19/02/2026
The time I rage-quit a mom WhatsApp group...
I was a 1st time mom, deep in the trenches of 3am feeds, nap maths and Googling every single thing.
And then I joined my first mom WhatsApp group.
At first it felt comforting. A little digital village in the middle of a very overwhelming season.
But pretty quickly I noticed how triggered I felt by some of the conversations. Especially the constant talk about cry-it-out.
One day someone dropped a message into the group “warning” new moms not to rock their babies to sleep because it creates bad habits.
Normally I avoid conflict. But I couldn’t let it go.
We went back and forth and it escalated.
And eventually I did what can only be described as a mic-drop exit from the group, saying that new moms shouldn’t trust anyone who tells them to go against their instincts.
I left feeling shaky, but also very clear.
A few moms messaged me privately afterwards.
They said they agreed with me but were too scared to say anything in case they got attacked.
They said they’d miss my voice in the group because they’d found it helpful and thoughtful.
Meanwhile, the original sender kept messaging me privately trying to continue the debate… until I had to block her.
And all I could think was: those poor first-time moms. In the thick of postpartum anxiety. Trying to find their footing. And now being told to question the most natural instincts in the world.
I remember wanting to reach through my phone and say:
You can trust yourself.
You are a good enough mom.
That was the moment the seed was planted. If I ever created a space for moms, it would have to feel psychologically safe.
No provoking arguments.
No bullying.
No constant triggering.
Shared values.
Real conversation.
A place where you can ask questions, learn, and grow, without feeling like you have to constantly defend yourself.
That’s the heart of Brave Mamas.
A space for moms who want to parent with responsiveness, connection and self-trust.
A space where you don’t have to second-guess yourself every time you speak.
Doors are opening on Friday.
If you’ve been craving a safer, more supportive village… we’d love to have you.
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