Autistic Lynda

14/05/2026

13/05/2026

You can find Bible verses to justify almost any unkindness if you carefully avoid everything else that clearly shows how God's ways are good and kind, merciful, forgiving, accepting, generous, sincere, peaceful, gentle, healing, self-controlled, joyful, patient, loyal, pure, willing to yield to others, has zero favouritism, and is always loving. Yes, if you carefully ignore all of that, then you can find Bible verses to justify almost any unkindness.

If a Bible verse pushes you towards division, self-righteousness, anger, conflict, slander, favouritism, pride, abuse, impatience, hostility, dissension, judgement, being unkind and unChristlike, you are almost definitely not understanding it properly.

Some topics that Christians get very wound up about have unfortunately been mistranslated, misunderstood, mis-contextualized and are misused to justify cruelty, prejudice, judgement, rejection, wounding and unChristlikeness.

All of these things move you away from God, not towards Him. For example, rejecting someone pulls you further towards evil, not closer towards God. Telling an abused spouse they cannot divorce pulls you and them towards evil, not towards God. Judging someone pulls you towards evil, not towards God.

The point of all rules in the Bible were to get people away from evil - usually because the culture was condoning abuse. When a Bible verse seems to be pointing away from love, you can be pretty sure you are not understanding the original language and culture and context correctly. Christians get confused by this.

When getting away from evil and perceived evil becomes more important than getting closer to God and more Christlike, the entire point has been lost.

"Three things will last forever - faith, hope and love - and the greatest of these is love." 1 Corinthians 13:13

"One of the teachers of religious law was standing there listening to the debate. He realised that Jesus had answered well, so he asked, "Of all the commandments, which is the most important?"
Jesus replied, "The most important commandment is this: 'Listen, Of Israel! The Lord our God is the one and only Lord. And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.' The second is equally important: 'Love your neighbour as yourself." No other commandment is greater than these." Mark 12:28-31

You can study the original language yourself, sites like BibleHub provide easy access to study the original languages the Bible was written in and to work through verses word for word in the original language. I highly encourage you to do this prayerfully and sincerely because the original language is not saying what so many Christians have latched onto. I assure you - God isn't like the majority of Christians!

James 3:13, 17 "If you are wise and understand God's ways, prove it by living an honourable life, doing good works with the humility that comes from wisdom... But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and the fruit of good deeds. It shows no favouritism and is always sincere."

Author: Lynda Lee Wright

Lynda is a Christian nervous system coach. She is autistic and helps neurodivergent individuals and families. People say:

Lynda has helped me to...
* look at my life with love & realize I do have choices
* navigate our family dynamics
* understand my autistic husband & daughter
* get clarity in my life
* set better boundaries
* considerably improve my mental health.

What should you do next?

Honestly, pray about it. If you need help, Lynda's life coaching is a God-send for some people.

Ask God what you need to do, He might point you to Lynda, He might point you somewhere else. Because God knows exactly who you need in your life to help you. Listen to Him!

12/05/2026

The Bible, in its original language, isn't full of the topics Christian's often get wound up about. As the Bible has been translated its sometimes picked English words that really weren't in the original text. Some topics that Christians get very wound up about have unfortunately been mistranslated, misunderstood, mis-contextualized and are misused to justify cruelty, prejudice, judgement, rejection, wounding and unChristlikeness.

A good rule of thumb is... if you think a verse in the Bible is asking you to hurt another person, you can be pretty sure you are not understanding the original language and culture and context correctly.

Every single one of the things in the Bible that we're told not to do have a direct link to evil, not God. The point of all rules in the Bible is to get us closer to God and more Christlike. If anything that you think is in the Bible is making you act unkind and unChristlike, you are almost definitely not understanding it properly. For example, rejecting someone pulls you further towards evil, not closer towards God. Telling an abused spouse they cannot divorce pulls you and them towards evil, not towards God. Judging someone pulls you towards evil, not towards God. The rules that are in the Bible are all to pull people away from evil - usually because the culture was condoning abuse. Rules are in the Bible, but as warnings of the outcomes of evil... to keep us away from evil, not to use to reject people or to push people back towards evil. When we use Bible verses to push ourselves and others towards division, abuse, slander, favouritism, conflict, pride, self-righteousness, impatience, hostility, anger, dissention and judgement then we're moving away from God, not towards Him.

"The sinful nature wants to do evil, which is just the opposite of what the Spirit wants. And the Spirit gives us desires that are the opposite of of what the sinful nature desires. These two forces are constantly fighting each other, so you are not free to carry out your good intentions." Galatians 5:17

The entire Bible is full of these contrasts because the Bible tells the story of both evil and the alternative. You can find Bible verses to justify almost any unkindness if you carefully avoid everything else that clearly shows how God's ways are good and kind, merciful, forgiving, accepting, generous, sincere, peaceful, gentle, healing, self-controlled, joyful, patient, loyal, pure, willing to yield to others, has zero favouritism, and is always loving. Yes, if you carefully ignore all of that, then you can find Bible verses to justify almost any unkindness.

"Three things will last forever - faith, hope and love - and the greatest of these is love." 1 Corinthians 13:13

"One of the teachers of religious law was standing there listening to the debate. He realised that Jesus had answered well, so he asked, "Of all the commandments, which is the most important?"
Jesus replied, "The most important commandment is this: 'Listen, Of Israel! The Lord our God is the one and only Lord. And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.' The second is equally important: 'Love your neighbour as yourself." No other commandment is greater than these." Mark 12:28-31

If you think the Bible condones male superiority - it doesn't, if you think the Bible condones Patriarchy - it doesn't, if you think the Bible condones any form of inferiority among humans - it doesn't, if you think the Bible condones exclusion - it doesn't, if you think the Bible condones any form of abuse - it doesn't, if you think the Bible wants people to stay in situations that are dangerous - it doesn't, if you think the Bible condones favouritism - it doesn't, if you think the Bible condones hatred or rejection of certain people - it doesn't, and on and on and on.

You can study the original language yourself, sites like BibleHub provide easy access to study the original languages the Bible was written in and to work through verses word for word in the original language. I highly encourage you to do this prayerfully and sincerely because the original language is not saying what so many Christians have latched onto. I assure you - God isn't like the majority of Christians!

James 3:13, 17 "If you are wise and understand God's ways, prove it by living an honourable life, doing good works with the humility that comes from wisdom... But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and the fruit of good deeds. It shows no favouritism and is always sincere."

Author: Lynda Lee Wright

Lynda is a Christian nervous system coach. She is autistic and helps neurodivergent individuals and families. People say:

Lynda has helped me to...
* look at my life with love & realize I do have choices
* navigate our family dynamics
* understand my autistic husband & daughter
* get clarity in my life
* set better boundaries
* considerably improve my mental health.

What should you do next?

Honestly, pray about it. For some people Lynda is a God-send.

14/03/2026

The autonomic nervous system (ANS) is a control system that acts largely unconsciously and regulates bodily functions, such as the heart rate, digestion, respiratory rate, pupillary response, urination, and sexual arousal. The fight-or-flight response, also known as the acute stress response, is set into action by the autonomic nervous system.

Overall, the ANS ensures the maintenance of vital functions and allows the body to effectively adapt to cycles of stress and recovery.

Our bodies are made up of numerous different systems, but each system can affect or strain other systems. This is why the accumulated effect of making many very small tweaks in our life, can over time actually produce a much calmer nervous system.

The autonomic nervous system works without us having to consciously think about it (it reacts subconsciously). However, our nervous system also learns how to respond over time. When a person repeatedly experiences safety (emotionally, socially and physically), predictable routines, supportive relationships, and regular periods of recovery time (long enough and often enough for what our body uniquely needs), the body’s stress systems gradually become better regulated.

Over time, these repeated experiences can reshape automatic stress responses (subconscious stress responses) and improve autonomic nervous system balance.

In other words, we can train our nervous system to be calmer over time.

Even for people, like myself, who have chronic illness, chronic pain and a history of trauma.

This isn't fast or formulaic. I can't sell you a step-by-step guide. However, I can help you to gradually tweak and adjust your life and behaviour over time to help your nervous system to learn to be calmer.

What do people say about getting this long-term help from me?

"Lynda's insight has really helped me to understand my husband and daughter, who are autistic, and their daily challenges. She has been a really wonderful support to my husband and I, both individually and as a couple, and also helped us navigate our family dynamics"

"Lynda helped me to look at my life with love and to realize that I do have choices."

"Working with Lynda has helped me to set better boundaries in my relationships. This has considerably improved my mental health."

"Lynda guides with love and patience so I can see things with clarity.”

What should you do next?

Honestly, pray about it. For some people I am a God-send.

When you're ready to get help for your own nervous system I'd love to help you do a nervous system audit to see how high your Allostatic Load is.

Many small demands on our nervous systems create a cumulative burden known in physiology as Allostatic Load (McEwen, 1998).

One Allostatic Load audit session costs R390. Sessions are available Mon-Fri at these times — 11h00-12h00, 13h00-14h00 or 15h00-16h00. Ask for an Allostatic Load audit session via WhatsApp.
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🧐 Lynda Wright is herself autistic with a very high allostatic load due to multiple chronic diseases, autism and a history of trauma. She knows what she's talking about because she uses her own advice on herself.

She lives and works in Plumstead, Cape Town.

p.s. duckling 🐣 is just for cuteness

13/03/2026

Many small demands on our nervous systems create a cumulative burden known in physiology as Allostatic Load (McEwen, 1998).

Research indicates that autistic adults are four times more likely to experience chronic stress and high allostatic load compared to neurotypical peers ( Caitlyn Mahony et al. 2022).

A high allostatic load, without regular recovery and enough recovery, leads to exhaustion and eventually a shutdown to desperately try to prevent a complete nervous system crash (which can cause many additional problems).

At first you might just feel tired.
Then you might start feeling numb, overwhelmed, or unable to cope.

This often surprises people.

Sometimes things have been going well for a while, so it feels like you’re finally doing “better.” You might start taking on more, doing more, pushing yourself again.

But what was actually happening was this:

Your nervous system was coping because life around you was calmer or safer for a while.

Maybe:

* people were more understanding
* there was less pressure
* you had more rest
* you felt emotionally supported
* or there was simply less chaos around you

When those helpful conditions disappear (or were never really stable to begin with), the stress can build again and lead to another crash.

And eventually the body runs out of capacity, but a better way CAN be learnt over time.

The nervous system doesn’t just need short breaks (as useful as nervous system hacks can be, and they can).

The nervous system needs long-term stability. It needs consistent stability in everyday life so it can truly recover, and REMAIN well.

You might say true nervous system wellbeing is a habit that even those prone to nervous system crashes CAN learn.

Research on stress physiology and neuroplasticity shows that the nervous system adapts to repeated experiences.

When a person repeatedly experiences safety, predictable routines, supportive relationships, and regular periods of recovery, the body’s stress systems gradually become better regulated.

Over time, these repeated experiences can reshape automatic stress responses and improve autonomic nervous system balance.

Yes — this does have support in research, but it’s usually described using slightly different terms such as:

* autonomic regulation
* neuroplasticity
* stress recovery
* social buffering
* predictability and safety in the environment.

A Few References:

* McEwen, B. S. (1998).
* Hostinar, C. E., Sullivan, R. M., & Gunnar, M. R. (2014).
* Davidson, R. J., & McEwen, B. S. (2012).

What does all of this mean? It means that patterns of stress or calm can become learned, and the autonomic nervous system gradually adjusts to what it experiences most often.

I help you to gradually help your nervous system adjust. This isn't fast, but it is effective and worth the effort.

When you're ready to get help for your own nervous system I'd love to help you do a nervous system audit to see how high your Allostatic Load is.

One Allostatic Load audit session costs R390. Sessions are available Mon-Fri at these times — 11h00-12h00, 13h00-14h00 or 15h00-16h00. Ask for an Allostatic Load audit session via WhatsApp.
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🧐 Lynda Wright is herself autistic with a very high allostatic load due to multiple chronic diseases. She knows what she's talking about because she uses her own advice on herself.

She lives and works in Plumstead, Cape Town.

People say: "Lynda guides with love and patience so I can see things with clarity.”

p.s. penguin 🐧 is just for cuteness

11/03/2026

Nervous systems rarely crash because of one big problem.

They are much more likely to crash because of many small demands accumulating:

* constant stress or non-stop demands
* unpredictability
* too much noise or lights or just too many layers of noise
* constant activity happening around you
* conflict, unresolved issues or unfinished things (they continue to take mental load)
* no recovery times or no way to escape to quiet and alone time (especially for autistic people)
* the mental load of knowing something is going to happen, but not knowing when
* too much anticipation or waiting or change
* too many choices to process

And so many other things could be added to this list.

Many small demands create a cumulative burden known in physiology as Allostatic Load (McEwen, 1998).

Allostatic Load, without regular recovery and enough recovery, leads to exhaustion, shutdown and eventually a complete nervous system crash (which can cause many additional problems).

This often happens because we've been doing well and it feels like we can take on more or keep going. When we're doing well, it's so easy to even think that maybe the problem is gone.

But what's actually happening is this:

Our nervous system was coping because our environment was supportive.

If the supportive environment disappears (or was never there), the stress can build again and lead to another crash.

The nervous system needs long-term stability.

If a person repeatedly experiences:

* safety
* predictable routines
* supportive relationships
* periods of calm and recovery

the nervous system learns that the environment is generally safe, and the automatic nervous system becomes more balanced.

Over months and years, the automatic responses begin to change.

Research:
Draganski et al. (2004) showed that repeated experiences can physically change brain structure, demonstrating neuroplasticity in adults.

The stress system adapts to what it experiences most often.

The body’s main stress pathway is called the Hypothalamic–Pituitary–Adrenal Axis (HPA).

This system controls the release of stress hormones like cortisol.

When stress is frequent, the HPA axis becomes more sensitive, meaning:

* stress hormones release more easily
* the body takes longer to calm down
* the baseline level of stress hormones may rise

But when the nervous system regularly experiences calm states, the HPA axis gradually becomes less reactive.

Research shows that chronic stress can change how this system functions over time. (McEwen, 2007)

Or to put it another way — we can learn stress or calm!

Over time, the nervous system can change how it reacts to stress and safety. Scientists call this ability Neuroplasticity — the brain and nervous system can reorganize themselves based on repeated experiences.

This means that patterns of stress or calm can become learned, and the automatic nervous system gradually adjusts to what it experiences most often.

I help you to gradually help your nervous system adjust. This isn't fast, but it is effective and worth the effort.

When you're ready to get help for your own nervous system I'd love to help you do a nervous system audit to see how high your Allostatic Load is.

One Allostatic Load audit session costs R390. Sessions are available Mon-Fri at these times — 11h00-12h00, 13h00-14h00 or 15h00-16h00. Ask for an Allostatic Load audit session via WhatsApp.

p.s. the squirrel is just for cuteness — it does remind me a bit about how it feels when we're desperately trying to hang on!

10/03/2026

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08/03/2026

It sucks when you can't "just keep pushing yourself" to do the thing or keep going. Not because it's too hard but simply because your nervous system "just can't."

This isn't laziness or a lack of motivation. This is a nervous system that needs more looking after.

There are many people who need to look after their nervous systems more — for example, people with:

Multiple chronic illnesses
Chronic pain
Chronic fatigue
Autistic people
Highly sensitive people

To name just a few.

If some or all of this describes you, it's important to acknowledge that for folks like us, we can't always "just keep pushing ourselves." If we do, we often end up with a nervous system that either has crashed or is desperately trying not to crash.

For most of my life I didn't know this and my nervous system crashes fairly on schedule about every 3 years.

Maybe your nervous system has had similar struggles?

But, here's the thing — we can learn to avoid the complete nervous system crashes!

Nervous systems rarely crash because of one big problem.

They are much more likely to crash because of many small demands accumulating:

* constant stress or non-stop demands
* unpredictability
* too much noise or lights or just too many layers of noise
* constant activity happening around you
* conflict, unresolved issues or unfinished things (they continue to take mental load)
* no recovery times or no way to escape to quiet and alone time (especially for autistic people)
* the mental load of knowing something is going to happen, but not knowing when
* too much anticipation or waiting or change
* too many choices to process

And so many other things could be added to this list.

Many small demands create a cumulative burden known in physiology as Allostatic Load (McEwen, 1998).

Allostatic Load, without regular recovery and enough recovery, leads to exhaustion, shutdown and eventually a complete nervous system crash (which can cause many additional problems).

This often happens because we've been doing well and it feels like we can take on more or keep going. When we're doing well, it's so easy to even think that maybe the problem is gone.

But what's actually happening is this:

Our nervous system was coping because our environment was supportive.

If the supportive environment disappears (or was never there), the stress can build again and lead to another crash.

The nervous system needs long-term stability.

If a person repeatedly experiences:

* safety
* predictable routines
* supportive relationships
* periods of calm and recovery

the nervous system learns that the environment is generally safe, and the automatic nervous system becomes more balanced.

Over months and years, the automatic responses begin to change.

Research:
Draganski et al. (2004) showed that repeated experiences can physically change brain structure, demonstrating neuroplasticity in adults.

The stress system adapts to what it experiences most often.

The body’s main stress pathway is called the Hypothalamic–Pituitary–Adrenal Axis (HPA).

This system controls the release of stress hormones like cortisol.

When stress is frequent, the HPA axis becomes more sensitive, meaning:

* stress hormones release more easily
* the body takes longer to calm down
* the baseline level of stress hormones may rise

But when the nervous system regularly experiences calm states, the HPA axis gradually becomes less reactive.

Research shows that chronic stress can change how this system functions over time. (McEwen, 2007)

Or to put it another way — we can learn stress or calm!

Over time, the nervous system can change how it reacts to stress and safety. Scientists call this ability Neuroplasticity — the brain and nervous system can reorganize themselves based on repeated experiences.

This means that patterns of stress or calm can become learned, and the automatic nervous system gradually adjusts to what it experiences most often.

I help with this long-term nervous system training and habits (not short-term "fixes," but long-term gradually helping the nervous system to adjust).

When you're ready to get help for your own nervous system I'd love to help you do a nervous system audit to see how high your Allostatic Load is.

One Allostatic Load audit session costs R390. Sessions are available Mon-Fri at these times — 11h00-12h00, 13h00-14h00 or 15h00-16h00. Ask for an Allostatic Load audit session via WhatsApp.