically says that when you need to screen a range of options in a limited amount of time — be they candidates for a job, new apartments, or potential romantic partners — the best time to make a decision is when you've looked at 37% of those options.
At that point in a selection process, you'll have gathered enough information to make an informed decision, but you won't have wasted too much time looking at more options than necessary. At the 37% mark, you're in a good place to pick the best of the bunch.
A common thought experiment to demonstrate this theory — developed by non-PC math guys in the 1960s — is called "The Secretary Problem."
In the hypothetical scenario, you can only screen secretaries once. If you reject a candidate, you can't go back and hire them later (since they might have accepted another job). The question is: How deep into the pool of applicants do you go to maximize your chance of finding the best one?
If you interview just three applicants, the authors explain, your best bet is making a decision based on the strength of the second candidate. If she's better than the first, you hire her. If she's not, you wait. If you have five applicants, you wait until the third to start judging.
So if you're looking for love between the ages of 18 and 40, the optimal age to start seriously considering your future husband or wife is just past your 26th birthday (37% into the 22-year span). Before then, you'll probably miss out on higher-quality partners that could still come around, but after that,