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*Be aware: When a woman Stops Talking, She Has Already Stopped Hoping*

‎Naturally women are emotional communicators. When a woman still talks, nags, explains, or even quarrels, it means she still believes that things can work out,could be marriage or relationship,, she still thinks it is worth fighting for. Noise is not the enemy of marriage, EMOTIONAL WITHDRAW IS!
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‎The dangerous stage is not when she is angry.
‎The dangerous stage is when she is quiet.
‎Her silence means:
‎She has spoken before and was not heard.
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She has cried before and was dismissed.
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‎She has tried explaining and felt foolish for doing so.
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‎She has given feedback and was labeled “too sensitive,” “dramatic,” or “disrespectful.”
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‎So she stops talking, not because the pain is gone, but because hope is gone.
‎Silence Is the Final Language of a Wounded Woman
‎A silent woman still cooks.
‎She still takes care of the children.
‎She still attends church.
‎She still smiles in public.
‎But inwardly, she has locked her heart away from the man she once trusted with it.
‎This is the most dangerous season because:
‎Correction no longer moves her.
‎Apologies no longer excite her.
‎Promises no longer impress her.
‎Change now feels “too late.”

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And when peace loactes you, don't forget to lock the doors that brought you pain!!

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The wrong man in your life will teach you that you can do it all by yourself‼️

The right man will know you can, but will not let you.
He will stand by your side, share the load and assist you in thriving together.

Because in a true partnership, strength is found in unity, not isolation. And it's a real a man's job to set the tone in a relationship. This is why showing up for her and being consistent is so important.

She can't feel safe with you if you're not leading properly... Highlights

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Dearest gentle reader

Never fight with another girl over a man

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Some men aren't for you.

They don't want to love you properly at all, but at the same time they don't want to let you go.
The more you give to them, the less they unfortunately appreciate, and the minute you've had enough and decide to walk away is when they are ready to love you and treat you right.
So you decide to give them a chance in the hopes they've changed only to realize they only changed for a very short period of time.
You finally find the strength to walk away and here he comes again, proclaiming his love for you.
What a lot of people don't understand is that if a man shows anger and persistence to get you back once you try to break it off isn't proof of love at all.
A man trying to flatter you or making weak attempts to be "nicer" for a couple weeks isn't proof that he's trying, its proof that he knows you well enough to know how to defuse you long enough to hook you once again.
Lets put it this way....
If you take a childs toy away from them, the child begins to cry.
Same goes for the relationship... If you take away a relationship of convenience, a man begins to cry. Just because he cries doesn't mean you give him what he wants.
Stop listening to what your man keeps promising you and start watching what his actions keep telling you.
A lot of women don't know what its like to be loved by a real man.
You know lust, you know joy, you know passion and you know the fear of abandonment.
Stop chasing your idea of what love should be and recognize what love actually is.
Love isn't promising to act right after he gets caught screwing up time and time again.
Love is him acting right from the very beginning because he doesn't want to lose you because he knows how truly special you are.
Love isn't telling your grown man he needs to change so he can keep you, love is a grown man changing on his own because he cant imagine life without you.
So take my advice and choose to be loved properly and always no matter what..... remember your worth.

Happy women's day

Many men make the mistake of thinking that women think like them.

Please take note of this:

A woman is wired differently. Yes, a woman knows that you love her, but just because you told her two days ago doesn't mean that she doesn't want to hear it again today.

Most women want to hear "I love you" every day as a daily assurance that you keep choosing to love her everyday. No, it's not being insecure, it's just the way she is wired by the Creator.

Pls Men let's tolerate this it's natural🙏🙏

3 things men can’t tolerate

Bunch of stuff that annoy men… include yet not limited to.... Being a backseat driver. Comparing him with other men. Contradicting him in front of other people. Criticizing his dreams. Always asking him how you look. Claiming you are not hungry, then eating off his plate. Leaving your clothes everywhere. Filling the bed with a mountain of pillows. Hiding the remote. Spending beyond the budget. Taking too long to get ready. Then you dress like a call girl. But men can handle all that crap. Except three things that break the strongest marriage
1.CONTROL If you want to command your man around like a little boy, you won’t go far. Men love leading their families. Men hate feeling helpless. When a man feels he has totally lost it to a controlling woman, he’ll either become completely passive or walk out of their marriage.
2. SEXLESS MARRIAGE. Men NEED s*x. Hate it, ignore it or be indifferent at the peril of your marriage. Most men are shy on this subject and don’t like admitting this need publicly. But eventually, a s*xless marriage collapses. No matter your struggles in marriage, don’t manipulate your man s*xually.

3.CHEATING WOMAN. For both genders, extra marital affair is the highest form of betrayal. But for men, his wife cheating is like a death sentence. Men feel like you surrendered your life to the man you slept with. So severe is cheating that a man feels judged as useless, incapable, invaluable and undeserving.

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FIND SOMEONE READY TO SUPPORT AND SEE YOU GROW..

Find a partner who will genuinely support your vision, push you to fulfill your dreams and push you into naturing your Gift.

When you are able to support each other's visions and push each other into pursuing your dreams, you become each other's biggest pillar.

As you seek to find such a partner,, also strive to be supportive and naturing as this must not be single sided

Once you find something your partner is great at...support them, speak there dream/vision into existence, pray with them and continuously support them all the way.

marry someone that is willing to see you GROW genuinely!.

For There’s nothing more frustrating than getting married or being with someone that doesn’t BELIEVE in you,choose wisely!

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IMPORTANT THINGS TO REMEMBER WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED OR IN SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP..

√ don't ever assume that your partner feels loved.
√ Date nights are a must ,it doesn't matter if you go out or stay in.
√ Talking openly about what you want to change in a relationship is important.
√ Learn each other's love language .
√ We all don't perceive love the same way
√ Go to bed without a resolution sometimes, because sleeping on it does help.
√ When you get into a fight, do not just say "am sorry" say what you are sorry for and how you will react differently next Time
√ It will get boring sometimes , every couple goes through the boring "stage" ,it's normal, it will fade but this is the Time in your relationship you will need to put more effort .
√ It's ok to check on each other's mental health
√ It's ok to talk about finances

It's ok to ask questions like...
What do you need to see more of from me?
How can we understand each other better?

Most importantly!!

Be kind to each other
Love each other
Fight for each other
And remember that love is never easy but it's the most beautiful ❤️❤️

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Happy 35th birthday my parents dota.., new age, new grace. Forever loved. Enjoy your day. Chibuye R Bana Pelekamoyo

DO NOT TRY TO IMPRESS HIS OR HER PARENTS BY ALL MEANS.

Be yourself.
Remain yourself.

If they don't call your name in the conversation remain cool and mind your business.

If they don't call you to the kitchen keep your cool and mind your business.

Best you can do is to simply ask if you can help.

Many of these things are often misinterpreted as desperation by our inlaws.

Keep a good countenance, let your expression be accessible, such that one can nicely ask you to come hold the door or set the table.

Let your partner be your driver in that house. He or she should be signalling you on what to do and where to come in. Don't jump into places you are not called.

I repeat, let your language be "can I help with anything?" "How can I help?"

Then keep your cool.

Every model family knows you are a guest, and should treat you as such.

if my inlaw is sweeping the house should I collect the broom? Yes! If your mother was sweeping do you cross your legs?

Offer to help, and let her decision be final.

If she says yes then good. If she insist on doing it herself it's also good, but don't feel comfortable going back to the movie you were watching, just keep an eye on her sweeping and help with moving the table, etc.

Some of you even ,your minds, you will carry your legs up for your mother inlaw to sweep under. fear God!!!

Men!!! Don't go to your inlaws the first time and start showing off your have money.

Everything you want to order, you want to pay, you want to give.

Relax, they don't behave like that.

Some parents might not see your good heart, that's if it's good and you're not just trying to show up to impress.

Some parents will misinterprete it to be mocking their family.

Imagine you giving them money to buy vegetables when you just overhead someone saying there is no vegetable.That's disrespectful to their family.

Nobody sent you to go there and buy them veggies. If it's your 4th time we can understand, you are a part of the family now, not on your first few visits.

Don't go splashing money! I warn you now! Before they turn you to BOZ