The Divorce Chick Tribe

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐋𝐚𝐰 𝐅𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞: 𝐓𝐚𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐠𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐋𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐥 𝐉𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐲...⁣💪
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Addressing this topic has been on my mind for quite some time💭 Many individuals often express sentiments like:⁣
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"𝘐'𝘮 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘢𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴; 𝘯𝘰 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘴𝘵 𝘮𝘦."⁣
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"𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘦𝘨𝘢𝘭 𝘴𝘺𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘮 𝘪𝘴 𝘶𝘯𝘧𝘢𝘪𝘳."⁣
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➡️ Yes, it's true that the legal landscape can be unjust at times – more frequently than I'd prefer. But hey, let's not just become hermits in a hermit crab race🦀 – that won't get us anywhere. Here’s the thing: The law tends to align with those who take charge of their situation.⁣
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"𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯'𝘵 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘴𝘪𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘢𝘪𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘨𝘰𝘭𝘥𝘦𝘯 𝘥𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘮. 𝘠𝘰𝘶'𝘷𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘪𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘦𝘯 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧." - Diana Ross⁣
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⚖️ If you only contacted one attorney and their fees are too high, or they say that they can’t help you for whatever reason, contact the 1000 other attorneys who may be in your budget and able to assist!⁣

⚖️ If you really can’t afford legal help, contact legal aid to see if you qualify for their help or ask attorneys in your area if they are willing to assist you on a payment plan.⁣
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⚖️ If your ex is not paying maintenance, it does not help being angry at them and rolling your eyes. Do your research - see what your options are to get them to pay.⁣
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Let’s take our lives and our destiny into our own hands👐
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Happy Tuesday🌟

𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐀𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝟏𝟎𝟏.⁣
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Parental Alienation is the manipulation of a child into instilling unwarranted fear, disrespect or hatred towards a parent and/or other family members. Parental Alienation can be purposeful or subconsciously. ⁣
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➡️➡️𝐒𝗪𝐈𝐏𝐄 𝐓𝐎 𝐒𝐄𝐄 𝐄𝐗𝐀𝐌𝐏𝐋𝐄𝐒 𝐎𝐅 𝐏𝐎𝐒𝐒𝐈𝐁𝐋𝐄 𝐀𝐂𝐓𝐒 𝐎𝐅 𝐀𝐋𝐈𝐄𝐍𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍➡️➡️⁣
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Parental Alienation not only affects the alienated parent, but also the child, who cannot build or maintain a healthy relationship with the other parent. We hope that Parental Alienation will soon be a crime in South Africa.⁣
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✨ 𝐏.𝐒. 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐯𝐢𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐦 𝐨𝐟 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧? 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐜𝐭 𝐮𝐬 𝐭𝐨𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐚 𝐋𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐥 𝐄𝐚𝐬𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧! 𝐢𝐧𝐟𝐨@𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐯𝐨𝐫𝐜𝐞𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐜𝐤.𝐜𝐨.𝐳𝐚 ✨⁣
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All Our Love,⁣
The Divorce Chick™ Tribe.⁣
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𝗪𝐡𝐨 𝐈𝐬 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐅𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐀𝐝𝐯𝐨𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐞❓⁣⁣
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You may have heard about the Family Advocate when you or someone close to you were going through a divorce. But do you know who the Family Advocate is and what their duties are in your divorce❓⁣⁣
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👉 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝 𝐟𝐮𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫!⁣⁣
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The Family Advocate is a legal officer employed by the Department of Justice and acts as legal representative of the children.⁣⁣
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The Family Advocate’s Offices May Be Consulted In The Case That:⁣⁣
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➡️ There’s a dispute regarding contact or care of a child.⁣⁣
➡️ A parent wants to draft a parental rights and responsibilities agreement or register it.⁣⁣
➡️ A parent wants to amend or terminate parental rights and responsibilities agreements registered with the Family Advocate.⁣⁣
➡️ There is a dispute on whether the unmarried father of the child has satisfied the requirements which makes him entitled to get full parental rights and responsibilities in terms of the Children’s Act.⁣⁣
➡️ The Court also orders that the Family Advocate has to conduct an inquiry as to what is in the best interest of the child.⁣⁣
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The services of the Family Advocate are rendered to the public free of charge, so if you are asked to pay for something, think twice, you may be the victim of a scam! However, keep in mind that parents may need to pay for additional expert reports, like psychological evaluation, and other forensic tests where those are vital to determining the child’s best interests.⁣⁣
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✨𝐏.𝐒. 𝐃𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐥𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐥 𝐪𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐭𝐨? 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐜𝐭 𝐮𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐋𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐥 𝐄𝐚𝐬𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐒𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐧𝐟𝐨@𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐯𝐨𝐫𝐜𝐞𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐜𝐤.𝐜𝐨.𝐳𝐚 ✨⁣⁣
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“𝐃𝐢𝐯𝐨𝐫𝐜𝐞 𝐈𝐬 𝐀𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐁𝐚𝐝 𝐅𝐨𝐫 𝐂𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐫𝐞𝐧.”⁣
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We get so angry when people judge those who decided on divorce and tell them how big of an injustice they are committing against their children.⁣
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*𝐌𝐀𝐒𝐒𝐈𝐕𝐄 𝐒𝐈𝐆𝐇* ⁣
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👉 Several studies worldwide confirm that fighting and constant bickering in front of your children causes more damage than divorce ever will.⁣
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In fact, children exposed to constant bickering between their parents are more likely to be depressed, and exhibiting problematic behaviour like aggression and substance abuse.⁣
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Of course, divorce is a very personal decision and only you can make it. So, if you decide to stay in an unhappy marriage, make sure that you don’t expose your children to your fighting with your ex ❗⁣
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✨𝐏.𝐒. 𝐍𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐝𝐢𝐯𝐨𝐫𝐜𝐞? 𝐎𝐮𝐫 𝐋𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐥 𝐄𝐚𝐬𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐒𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐦𝐚𝐲 𝐛𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐄𝐦𝐚𝐢𝐥 𝐮𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐧𝐟𝐨@𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐯𝐨𝐫𝐜𝐞𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐜𝐤.𝐜𝐨.𝐳𝐚 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 ♥ ✨⁣
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The Divorce Chick™ Tribe.

Take note of this.

In the realm of family law, misconceptions often cloud understanding and can lead to horrible mistakes. Let's debunk 3 more Family Law misconceptions that some South African have! 👇👇👇⁣
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🌟 If you missed Part 1, have a look at it first. ⁣
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1️⃣ 𝐈𝐟 𝐈 𝐋𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝗪𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐅𝐨𝐫 𝟓+ 𝐘𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬, 𝗪𝐞 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐨𝐧 𝐋𝐚𝐰 𝐒𝐩𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐬. ⁣
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Unlike many people think, common law marriages are not legally binding in South Africa. You can live with someone for 20+ years, if you don't physically get married, you will not be treated as spouses. ⁣
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If you don't want to marry someone (for whatever reason ) but decide to live with them, I suggest that you enter into a cohabitation agreement. ⁣
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2️⃣ 𝐌𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐎𝐮𝐭 𝐃𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐌𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐚𝐠𝐞.⁣
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Moving out of the marital home or giving back your wedding ring does not automatically dissolve the marriage. If you don't have a divorce decree, you are still married. ⁣
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3️⃣ 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐌𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝗪𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐀𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐆𝐞𝐭 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐫𝐞𝐧. ⁣
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Not true! The court will look at what is in the best interest of the child when deciding where the child should live. Sometimes, both parents will have shared primary residence, other times the children will live with the mom OR dad and see the other parents regularly. However, there is no rule stating that children should always live with their mom primarily. ⁣
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𝐇𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐄𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐝 𝐀𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐮𝐦𝐚 𝐁𝐨𝐧𝐝𝐬❓⁣⁣
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Have you ever felt like you are addicted to your abuser or like you can’t let them go❓⁣⁣
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This may sound ludacris but it is unfortunately, what a trauma bond is ❗⁣⁣
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When your partner/parent/friend goes back and forth between being nice and being abusive or rejecting, it causes you to become bonded to this person…⁣⁣
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👉 This is why it is difficult to leave an abusive relationship. ⁣⁣
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If this is something that you think you are a victim of, this post is your sign to do more research on trauma bonds and to consider getting professional help to break out of it.⁣⁣
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𝐏.𝐒. 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞. 𝐉𝐨𝐢𝐧 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐝𝐢𝐯𝐨𝐫𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐡𝐮𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐬 ♥ ✨⁣⁣

https://www.facebook.com/groups/5741386195881353
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𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝗪𝐡𝐲 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐒𝐩𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐓𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐓𝐨 𝐃𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐲 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐃𝐢𝐯𝐨𝐫𝐜𝐞.⁣
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👉 Your spouse (𝘰𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶) might try to delay the divorce by abusing the discovery process, purposefully changing attorneys constantly, purposefully being difficult and not accepting any settlement offers, or in many other ways.⁣
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People delay divorces, not realising that in this case, time is money, and the longer you take to settle in your divorce, the more money it will cost. ⁣
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➡️➡️𝐒𝗪𝐈𝐏𝐄 𝐓𝐎 𝐒𝐄𝐄 𝗪𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐓𝐇𝐄𝐒𝐄 𝐑𝐄𝐀𝐒𝐎𝐍𝐒 𝐌𝐀𝐘 𝐁𝐄➡️➡️⁣
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If you suspect that your ex is delaying the divorce for any of these reasons, share your suspicions with your attorney. If you are the person delaying the divorce, you might want to reflect on why you are doing it and if the lemon is worth the squeeze. ⁣
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𝐏.𝐒. 𝐅𝐨𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐮𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐓𝐢𝐤𝐓𝐨𝐤. ✨⁣
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𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐢𝐧 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐢𝐨.⁣
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𝐈𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐑𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐅𝐨𝐫 𝐃𝐢𝐯𝐨𝐫𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐈𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐝𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐬♥

1️⃣ 𝐇𝐞/𝐬𝐡𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐡𝐮𝐬𝐛𝐚𝐧𝐝/𝐰𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞, 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝’𝐬 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭.⁣
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➡Yes, you don’t have to be best friends with your ex, but it is also important to not let your children choose between you. It is also not advised to speak ill about your ex in front of your children- they are not your therapist. Rather confide in a friend or a therapist about your feelings towards your ex. ⁣
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⚡ We have heard many stories about people trying to cause their ex to lose his job for example to get revenge. This makes no sense to us. If your ex suffers, your children will also suffer! Think before you do something. 𝐀𝐋𝗪𝐀𝐘𝐒.⁣
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2️⃣ 𝐍𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥.⁣
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Elizabeth Gilbert once said that “𝘛𝘦𝘳𝘳𝘰𝘳 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘧𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘣𝘭𝘦.” We agree fully with this statement.⁣
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🌟 It is very easy for someone going through divorce to, in the spur of the moment, quit their jobs in an attempt to avoid paying spousal or child maintenance. So, before you make 𝐀𝐍𝐘 decision, take a deep breath and take at least 24 hours to think about it before you commit. ⁣
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3️⃣ 𝗪𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐮𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐝𝐢𝐯𝐨𝐫𝐜𝐞 (𝐨𝐫 𝐢𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐬𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐞, 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲) 𝐜𝐚𝐧’𝐭 𝐛𝐞 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐧 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤.⁣
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👉 Many people can remember times when someone said something very hurtful to them or about someone else, but when they tell the person who said the words, that person claims to remember 𝐍𝐎𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐍𝐆 about the encounter.⁣
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This just proves that even if you forget something that you said, the person that you said it to, will always remember it. Words are like bullets, they create damage that you can never fully take back. So, always think before you speak.⁣
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✨ 𝐏.𝐒. 𝐅𝐨𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐮𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐓𝐮𝐛𝐞.✨⁣
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